Where and How can i find a good Christian wife

[Salmon89]

Ive been a Christian for about 4 years now and ever since i have become a christian i have had no luck with women. I used to have better luck, but now every woman i meet is never a christian and just discourages my new christian life. For over a year now i put all my cares for my future and women in Gods hand and behind me but its starting to get hard. Before i became a Christian women used to come to me now its like i have to approach them but i m not so good at this, and when it comes to the women at my church i am extremely shy towards them, i dont want them to think im in church to mate i am not, im there to give God the glory he deserves. I dont know what to do am i soposed to just keep waiting in faith or act on faith? cus faith without works is dead? its seems all the ones i am Not attracted to is thrown at me but unfortunately im not interested in them. I have a vision of a beautiful woman as my wife but how can that happen if the best women dont need to approach a guy cus they are approached everyday? please help **may peace and good blessings be apon you in Jesus name

 

[1watchman]

Hello friend. Do not be discouraged, for God is good to care for one who trusts Him. Trust and walk with the Lord Jesus and the Father will bless you with His Holy Spirit and leading. Make Jesus Christ the center and object of your life and you will have a good life. I have been walking with Him for over 50 years and He has never failed (though I have failed Him at times).

The right woman will come when God is ready for you to have that relationship, and you are telling God to not let you make a wrong choice on your own.

Look up always!

 

[thesunisout]

Ive been a Christian for about 4 years now and ever since i have become a christian i have had no luck with women. I used to have better luck, but now every woman i meet is never a christian and just discourages my new christian life. For over a year now i put all my cares for my future and women in Gods hand and behind me but its starting to get hard. Before i became a Christian women used to come to me now its like i have to approach them but i m not so good at this, and when it comes to the women at my church i am extremely shy towards them, i dont want them to think im in church to mate i am not, im there to give God the glory he deserves. I dont know what to do am i soposed to just keep waiting in faith or act on faith? cus faith without works is dead? its seems all the ones i am Not attracted to is thrown at me but unfortunately im not interested in them. I have a vision of a beautiful woman as my wife but how can that happen if the best women dont need to approach a guy cus they are approached everyday? please help **may peace and good blessings be apon you in Jesus name

What God wants is for your surrender all of your needs to Him, including your sex life. You need to be satisfied in Him alone, first, and leave it up to the Lord as to whether He wants to provide you a wife or not. You must put this completely into His hands, and then be patient. If you try to do this under your own power, you will most certainly fall into a trap. Satan will be trying to tempt you to do everything except trust God.

Don't worry about whether you are going to miss out on the right person. The Lord will make it clear to you, and you will know it is from Him. Let Him be the Lord of this circumstance and you will not be disappointed. God bless.

 

[parsley]

when it comes to the women at my church i am extremely shy towards them, i dont want them to think im in church to mate i am not, im there to give God the glory he deserves.

Invite a group out to lunch after church, and "take it outside." Just grab everyone you can, and say, "a bunch of us are going out to lunch after church... spread the word." Then see what happens.

 

[1watchman]

Surely, don't try to make something happen or you will probably live to regret it. A real Christian must walk with the Lord and trust Him to supply your needs. If we do not, then we are left to our own ideas (not a recommended course for a "child of God"). It all might take some time, but time is better than hurrying in the things of God.

 

[Salmon89]

Thanks God Bless you all i am going to leave in his hands Amen and hope i remember this when temped otherwise

 

[parsley]

Before i became a Christian women used to come to me now its like i have to approach them but i m not so good at this, and when it comes to the women at my church i am extremely shy towards them, i dont want them to think im in church to mate i am not, im there to give God the glory he deserves.

Something to keep in mind -- if women in that church have been taught to be modest, or wait on the Lord, then they might be less assertive than women outside the church. They might be waiting for you to make the first move. Watch for signals, like when they catch your eye. They might not judge you for hunting -- they might be doing it themselves. But you do have a good point, to respect the Lord in His sanctuary.

 

[ViaCrucis]

Keep in mind that marriage is not the be-all of human life. I certainly understand the desire to find a mate--as we all do as that is genetically programmed into our DNA--but rather place faith in God. Perhaps you will find your mate, perhaps not.

Remember that sometimes we are called not to married life, but the life of a chaste celibate. Being open to that, in Christ, is another way to live out our high calling as disciples of the Lord.

That isn't to say you are. My only point here is to not let this overcome your life. Live your life to Christ, and whether you find your mate or not, remain in Him.

-CryptoLutheran