How long does it have to be to qualify as a LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP??
I'm just curious to hear the answers.
I'm just curious to hear the answers.
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What's your definition?
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At least 10 years.
Nah, I'm not sure. I probably started thinking of mine as 'long term' after 6 months? I suppose it might depend on how long you knew each other before hand, how serious you are about each other, where you both expect it to go...
What a cop out answer Sorry!
Nah, I'm not sure. I probably started thinking of mine as 'long term' after 6 months? I suppose it might depend on how long you knew each other before hand, how serious you are about each other, where you both expect it to go...What a cop out answer
Sorry!
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I guess my definition of it wouldn't really involve the actual length of the relationship. I would focus more on the quality or "type" of relationship: for example, someone who is looking to casually date, but not really interested in finding a serious relationship would probably not consider their relationships "long term" - they may end up lasting a long time, but it all depends on how serious both people are, and if there is a strong committment.
I knew that my relationship with my SO was long-term before we were even "officially" together (there were some issues that had to be worked out before we actually dating, including us wanting to be friends first and then slowly progress into a dating relationship). I don't personally believe in casual dating, so when I enter into a relationship I treat it as though it will or could lead to marriage. And it worked out for me, because we've been together about a year now with plans for marriage in the near future.
So for me, I would definitely say that long-term has more to do with the "attitude" of the individuals. Two people could date for years, but never intend to get married, or maybe never even see each other exclusively.
I knew that my relationship with my SO was long-term before we were even "officially" together (there were some issues that had to be worked out before we actually dating, including us wanting to be friends first and then slowly progress into a dating relationship). I don't personally believe in casual dating, so when I enter into a relationship I treat it as though it will or could lead to marriage. And it worked out for me, because we've been together about a year now with plans for marriage in the near future.
So for me, I would definitely say that long-term has more to do with the "attitude" of the individuals. Two people could date for years, but never intend to get married, or maybe never even see each other exclusively.
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I would definitely have to agree with this. It really does have a lot to do with the attitude of the person. A lot of people who look at it as a time period, would probably say at least 6 months though.I guess my definition of it wouldn't really involve the actual length of the relationship. I would focus more on the quality or "type" of relationship: for example, someone who is looking to casually date, but not really interested in finding a serious relationship would probably not consider their relationships "long term" - they may end up lasting a long time, but it all depends on how serious both people are, and if there is a strong committment.
I knew that my relationship with my SO was long-term before we were even "officially" together (there were some issues that had to be worked out before we actually dating, including us wanting to be friends first and then slowly progress into a dating relationship). I don't personally believe in casual dating, so when I enter into a relationship I treat it as though it will or could lead to marriage. And it worked out for me, because we've been together about a year now with plans for marriage in the near future.
So for me, I would definitely say that long-term has more to do with the "attitude" of the individuals. Two people could date for years, but never intend to get married, or maybe never even see each other exclusively.
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That depends as well. Generally, LTR should be at least a year long on frequent basis. You don't really get to know a person if you only saw that person for less than 3 months and call it a LTR. To me LTR means serious relationships and know each other pretty well. Casual dating can be years in length and yet not be a LTR. LTR's a next step to being engaged to be married.
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I think it also depends on the age of the couple. When my husband and I were together for a year we were teenagers, that's a long time at that age. But in your mid/late twenties one year isn't such a huge proportion of your life.
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Even before my boyfriend and I were "official" I considered it a long term relationship. I think it has to do with where you're headed, not where you've been...
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In order to answer that question;you have to first ask yourself.... What is dating or courting. Courtship is the time for a man and a woman to become friends to determine if God meant for them to live a lifetime together. Usually when we do not know our purpose we end up stuck which is what a long term relationship tends to be. In orer for any relationship to grow and blossom into its full potential there has to be definiton or knowing its purpose. If two people in a relationship have not sought out God's counsel for marriage....they usually end up in the same position as when the relationship first began. A long term relationship is determined by exhausting the courtship stage. How do you Exhaust the courtship stage...you turn to sin. Dating or courting was never developed to last a lifetime. If you are not ready for marriage...you're not ready to date.
