What's "too forward"? Just right?

[Jenster]

For anyone who has been approached by a member of the opposite sex ... and felt his/her approach was too forward: What did he or she do?

And how would you rather be approached?


I'll go: Once a visitor to our church came up to me during greeting time and started asking me all these personal questions - from where I live to where I went to college. A couple days later he managed to find out my e-mail address and contacted me. ...There's more, but that was the start of a very bad impression!


I'd rather he would have talked with me in a way that would have established some connection or common interests between us. Then maybe come back to our church another week.


Anyone else?

 

[Psalms34]

I was doing a service call to someone's home and the lovely lady of the house, being the only resident, threw off all her clothing and chased me around the house. A little forward?

How would I rather be approached? fully clothed.

 

[SelfProtect]

I recently asked a guy that I've been friends with for a year and 1/2 if he would ever be interested in being more than friends. He said I'm a great friend but he was not interested in more. Was I too forward? I waited a year and 1/2. I needed to know.

 

[silkamilkamonico]

I don't believe in being too forward.

If someone approaches you, and it's too strong, you just let them know your not interested and leave it at that.

If your worried about approaching someone and being too forward, don't be. Just do what you do, and if they the kind of person that is attracted they will let you know.

 

[Jenster]

SelfProtect, I think you did what was right. You gave him a chance to become friends, and based on that, he was able to make a decision when you asked him. I'm sure he was very flattered by your interest in maybe being more. I know it hurts to hear "no" but he was honest with you. It would have been worse to be strung along, dating him when he is not sure he likes you in that way. Now you can turn your attention to someone else, someone with potential.

Maybe "forward" is too strong of a word, but how else to describe it when someone I don't even know and have no connection with tracks me down and starts e-mailing me? I don't date total strangers.

I also agree with silkamilkamonico in that it's good just to ask someone out. Go for it, and be open to connecting.

 

[scifo]

Life is short. As long as you are respectful and honest, go for it.

(read my sig)

 

[OhhJim]

I'd rather he would have talked with me in a way that would have established some connection or common interests between us. Then maybe come back to our church another week.

Well, I'd rather they give me money. But I've learned that you can't control other people. It doesn't matter how you want them to act, they will do their own thing.

How you react to them is up to you.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

Life is short. As long as you are respectful and honest, go for it.

(read my sig)

 

[pumpkinking]

heh heh heh... I let that crazy calypso crab Sebastian from "The Little Mermaid" convince me to just "kiss the girl"... and found out on the doorstep after dinner and a movie that she had a boyfriend at the military academy!

A slap would have been better!

sigh... It's still not bad advice. I just don't take my romantic suggestions from sea creatures any more.

Jay
"Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming..."