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Where does it say Lust is a sin?

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Obvious, each can study doctrine and come to a different conclusion. It's a wonder we only have a few thousand doctrines.

This is sometimes a struggle for me with understanding the whole sola scriptura doctrine. I think, overall, it's good that there are so many perspectives, because by sharing them we are each forced to reevaluate our understanding of truth, and through the process of reevaluation we come closer to understanding the Truth.

To oversimplify a bit, I see two equally destructive trends in the church today. One is to overemphasize sin and "truth" so that people who struggle with sin are made to feel perpetually guilty and shameful until (and this never happens) they finally conquer it. The problem with this extreme is that it leaves people feeling as though God's love for them is somehow conditional upon their ability to acheieve moral perfection. Consequently may believers in churches with such an emphasis are never able to experience the abundant love and grace of God, because they are so caught up in their fear of sinning and thereby "letting God down." Without knowing the facts, I would assume that the kid you knew that committed suicide because of his struggle with masturbation was likely a product of such a belief system.

The other extreme is to overemphasize "grace and mercy", and to minimize sin. Churches with such an emphasis rarely talk about sin, and will even vehemently argue that some things that the Bible labels as sin are not sinful and that sin should be determined almost entirely by the individual's own conscience, so long as a person's actions "don't harm anyone." IMO, this approach is primarily reactionary to the other camp's overemphasis on sin. The problem with this approach, imo, is that stifles spiritual growth by allowing each person to decide for themselves what their definition of truth is, so that the truth is always something that is comfortable for each individual. Such an approach avoids causing people to be uncomfortable. Unfortunately, genuine growth is usually a painful process. By refusing to approach issues that may be uncomfortable, we don't grow.

The better approach, i think, is to avoid both of these extremes and find a healthy understanding of both. Growing requires that we talk about sin, especially those sins that we are all guilty of. But, shame does not facilitate growth. Therefore, before we can really talk about sin, we first need to understand grace. If we don't understand God's unconditional love for each of us, then we have no business sorting through our skeletons. But, once we understand grace and unconditional love, we cannot ever grow into what God calls us to be by sitting back and being "comfortable." So, inevitably we will have to talk about sin. Not only that, if we accept what the Bible teaches, that we are all sinners, we will need to be willing to define sin in such a way that the discussion applies (notice the present tense, never past tense) to each of us. So, for example, if I don't struggle with homosexuality, it does me no good to work through whether it is sinful. But, if I struggle with lust, then this is something I need to work through, and if it is really a struggle for me, it is going to hurt to face the truth if the truth is that it is sinful. This pain, on the other hand, is only productive, if I deal with it in a way that is mindful and accepting of God's grace and unconditional love.

I hope this illustrates meaningfully how I try to view the topic of sin. I think many of the problems that you are concerned with are a result of an overemphasis on sin, but I don't think the correct approach is to do away with such talk altogether, but rather to ensure that our understanding of sin is accompanied by a proper understanding of grace. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts. God bless.
 
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Good post. I reached my conclusion because I think it's is the balanced biblical truth. I do understand what you are saying. I'm all for sexual morality that lines up with scripture. I have a problem whem men start adding to that and using sex, like fear, as a tool to control others.

The law of love is the defining principle, really the only one that we can use to define sin. Why, because it's constantly stated,, love fulfills all the law, not part, all. Love is action, we should all act on love as much as we can, but that is not the principle that fulfills all the law.. When the law of love is use in the bible, it is connected "to not harming others" This reason this meets all the law, is it's a constant action that all can do. It is a principle of life that walks with us every second.It should be the basis of how we approach every condition. It can work for everyone. Many may choose not do constant acts of love, some may do none, but all can choose not to harm others. The two walk hand in hand, but not harming others fulfills all the law. Just think if all society lived by this principle. This is not an extreme behavior to balance out legalism. It is a command from God on how we deal with sin.

We should apply grace when grace is needed, but we don't make something sinful that's not. We don't create sins that can't be beat, then apply grace constantly to cover it. This just traps people in constant guilt and shame. It's like saying "hail Mary" and go back and do it. Repentance involves change, grace covers all sin.