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mikeyp
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to me it's not the length of time... it's the intention. I always said I was not going to enter the "dating scene" and any relationships I formed would only be done so if I could see myself marrying that girl. So as far as I am concerned any relationship I enter is considered "long term" or should I say "life term" The result? my first girlfriend (also my very best friend) and I have now been in a relationship for over 7 months and I expect it will last a life time. I can see myself marrying her... I want to marry her, so yes this is my idea of a long term relationship.
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tessas212
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I guess my definition of it wouldn't really involve the actual length of the relationship. I would focus more on the quality or "type" of relationship: for example, someone who is looking to casually date, but not really interested in finding a serious relationship would probably not consider their relationships "long term" - they may end up lasting a long time, but it all depends on how serious both people are, and if there is a strong committment.
I knew that my relationship with my SO was long-term before we were even "officially" together (there were some issues that had to be worked out before we actually dating, including us wanting to be friends first and then slowly progress into a dating relationship). I don't personally believe in casual dating, so when I enter into a relationship I treat it as though it will or could lead to marriage. And it worked out for me, because we've been together about a year now with plans for marriage in the near future.
So for me, I would definitely say that long-term has more to do with the "attitude" of the individuals. Two people could date for years, but never intend to get married, or maybe never even see each other exclusively.
Couldn't agree more. I've known my current boyfriend for a year now. For a very long time we avoided our feelings and did the whole 'just friends' thing for soo long, but we have now been officially dating 2 months. Ya ya.. two months.. big whoop, right? I know in all reality it isn't that long, but this is not casual dating. This is very serious, and I would consider it long term.
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First, I agree with what the others have posted (intention in relationship, age of the couple). I would like to add that a long term relationship is just that, long. A term is a period of time, and long describes the length of that relationship. So how long is long? That would depend on your point of view. For someone whose relationships have never made it past the second date, two months may be a long time. I don't mean to draw attention away from the good stuff in the other posts, just thought I would take the question very literally.
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This is a very good reply and I agree....I guess my definition of it wouldn't really involve the actual length of the relationship. I would focus more on the quality or "type" of relationship: for example, someone who is looking to casually date, but not really interested in finding a serious relationship would probably not consider their relationships "long term" - they may end up lasting a long time, but it all depends on how serious both people are, and if there is a strong committment.
I knew that my relationship with my SO was long-term before we were even "officially" together (there were some issues that had to be worked out before we actually dating, including us wanting to be friends first and then slowly progress into a dating relationship). I don't personally believe in casual dating, so when I enter into a relationship I treat it as though it will or could lead to marriage. And it worked out for me, because we've been together about a year now with plans for marriage in the near future.
So for me, I would definitely say that long-term has more to do with the "attitude" of the individuals. Two people could date for years, but never intend to get married, or maybe never even see each other exclusively.
BUT
If you really want a time period....
I consider couples who have dated for over a year to be long term....
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The term long-term is referring to length. If you are in a serious relationship of two months that does not make it long-term, that makes it serious.
So, I would say a year steady.
So, I would say a year steady.
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sunshinejennii
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Although the question is whether a relationship is long term because it has been going on for a long time or whether its long term because you are in it for the long term?!
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If you intend to be in the relationship for the long run, then that is a serious relationship. Every time anyone ever says the words long-term, I think of how long it has been, not will be.
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if you're not ready to be married, you aren't ready to date? i mean courting i agree with, but isnt that statement a bit extreme?
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I agree with a few of the previous posts, that a LTR is based on the feelings/intentions of the two people. But I also agree that LTR's cannot be completely based on feelings, because sometimes feelings can be temporary or false. So I think LTR's are based on intentions AND time spent together. I knew my girlfriend for one and a half years before I started going out with her. We decided that it was a serious LTR about two months into our dating relationship. So we have both time and intentions that constitute our relationship, making it long-term. We plan on getting married.
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