why depression hurts even more....

[soyness]

Depression hurts people more because people avoid those who are depressed. That makes it depressing. I find that so not fair. Depressed people are the ones who needs so much more support. But instead, we feel like we are cut off from "society", even that of Christian. Some people in my church finds me "too quiet, too serious". I didn't really tell them that I was depressed or anything. Few of my close sisters do know. I'm Asian, mychurch is Asian, so depression is a taboo... in any Asian atmosphere. It's probably the least diagnosed in Asian society. I just know one other asian girl out of state who is depressed. But getting to the real point, I just feel like they "avoid" you, and that just makes me just feel weaker when I want strong moral support. It's harder because I came from a very legalistic/cultic kind of church where I lost trust of my "first Christian friends". But I do try make myself honest with people, not htat I "use" them. I'll be there when they are struggling and are with issues.

It's really painful to see, as I have observed that people avoid people with mental illness. they just do anything to get away from you, and they may not be conscious about it either. I just hate to see the trend that fun people like to be with one another and miserable people just stray away at an island.

I know that God understands and He's a loving God. I do have a somewhat developing relationship with Him. I once lost it, but i'm in the midst of finding it again.. my faith. But it's just disturbing to see that people avoid those who are just depressed, melancholy when we are in teh most need of peer support and phileo love.

I'm like what's up with that.

Thank God for His love. I don't think i'll make it without it.

 

[goldenviolet]

God is with you....... you are in my prayers. love dee

 

[beetlequeendiva]

i have noticed that alot of the time depression is a taboo subject - it annoys me as well. It's very much like if we ignore it it'll go away!!! I can't even give you any advice on how to deal with it - i'm sorry. God Bless xxx

 

[Godskid247]

I know what you mean!!! i HATE it when people who claim to be your friends run away from you.

Listen, all I can tell you is to TRUST IN GOD!!!

He's getting me out of depression and I've become a stronger Christian because of it.

God has an amazing plan for you!

 

[If Not For Grace]

The truth can sometimes be hard to swallow. The truth about depressed people is that they ARE depressing to be around.

Depression has alot to do with negative and self-pity THOUGHTS.

The way to comabt thoughts is with WORDS...

The brain has a hard time entertaining negative thoughts when the mouth SPEAKS positive WORDS. (SO SPEAK OUT LOUD)

Use affirmations, aroma therapy, meditation and ANYTHING else YOU LIKE.
(Remember what you USED to LIKE?)

In the past I have suffered (as most people do) from depression. I felt sorry for myself and let my brain gravitate toward the negative.
A few years ago I DECIDED to become an optimist (What did I have to lose?)

I now start each day with an affirmation (I keep them posted in stratgic places like near the bathroom mirror and on the fridge) "I am Blessed and Highly Favored" (one of my favorites).

I listen to upbeat music and keep scented oils throughout my home. I listen to inspirational tapes on the way to work. I made a list of people who had it worse than me (Death Row Inmates, Nursing Home Patients, Mentally Institutionalized, Homeless, etc.). I made a list of things I am thankful for:
(The ability to feed/clothe myself, my eyesight (it is weakening), my sense of hearing, mental capacity, family, etc,)

I'm also guilty of the sin you accuse me of. I avoid DEPRESSED people, because they bring me down. I try and find upbeat people Because they lift me up.

NoBODY wants to listen to your problems ALL DAY LONG....

Let it begin with me. ITS good to be alive. Every time you wish you were dead IMHO you slap every SOLDIER, POLICE OFFICER, and others not to MENTION JESUS in the face. Someone DIED FOR YOU, so Live....LIVE WELL, (you can). Don't have these people put their lives on the line for you for NOTHING.

 

[soyness]

yea, but, being happy takes a lot of effort, I'm trying to use my efforts.

 

[If Not For Grace]

USE EM OR LOSE EM....

(IT's worth it, you can do it) Smile and tell yourself "I'm a good person and I DESERVE to be happy" THen say I'will not give the devil the satisfaction of having this hour, this one is for the LORD WHO IS GOOD.

It sounds silly but humor me.. after all I am Blessed and Highly Favored..

 

[ConstanceB]

Hi there. My friends who have known me forever noticed a huge difference in me after being prescribed seratonin levelers. In fact, those who knew me before and after medication, including those who were against medication as treatment, say if ever there was a "poster child" for this stuff, it's me. All the self-help books, counseling (Christian and secular), affirmations, prayer and laying on of hands did little to help. I tested in the high percentiles, no matter the nature of the test; I was a humorist, published and sought for speaking engagements; and after a major unheaval in my life, I could no longer control my actions, much less my thoughts.

