when parents lie

[ssammoh]

When the bible says to obey your parents, does that mean do what they want you to do, or do what they tell you to do? Sometimes they aren't the same.

My mom told me to do whatever I want because I am old enough to make my own choices. But she still gets mad at me when I dont do what she wants me to do.

For example, I was going to go somewhere without her and she was really mad at me for leaving her when she is sick. But she TOLD me I can do whatever I want. So I am confused.

 

[Razare]

You're referencing Ephesians 6:1.

https://www.blueletterbible.org/kjv/eph/6/1/t_conc_1103001

"obey your parents in the lord"

Meaning if you don't have parents in the lord, which is they are serving Christ and not lying, then they are not in the lord. Verse 6:1 would stop applying to lost parents or parents disobedient to God. It doesn't mean we rebel because they are lost either, but that we weigh more carefully what our parent's do relative to what God wants.

This is very hard for a kid or a teen to understand from scripture, I think. But if you want to take my advice that I have done from research, "obey your parents" can never be taken as a blanket statement which covers all circumstances. The bible never implies this, and 1 verse can't be removed from the rest of scripture and obeyed when you are disobeying other verses.

"obey your parents" is of equal weight as "No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church."

So if in obeying your parents you harm your body, you're disobeying the Bible anyway. And if you care about following the Bible at all, then you're not following the Bible if you permit a parent to harm you in any way through deceit or what other things they might do.

A person who doesn't know much from the Bible might think, "Obey your parents at all costs", but that's not what scripture says. It says obey when they are following Jesus and looking out for what is best with you.