When they use things you try to teach them against you

[Laurie919]

Taylor just pulled one of those "well you said we should bless people" things against me.

She has 6 friends over and wanted to go get snowballs/cones. I said Taylor that would be almost $20 since I know none of them have money and none of their parents are home to give them money.

What do you tell them when they say well if we can't do things for people how are we going to bless anyone.

 

[CelticRose]

Make them at home? Dunno what snow cones are but there are ways to bless people that do not require $20~ & that would be my take. What can you do to bless your friends? Not, what can mummy's money do to bless your friends?

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

Tell her your supposed to bless people and children in need knot kids trying to satisfies a sweet tooth.

 

[lucypevensie]

Tell her "If you want to bless people in that way, go ahead. You may take $20 from your own wallet and buy your friends a snow cone". Tell her you aren't really giving if you are giving with other people's money and resources. Where's the charity in that?

You gotta be quick with the comebacks.

 

[Neenie1]

Tell her "If you want to bless people in that way, go ahead. You may take $20 from your own wallet and buy your friends a snow cone". Tell her you aren't really giving if you are giving with other people's money and resources. Where's the charity in that?

You gotta be quick with the comebacks.

That's what I'd say too.

What's a snow cone?

 

[lucypevensie]

That's what I'd say too.

What's a snow cone?

It's shaved ice with flavored sugary syrup drizzled on. It's served in a paper cone. I used to love 'em when I was a kid.

 

[Neenie1]

Oh, that sounds like what we call a slushie.

 

[jessesgirl]

Yes, the same thing, I think. Snocones are my weak spot!

I agree with what has been said. Tell her if she wants to bless them, bless them with her money otherwise make em at home...it is fun!

 

[CrystalBrooke]

I think there's a difference between blessing people and just giving them something that they don't need. I consider blessing someone charity...giving poor people clothes, food and shelter...NOT giving a bunch of 10/11 year olds snowcones. If Taylor wants to spend her own money on it, then that's fine..but if I were you, I wouldn't pay for it...or like someone else suggested, make them at home. Heck, let the kids make them..they might have fun doing it.

 

[cristianna]

I think she needs to understand blessing isn't only a monetary, gifting notion. She's blessing them with her time, friendship and sharing her toys and whatever else.

 

[heart of peace]

I agree with what lucypevensie said. I also agree with CrystalBrooke in that this is not a case of blessing a person (which is usually the case when there is a need) rather I just see it as your daughter wanting to be generous with her friends, which is a positive thing but since she decided to be generous on her own free will, she should use her own money. Otherwise, I wouldn't call this generosity, I'd call it rather rude behavior to assume you would be ok to pay her friends' way.

 

[BarbBlessed]

From what I've read about her, I think Taylor probably knows the difference.

Most kids try to manipulate mom or dad from time to time. I know I tried it with my parents and my girls have tried it with us.
Taylor's a bright girl, and she's used to getting what she wants. It's not at all surprising that she'd try to force your hand every now and then.

I couldn't really tell by your post - did you buy the snowcones?
If you did, be prepared for similar tactics in the future.

And actually, even if you didn't, there are likely to be similar situations in the future anyway.
So now's the time to be thinking about them and preparing yourself to smile pleasantly and say, "Sorry honey, but I already gave you my answer. Not this time."