Where are the single Godly Men?

[faithful_heart1968]

I've been divorced for 4 years now. I'm waiting on God to bring that right man into my life. I wasn't really praying for a mate up until here a few months ago, because I get so lonely and tired of being alone. I know I'm not alone for I have God and my beautiful daughter. But it's hard to go through this life alone with out that companion. I don't even date, which I haven't been asked out on a date, because I won't date anyone that is not a Christian or a Godly man. I don't think its not too picky when it comes to chosing a mate that is a man of God. The thing is too, is that most good Godly men are taken that I know or come across. I'm trying to wait patiently on God to send me the right one. I've made enough mistakes in my life. I've been married and divorced twice. My first husband I divorced him for the right reason. My second husband divorced me for he could not take me being sick. I don't think that I'm unattractive. People tell me I'm beautiful, but I think well if that was the case, then why wouldn't I get asked out. But I have to think positive that God will bring me my soulmate when he is ready. I just have to stay patienced. But please everyone keep me in prayer though. I want someone that is strong in God!

 

[songz777]

Hiya there there a godly man out there but its hard for a man to post a thread to say "im one" for it dangers on pride or vanity. Godly men usally only come through the crucible of suffering, for in this he cries to God and finds God to be His BEST friend, and is the suffering of life that produces godliness, I hope that i can be classed as this.

 

[BlackRain]

there are godly men out there, somewhere. see, i'm so skeptical now because all the guys i thought were good christians ended up being anything but. i actually almost gave my heart away to some guy who is so not worth my time. he turned out to be perverted and completely on the wrong path. it's really frustrating, but God knows what he's doing so we just have to trust his ways. God is good and he cares for you deeply! continue to pray and seek the Lord in this matter.

 

[reverie_maiden]

Just keep looking, there are Christian men out there! Until you find that right guy, we'll always be here for you! *hugs* That is what we are here for...to support, love, and lean on each other when we need it the most.

 

[KarateCowboy]

I hate to say this but... maybe after two failed marriages you should consider throwing in the towel. Good luck!

 

[MrDude]

I hate to say this but... maybe after two failed marriages you should consider throwing in the towel. Good luck!

Thank you, this post truely made my day.

 

[doubtingdidymus]

I understand you completely faithful_heart, I know I'm still young, but I've yet to find a good Christian girl. I hope and pray that I'll find one one day, and trust that the Lord will see me through and that his plan for me is what I truely need, whether I share that road with a companion, or with him alone

 

[faithful_heart1968]

I might had two failed marriages, but I don't think God intends on me being alone. And I don't give up that easy, because God didn't give up on me. So no throwing in the towel here. I think of myself a very compassionate, big hearted person. I'm not mean or cruel. Just I was not patient to wait before I got married the first time. I was very young. The second marriage, I couldn't help that I got dianosed with illnesses and became sick and my husband could not handle it. But you know they say 3 times a charm. So the guy God sends to me, will be the last. And I will spend the rest of my life with him and serving the Lord. God bless you all that replied so far. I appreciate your opinion. Just keep me in prayer.

 

[John of Berkshire]

My response to these kinds of questions are almost always the same.

We have this young lady laying on a medical examination table at the Country Coroner's Office, because she was kidnapped, raped, beaten, raped again, and murdered.

We have kids by the dozen being beaten to a pulp by their alcoholic and drug addicted parents.

We have a cop that was shot to death five months ago, cause he stopped a guy for a minor traffic violation and the guy decided that he wasn't having that.

Four-thousand children starve to death, in this country (yes, this country), everyday.


Think of those things anytime you decide to feel sorry for yourself. I am not trying to be mean or apathetic. I do sympathize. I was the same way once, but I started to think of these things everytime I started feeling depressed. I don't feel sorry for myself anymore. Think of all that Jesus went through before and during his crucifixion. I am sure that you are much more well off than most.

I guess my advice is to stop wasting your time making yourself feel bad and perhaps use that energy to help others. Volunteer to help children or the elderly. Life is not just about sex and intimate relationships. It has to be about more than that, else all we are is just another dumb animal driven by instinct.

 

[Niels]

The single Godly men are often sitting around wondering where the single Godly women are.

