What's on your mind?

Wayholka said:

If it makes you feel better I'm going to be 26 in a couple months and I still don't have a driver's license or been to college and I work at a recycling depot which is filthy and not really respected.

My father and ex girlfriend pressured me to get a driver's license when I was younger. I knew I couldn't because I'm a maladaptive daydreamer meaning that while driving my attention will be somewhere else. I really didn't want to risk any accidents just to impress a bunch of people I no longer respect. Plus, my town was small enough to walk everywhere and we now have a transit system which I now take full advantage of. What is your motivation in getting a license? Do you have places to be or are you just trying to live up to your culture's expectations? In some Asian countries, it's more practical to use bicycles as transportation instead of cars.

I never went to college either because of a traumatizing twelve years at school thanks to my Asperger's. School for me was pure heck and so I developed a fear of education and, to some extent, learning itself as a result. However, it's been seven and a half years since I graduated and my mental condition regarding the trauma has improved and I'm hoping my newfound therapy will take it further. I can now go as a mature student without worrying about high school marks. I also saved up over $20,000 from my jobs since 2010 so now I have tuition. If things go according to plan, I plan to go learn graphic design in Fall of 2018. You are never too old to get an education and can go when you feel you are ready. College isn't for everyone and some may have to go later than others after sorting out a number of personal issues in their life. There's no rush.

When it comes to jobs, I am definitely way ahead of you there. I worked as a dishwasher at a cafe at 14, worked in back of a thrift store at 16, and in the back of the recycling depot at 20 because I knew my Asperger's prevented me from being an ideal worker at the front and dealing with customers with a superiority complex. We just got to make due with what we have. If you're worried about getting a low paying job because of all the stigma attached to it, just hear me out. I work at a recycling depot and have done so since 2012. I had complete strangers give me flak for working there saying I should learn a trade, work at the oil fields, or join the military because my town is stupid that way. The oil industry then crashed and suddenly my job (which was apparently a deadly sin to work at) now had 50+ resumes from people who used to make $40/hour pumping oil. Suddenly, my job didn't seem all that undesirable since our economy's bread and butter was no longer profitable. There's no shame in an honest day's work. Back in the Biblical days you could have a career in picking grapes in a vine yard. Being able to read and write was basically the equivalent of an Ivy League university degree in those times. You just got to make with that you have.

As Travelers.Soul said, comparing is not something any of us should do. It only gives us two feelings: Pride or Depression. Take my word for it. God says that neither of them are desirable in His eyes and only expects us to do what we are capable of doing. One day, God is going to tell many Christians, "To Heck with your culture, what did you do to advance mine?" God doesn't care about your place in life, He only cares what you are willing to do for Him out of love.

Just try to do what you are capable of for what God says is right and don't allow others to beat you down in the name of what they think is right.

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