When to tell?

[Lilium]

DH and I are undecided on when to tell our family the good news...when did you tell your family

 

[Birbitt]

With our first we told our family as soon as we found out with a positive pregnancy test. With our second baby we told our family as soon as we knew (which was around 22 weeks), and now that we are pregnant again we are waiting until we have a due date then we will tell our family.

 

[seamonster]

With my first, we told my parents around 5 weeks and everyone else around 8-12 weeks. With this baby, we told our families at 12 weeks. (We knew at 3 weeks with both pregnancies but waited to tell in case I miscarried.)

 

[Assisi]

With our first we told family at about 5 weeks and some of our close friends...hmmm about 7 weeks. We made it public at 12 weeks. I miscarried that baby.

With our second we told our parents again at about 5 weeks. We didn't get a chance to tell siblings or friends before we miscarried at 8 weeks.

With our third we told parents straight away, siblings at 12 weeks, a friend each at 16 weeks, and then a couple more close friends (and CF) at 20 weeks. Those who weren't supportive through our miscarriages we didn't tell at all. I received birth congratulations from people we don't see often saying 'congratulations, I didn't even know you were pregnant' (I didn't really show until after 30 weeks pregnant).

I like to tell early because I would like to receive prayers for the safety of my little ones. If you're not sure whether to tell someone because of the risk of miscarriage, my advice is to think about what you would do if you miscarried, or bled, tomorrow. Would you tell that person so they could support you? If yes, then why not tell them now and enjoy your pregnancy together? If no, then don't tell them yet.

Miscarriage is the only reason I've ever heard of that people would wait to tell.

 

[beehoney]

I wanted to tell them right away but DH objected so I bargained with him for 8 weeks.

 

[Lilium]

Well I told my family last weekend...so a couple days before 7 weeks. We just couldn't keep it quiet anymore

 

[TamberlyAna]

Well, i told my mom before I even knew for sure myself. I was scared/nervous so I needed her to talk to. As far as the rest of my family...I told them all after my first pre natal appointment. Now I think EVERYONE knows..including everyone in this small town I live in.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

We told our close immediate family around 5ish weeks when I found out. Since we had been praying for a child for 2 years, we wanted to share our blessing with those who had been praying so much for us.

As for friends and distant relatives we waited until the 12 week mark when we heard the heartbeat.

 

[KatieBunnyGirl]

There are still a few I haven't told.

But, mainly because I don't want to get yelled at. My grandpa and Step-Grandma are well.....not too nice. They think I screwed up my life and tell me so on a regular basis. All because I didn't go to medical school like they wanted me to.

I told my mom & dad after the first positive pregnancy test. My husband Kelly called around his family the same night telling everyone. My mom told most of our side of the family.

 

[TamberlyAna]

I think we all probably have family members like your grandparents. I know I do.

 

[SamanthaB]

I told everyone when we first found out at 5 weeks.