I wouldn't give up hope. If you don't believe God has called you to remain single, you're probably not. You may very well meet somebody new. Though God wants what's best for you, and will work the relationships he blesses according to *His* timing.

 

[Lia]

Faithful heart,

I have never married before but I am still waiting for God's timing to bring me that right person myself so I understand that loneliness can eat you up sometimes. I think though, the most important thing for us single is to completely focus on God and find satisfaction in Him only - either with or without a spouse....because God may or may not bring us a spouse. Whatever may come in the future, I pray and hope that you will keep your joy in Him and find the true satisfaction from Him no matter what circumstances you are in. He does knows the desire of our heart and He will only bring the best. Many blessings and grace to you!

 

[reverie_maiden]

I hate to say this but... maybe after two failed marriages you should consider throwing in the towel. Good luck!

That's a horrible thing to say! Faithful_heart1968, I'll pray for you...I wish you the best!

 

[faithful_heart1968]

I have to say; First of all I do not feel sorry for myself. I'm far over that! I've been very blessed, with my life. I have a beautiful wonderful daughter that I raise. Yes I've had some rough times in my life that had deep scaring in me. But feeling sorry for myself now, that I'm not doing. I do think of those that are worse off than me. Always, even in my time of lonliness. And if I was to spend my life without that mate, then I will continue to grow and love the Lord even more! I will continue to do what God has called me to do. But please do not tell me that I am feeling sorry for myself, for this thread was not at all what I was doing. I was simply saying, in my surroundings, that all the good Godly men are very few. Doesn't mean I feel sorry for myself because I long for a companion in my life. It's simple, it's my desire to spend the rest of my life with someone that is of Christ.

Thank you all for your prayers, encouragement and thoughtfulness. May God bless you all!

 

[justasinner]

They are out here, but you have to look for them.

They are average in all aspect of life. They look and dress average. There is nothing that set these guys apart from any other guy.

They care little for society desires, such as being rich. They just want enough to money for their lifestyle, of a wife, and our children. They also want a house that is big enough to make a home and protect his family.

Are you looking in the right places. They do not visit the main hangout site that others may visit. What they visit is job, church, stores (most for food or up keep of the house), and family.

Also a Godly man knows from Palm 37:4 that his prayer will be answered. He just has to wait until God says it right. But he keep his eyes open his mate just to make sure that when God says it time he finds that gift that God has sent.

 

[PastorJer]

The single Godly men are often sitting around wondering where the single Godly women are.

AMEN

They are out there - often involved in ministry - in caring for others.

I would say the most important thing in meeting and winning the heart of a godly man is to continue becoming a woman after God's heart... I know that for myself there is nothing that I look for more in gals than a heart that is following hard after God...

 

[trust_faith]

I also think is diffficult for me to get single godly man..

 

[ReformedChapin]

I don't consider myself an amazing male. But I do consider myself a Godly man and its just as hard for me to find a Godly woman. The only thing we can do is pray and wait for God to bring that special person to us.

 

[KarateCowboy]

If you consider the fact that Jesus said that if you get divorced for any reason besides lewd conduct and then remarry that you are committing adultery then I think it's fair to say that God wants us to marry only once, not three times.

 

[JPPT1974]

Think of those things anytime you decide to feel sorry for yourself. I am not trying to be mean or apathetic. I do sympathize. I was the same way once, but I started to think of these things everytime I started feeling depressed. I don't feel sorry for myself anymore. Think of all that Jesus went through before and during his crucifixion. I am sure that you are much more well off than most.

I guess my advice is to stop wasting your time making yourself feel bad and perhaps use that energy to help others. Volunteer to help children or the elderly. Life is not just about sex and intimate relationships. It has to be about more than that, else all we are is just another dumb animal driven by instinct.

We should all stop wasting our time feeling bad about ourselves and use that energy to help others like children or the elderly as well as battered women. Life is precious as we should live every minute of it. Good point there.

 

[SorensScapegoat]

Where are the good, single Godly men?

I live on Wall Street, where you'd be really hard pressed to throw a stick and not hit a lawyer, banker, or a cop (what with all the terrorism), the same is true most places in D.C. near the Mall. People of similar interests and attitudes tend to associate with like minded people. So figure out what you mean by Godly, think about the traits those people have and then think of activities those traits would frequently be utilized.

Just a thought.