We basically say to our teens at puberty. "Look, your body is going through changes that will cause you to be sexual.
Sexual thoughts are going to naturally pop into your head. You going to notice the opposite sex. Your going to be walking around with erections that just happen, the opposite sex is going to now excite you. Now, God created this sexuality. The first thought is natural, created by God. but if you have another one or think about what God has put in your mind, it's sin."

Trying not to have sexual thoughts is impossible. Two, it's not biblical. The obvious hard part is when does it become sin or lust. The bible is clear, many things are to be done in moderation. We are not to be drunkards, but we can drink alcohol, ect. There are many cases in the bible relating this. Obvious drunkedness can be harmful, but a drink or two isn't. But we pick out sex and put this impossible standard on it. How do we judge when sex is lust, we judge in based on the law of love..when the thoughts become harmful to ones self or others. Then it's time for another approach. If the church would teach sexuality like that, we could take sexuality back from the world.
 
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Where in the scriptures it says that lust is a sin. I know some of the ECF said that, but where in the scriptures is it?

It can be both a sin and not a sin. for example in matt 5:28 below.

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

If you look up that word "LUST" in the greek dictionary it means " Epithumeo"

this word is used 16 times in the new testament for example this word is used as a sinful lust in romans below.

Ro 7:7 What shall we say then? Is the law sin? God forbid. Nay, I had not known sin, but by the law: for I had not known lust, except the law had said, Thou shalt not covet.

now that word "Epithumeo" is used for a normal desire to have something such as a ministry in god below.

1Ti 3:1 This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.

Now word above is "desire" not the word "lust" but the original word was used for both good and bad. human desire is normal such as food, sex, better job, etc....but if we covet these thing then its bad.
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It seems to me that our point of departure here is on the meaning of the word 'love.' You have expressed several times now that you believe that you express love by simply 'doing no harm.' Therefore any action done to another person that does not harm that person is a loving action. I don't believe that this what Jesus meant by love when he gave us the Great Commandment. You seem to suggest that when love is talked about in the Bible it is always concerned with the "do no harm" attitude that you speak of. But, I don't think that this is true.

For example, in Luke 10:25-37, during a challenge by a legalist, after concluding that the whole of the law is the "law of love", Jesus tells the parable of the good Samaritan. In that parable, in addition to the robbery victim, there were four main characters (or character groupings): The first of these are the robbers, and it would seem that you, Jesus, and I would agree that these men did not show love to their victim. The next two were the priest and the Levite, who "did not harm", and in fact did nothing. It would seem that if love merely means to "do no harm", then these two practiced love by not doing anything more to harm the victim. But, Jesus didn't seem to think so. According to the parable, the only character in the parable who complied with the Great Commandment was the Samaritan, who not only avoided causing harm, but was proactive in providing care to the victim. He was the only one who "loved his neighbor as himself."

Another example is in Mt. 19:16-24, where Jesus is questioned by the rich young man. The young man was perceptive enough to realize that merely keeping the negative commands (e.g., do not murder, do not commit adultery, etc.) was not enough . He seems to make the same mistake that you make in assuming that these are proof that he is loving is neighbor as himself. But, Jesus challenges him to go the next step in loving God by commanding him to sell all of his possessions and to follow God. The young man could not accept that teaching. He could accept the legalistic laws of the Pharisees, but he was unwilling to give up everything in order to follow God and to love his neighbor, and Jesus said this would make it near impossible for him to inherit eternal life.

I provide these examples to show that Jesus, when he gave us the Great Commandment, was not interested in just giving us an easy to follow rule that all of us could get right with minimal effort. Instead he was giving us an easy to understand rule that is intensely difficult and that he knew would take most of us a lifetime to get it right. If we understand the Great Commandment the way Jesus did, we always have room to grow in our relationship with God. If we try to reduce it to something that is so easy that we are already close to getting it, we severely limit our growth and fall short of God's plan for us.

So this is where I think our biggest disagreement lies, and to the extent that we disagree as to the meaning of the Great Commandment, it will be difficult to come to any agreement as to any specific applications of it, such as Jesus' statement concerning lust and adultery.