Do not misunderstand; I do not meant to be argumentative. Nonetheless, articulating "I had depression and I just handled it" is somewhat like saying "I had a baby and it didn't hurt that bad." Depression, like childbirth, is just one of those areas where every person differs in the degree of pain they experience and in their ability to deal with it on their own. cb

 

[mikeforjesus]

There is no excuse if we see one hurting and we dont help them then we are going to be guilty in the judgment. We are being selfish. God says to lay down our life for our friends and if u think talking to someone who is depressed will make you depressed will thats sort of laying down your life. Like Jesus who chose to be crucified by His own will but He was happy to do it though its painful coz He loves us.

I dont know if Aromatherapy is bad but I know if you go dwelve in the occultic theories of it its really dangerous: this is for my sisters dyanm and my depressed one. I recommend to read other posts of ppl who were depressed and read how some people got through theirs and christian articles.. and those who are still depressed but getting through it and finding joy. I u'se to be alot like u but I still dont know what to say. I will definitely pray for you and when you get improvements make sure to keep us updated ok sister?
I might post another post later but I rarely do unless I feel I have something really important to say. In the meantime never give up prayer, bible reading, confession and partaking of the LORDS body and blood. You can read some nice bible commentarys from here ccel.org -click on bible study .. sorry for being so random but thats how I am when im a bit agitated when I dont know what to say.

God Bless!

 

[mikeforjesus]

I wanna say that I still feel like that sometimes but not as much as before but the LORD always lifts me up somehow.

Glory be to God our Father!

 

[soyness]

Thanks for your concerns

 

[goldenviolet]

honey you got concern, love and prayers and friends and encouragement and a hug !!

 

[peace_ful_life2001]

Soyness, i completely understand how you feel.
I am experiencing similar situation as you.
I am getting quieter and quieter and I am depressed.
My group of friends didn't really care.
The quieter I get, the less they talk to me;
and the less they talk to me, the quieter I get.

and one good frd of mine said that it is probably one downturn of my life.
and i think maybe he's right.
In a way, I am kinda glad that I'm experiencing this (I know i'm crazy to think like this) but i know if i can live thru this downturn, i'll grow...both spiritually and mentally.

well, i am still battling and struggling w/ my depressed thoughts, but I know i've God to depend on. Always.

Let's be strong. I know it's hard, but remember God is with us.

May God Bless you.

by the way, today is my first day of joining the forum. So glad that i find this forum. Hello to you all!

 

[soyness]

WELCOME peaceforlife

hope you get encouraged!

 

[If Not For Grace]

"My group of friends didn't really care. "


AH!! But we are a new group of friends and WE do care. Welcome to the forum, people can be cruel. I wish they knew it was just as easy to be nice as to be mean.


Some people think they feel more superior when they put others down. Feel Sorry for them-they know not what they do..

 

[KittiK]

Depression is hard. There's no way around it. We suffer from low or non-existant self esteem. People consider us downers or party crashers. It's not easy. They don't seem to see that anything happy has to be a focused conscience decision for us. We see them as self absorbed or uncaring. Chances are that they just don't understand what's going on and have no clue how to help. They don't want to make it worse.

Some people see depressed people as weak, helpless and hopeless. They don't see that we already feel this way. We don't feel worthy. I have some hope though.....I have discovered through research and some really helpful friends....we are actually pretty STRONG! We can not only deal with the thoughts we have, the feelings we feel, and the outlook we suffer from...we function anyway. Despite it all, we breathe everyday, in and out. In and out.
We don't give up...even though we want to, so bad sometimes.
We fight. We fight for survival like the rest of them couldn't do. One little thing goes wrong in their life and they fall to peices....we face it everyday and forge ahead anyway.
No matter how you look at it...you're stronger than you think. you can do this, whether it looks like you can or not. There's strength in waking up and getting out of bed...it takes faith to post your life on a public forum....it takes love to face your life everyday and try and find a way to like it. Believe it or not....you're worth it. I know you are.
Even if you think you're losing the battle, it takes an immeasurable amount of strength to face it. Pat yourselves on the back!


~Kitti

 

[If Not For Grace]

"We don't give up...even though we want to, so bad sometimes.
We fight. We fight for survival like the rest of them couldn't do. One little thing goes wrong in their life and they fall to peices....we face it everyday and forge ahead anyway."



That's my Kinda SOMEBODY!!! Good Work.

 

[KittiK]

 

[If Not For Grace]

This is just for fun, NOI

Quotes from other threads on this site:


"I don't suffer from insanity. I enjoy every minute of it."


"If you thing you are in pain. Go and kick a cactus. At least you
won't be wrong. You will KNOW you are in pain."

"People often say motivation does not last. Well, neither does bathing, that's why we do it daily."

 

[Strong in Him]

I'm sorry you have been feeling so rough. I hope things feel a bit better soon. Clinical depression is an illness, just as much as something like measles. Not everyone understands this, or that, as much as you may want to, you cannot respond to a "pull yourself together" type message. Don't know what else to say. But have a few more of these