When do you know the time is right?

[bogie]

Let's say you're talking with someone who is also a christian who has prayed about a relationship with you and feelings as well. How do 2 people know when the time is right to consider themselves an exclusive/courting couple?

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[lady_of_god]

If the both of you are spending most of your time together, the feelings are mutual in a romantic aspect, and you both look forward to a future together... it's far to say that your now courting so you can make it official and call each other bf & gf

 

[bogie]

Thanx for your replies, I guess in any case prayer is always a good thing too.

 

[Lia]

Thanx for your replies, I guess in any case prayer is always a good thing too.

I think prayers play a big part in it. If there is a mutual interest between 2 people who put God first in their life and take their time to pray and wait for God's timing - I believe God will give more and more confidence for them to move forward (or the other way around).

 

[bogie]

I think prayers play a big part in it. If there is a mutual interest between 2 people who put God first in their life and take their time to pray and wait for God's timing - I believe God will give more and more confidence for them to move forward (or the other way around).

The key thing that I like in what you said is that both parties are putting God first in their lives. So from the general concensus I am gathering is that God will place those feelings and actions into motion.

 

[Ave Maria]

I think it's a mutual feeling. Hard to explain really.

 

[seangoh]

So from the general concensus I am gathering is that God will place those feelings and actions into motion.

Yes. For my case, before i thought of even going after my gf, i was thinking about how situations were set up to make me decide to chase her. I won't reveal too much here but it seemed that situations were put in place at the right moment and time. It was kind of a miracle actually coz it never happened to the other girls i met and on this scale! It was TOO much of a coincidence that's why i suddenly felt that i had to have that girl and NOW was the time.

So do consider circumstances and what is happening around you to help you decide what to do. Ask God whether it's ok to have her as a gf and start being sensitive to your environment!!! That's my advice.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I think you're overspiritualizing the matter. Two people know the time is right when they are both available and both interested (and both are obviously of proper age... i.e. they are not 13).

 

[KristianJ]

The key thing that I like in what you said is that both parties are putting God first in their lives. So from the general concensus I am gathering is that God will place those feelings and actions into motion.

Definitely - one's spiritual maturity is obviously a key, and in the scenario you offered, it's pretty safe to assume that these 2 are reasonablty spiritually mature, since they've been both praying about this. You can't operate the seesaw without the person on the other end ie. if the focus and intentions of both people aren't on the same spot/wavelength, you won't get anywhere in a serious relationship. Whilst I guess age has some part, it's no substitute for having a common willingness to take the next step, although I will concede that I think mid-teen years might not be the best time to pursue serious relationships given the fact that they are still under their parents' care (unless they've run away from home or something similar) and still at an age where they're not as well equipped for independence.