The problem with this statement is that it assumes that, in trying to apply and understand what Jesus is actually reported as having said, rather than contorting and misinterpreting it to make it easier to follow, I am "creating sins." I would argue that it seems from this statement that you are accusing Jesus of creating sins, in order to cover them with grace. I would argue that if one has a proper understanding of the Great Commandment, it is easy to understand why Jesus wanted us to strive to eliminate sexual lust. When one understands love the way that Jesus does (just look at how He showed His love, it is not hard to understand why lustful thoughts were not consistent with this kind of love.

But, I suppose there is a bigger question that I have. You seem to suggest that the understanding that we are all sinners covered by grace leads only to deeper guilt and shame. I wonder how you come to this conclusion. It would seem to me that, if I struggle with sin, knowing that I am not alone in my struggle and that God's grace is big enough to deal with my sin while I learn to be a more faithful follower, would ease my guilt and shame, rather than making them worse.


Who says that illicit (i.e., unloving) sexual thoughts (i.e., lustful) are created by God? I don't think I ever said that, and I am sure that the Bible doesn't say that. For a biblical understanding of this, I would look to James 1:13-15, which tells us that God does not tempt us, but that temptation (such as the initial illicit sexual thought) is a result of a man's own evil desire.

Ultimately, it seems that before we can begin to understand each other on the issue at hand, we need to clearly understand the assumptions that we bring into the discussion and where they come from, and we need to identify the assumptions that are contrary to Scripture.
 
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I agree with you that "the law of love" aka the Great Commandment should be central to any understanding of Christian morality. I appreciate the fact that you seem to recognize that and see it as a way to keep from becoming embroiled in contentious legalism. The only difference that I am seeing is in our understanding of what it means to love you neighbor as yourself. I believe that those last two words (which I have italicized) call for something deeper than a "do no harm" type attitude. And, I believe that this type of selfless and self-giving love for all people is a commandment, such that when we fail to do so (even if we don't think we are harming anyone) we fall short of God's expectations of us (i.e., sin). I don't say this as an accusatory, "you're going to hell if . . . " type statement, but rather as a moral ideal to which we should hold ourselves, while at the same time realizing that we will likely not achieve that ideal within our lifetime. I believe that we should view morality as a bar that is set high enough that we always have room to improve rather than as a bare minimum of acceptable conduct. I believe that this bare minimum mentality is what irritated Jesus about the Pharisees and unfortunately, it seems to me to be far too prevalent among Christians today (e.g., look at all of the threads in CP&E that are titled "Is x a sin?"). I believe that the Bible teaches we should hold ourselves to such a high standard that we can know that if, in our actions, we are not totally and completely selflessly giving of ourselves to God and to other people, then we are sinning. It seems to me that this standard gets rid of legalism in at least two ways: it gives us all, regardless of our current level of spiritual maturity, something to aim for and it makes it clear to there is no basis for distinction and no basis for us to judge one another, because we are all so far from perfection.

I think you and I do agree with each other more than many Christians do. I think that our disagreement is based on the nuances of the word "love", but it is a positive step that we both seem to see morality as revolving completely around the Great Commandment. And, I think we both see this reality as freeing us from the kind of legalism that was common to the Pharisees and appears to be all too common among many Christians. And, I admit, even though I believe it falls short of God's ideal, that if everyone were to adopt the "do no harm" attitude, the world would be a better place and this would bring joy to the heart of God. It's not a bad goal, but I do believe it falls somewhat short of what Jesus and Paul had in mind when they spoke about "the law of love."
 
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I am not sure that was actually stated or even implied. We are sexual beings, and as such experience sexual thoughts and feelings. Sin is only when we use our sexuality wrongly. Just as not all hunger is gluttony or tiredness is laziness so not all sexual awareness is lust.

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Very good discussion, dies3l and armstead, I too think that love is the key to living the Christian life the way Jesus wants us to live it. The differances in the way you are expressing it is very minor in my reading. So minor that I'd say why even consider that you have a differance.

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I think so...

I will get into more later...but in the end, like hiker says,
it's not much difference.

I'm in no way saying..that doing no harm is the only process that Christians live by, but that it is the common foundation that fulfills all the law.
 
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