When you let people in

[StormyFae]

Tell them everything, open up, bring down the barriers
Then they make sure you wish you hadn't
How are you supposed to react after
I've actually been quite sharp with people, and I finally snapped today
made up an excuse about not feeling so good then disappearing home,
But its my career on the line and my social life and skills so its not as if i can give myself time,
I hate to admit it but regressed a little to my teen behaviour of drinking blah bla

People are generally untrustworthy wih information and emotions but aren't satisfied when you dont give out enough info
so where is the fine line

 

[FallingWaters]

I agree with your assessment of people in general. It's very difficult to find a friend you can open up to who will respect your privacy, who won't judge you for your feelings and who will think the best of you no matter what.

Keep your relationships at work on a professional level. You will never be sorry.

 

[UnitynLove]

I agree just keep your relationship at work professional.

 

[tonybartoli4hope]

--I know how you feel- It hurts, it is a Bummer. At times it can be like, "where are the REAL people"?-
-Please stay with it and I hope you can find someone, or a small group you can open up to-
-God Bless you
-tony

 

[angelkiss]

I know exactly how you feel, for I have been through the same thing before. "True friends" are hard to come by, but I'm praying that you will find a friend or friends who will accept things unconditionally and not be quick to judge. I do agree that keeping things in the workplace on a professional level is a good idea.
We are here for you!!

 

[BigToe]

Isolation is unhealthy behavior and as painful as other's disrespect towards you can be, please recognize if you are isolating yourself. Doing so unfortunately plays into the vicious cycle of depression, which can lead to old behaviors like drinking.

And if people are pressuring you to tell more than you are comfortable saying, tell them it is none of their business. What harm is there in standing up for yourself? None, and you are certainly worth it.

 

[Surviving]

I agree with people here about keeping relationships at work professional. It's really hard explaining to someone 'I'm misserable because of the things that have happened in my life'. The majority of people won'r understand. I have had alot of comments said to me that I always unhappy, but only if they knew! Socialising at work is fine, but it doesn't mean that people need to know everything about you. Hang in there.

 

[Amin]

Hi,
One thing is to only allow people what you want them to know until you know they can be trusted.
It's usually not a good practice to open up to someone until you know they can be trusted.
You can find out by letting them know something small that doesn't really matter, if they keep it to themselves, maybe you can step it up.
But always be aware of what you tell to someone until they've proven themselves trustworthy.
Chuck.

 

[StormyFae]

Hi thanks everyone for your pieces of advice,
I am still letting no one near me really though,
Saw a good friend in the city and she was so excited and threw her arms round me she coudn't wait to tell me all her news...it felt unnatural because I have cut myself off for so long,
I am going to TRY to ease myself back into those sorts of relationships,
It just seems to get harder and harder...I am beginning to "enjoy" my own thoughts too much its hard to explain

 

[FallingWaters]

Hi thanks everyone for your pieces of advice,
I am still letting no one near me really though,
Saw a good friend in the city and she was so excited and threw her arms round me she coudn't wait to tell me all her news...it felt unnatural because I have cut myself off for so long,
I am going to TRY to ease myself back into those sorts of relationships,
It just seems to get harder and harder...I am beginning to "enjoy" my own thoughts too much its hard to explain

This post gives a different impression from your OP.
In the OP you made it sound like you tell everyone at work all your problems and then they betray you.
THIS post makes it sound like you are trying to justify why you don't tell anybody anything and why you have isolated yourself from relationships.
Both of these are extremes, and should be avoided.

It is healthy to have a couple of friends we can confide in.
We must discern the difference between who we can trust and who we can't.

 

[Amin]

Hi,
I would have to agree with you.
There are a lot of people that can't be trusted with information. I found out recently my brother is one of them.
I want to also say that there are those that can be trusted too.
Unfortunately we don't find out which one is which until it's too late.
I'm sure if you need someone, ask God to deliver that person to you.
Bless Your Heart and Heal Your Hurt
God can do that, and that's what I'll pray for.
Chuck.