What's on your mind?

alsughasoughaiuyfygh · Nov 4, 2016

CodyFaith said:
OMM:

Don't want to be single anymore. Nope, I do not. My eyes are more open for it starting today.

Go get 'em, Tiger!

MotherFirefly · Nov 4, 2016

Toro said:
Looks like Cody will have to go to you then cause the people of Canadia are like eskimos and stuff..... and I know you and Cody belong together.

Naw, he rejected me before it even left the thread.

LadyOfMystery · Nov 4, 2016

James of Arc · Nov 4, 2016

Whats on my mind?

Am I going to make it? I know the power of Jesus can do it but can I?

CodyFaith · Nov 4, 2016

Toro said:
Looks like Cody will have to go to you then cause the people of Canadia are like eskimos and stuff..... and I know you and Cody belong together.

Guize I took a new selfie today

Toro · Nov 4, 2016

MotherFirefly said:
Naw, he rejected me before it even left the thread.

He didnt reject you. He's just scared and doesn't know what's best for him.

I'm never wrong.

LadyOfMystery said:

Hey Jennie How are you?

CodyFaith said:
Guize I took a new selfie today

TheRealAriel · Nov 4, 2016

OMM: when or how do you know you're ready for marriage? A partner can never be perfect.. at what point do you accept the imperfections and choose to grow together in marriage vs continuing to date? What kinds of imperfections are deal breakers and what kinds are normal? I'm wishing I had dated more men about now so I could be more informed

OcifferPls · Nov 4, 2016

Never! I'm only partly joking. As someone who always wanted to marry a best friend, I don't make best friends easily so, whelp, there goes that.

But, in better circumstances, whenever it makes sense (I guess)? I have no idea. The reality of dating and marriage never made much sense to me.

OMM: I thought I found my dream job, and slipped up when I mentioned that the interviewer was late to someone else. The interviewer is probably ticked now. Why do I have to screw up everything that goes well for me?

Swan7 · Nov 4, 2016

TheRealAriel said:
OMM: when or how do you know you're ready for marriage? A partner can never be perfect.. at what point do you accept the imperfections and choose to grow together in marriage vs continuing to date? What kinds of imperfections are deal breakers and what kinds are normal? I'm wishing I had dated more men about now so I could be more informed

the same way one accepts a friend in their life. Together, you grow to love one another everyday, but it won't be easy. Just like how friends will fight occasionally, so too, is the same in marriage. The two are not perfect, but they both choose to accept the flaws each other has.

In my experience, the way I was approaching the dating life was never the right way. I prayed, if it was the will of the Father, for my life-partner. His struggles and anything else I felt prompted to pray for.

leothelioness · Nov 4, 2016

TheRealAriel said:
OMM: when or how do you know you're ready for marriage? A partner can never be perfect.. at what point do you accept the imperfections and choose to grow together in marriage vs continuing to date? What kinds of imperfections are deal breakers and what kinds are normal? I'm wishing I had dated more men about now so I could be more informed

I know that if I ever end up with anyone I will feel the same way. I won't have anything to compare it to, so I'll just have to rely on God to direct me to know when or if it's right.

I would pray about it and see what answer God leads you to.

Toro · Nov 4, 2016

TheRealAriel said:
OMM: when or how do you know you're ready for marriage? A partner can never be perfect.. at what point do you accept the imperfections and choose to grow together in marriage vs continuing to date? What kinds of imperfections are deal breakers and what kinds are normal? I'm wishing I had dated more men about now so I could be more informed

When the man tells you so. *runs and hides from the wrath of the double X chromosomes. *

Serious short answer, I say you are ready when you realize its not about you and its about serving the other person in love.

TheRealAriel · Nov 4, 2016

Thanks everybody for the advice.

I have definitely been praying about it, and though I haven't received any definite yes or no, I do feel like God has continually brought us together in crazy ways. I could go crazy overthinking every little thing and worrying about what it means for our future, but the truth is he's my best friend. I am excited to see him everyday, he pushes me to be better, I enjoy doing even menial tasks with him and there are times when he still gives me the craziest butterflies. There are a lot of things I hope we can grow through and he'll mature out of, but even as he is today I love him completely.

I felt fear today when he was looking at rings, and that made me freak out and overanalyze things... but I think fear on the brink of a life change like that is natural and it doesn't have to mean there's something wrong with us.

I'm going to continue to pray.. but somehow I'm starting to feel peaceful at the thought that if he asked me today I would say yes.

Toro · Nov 4, 2016

All I can really say is if you marry him. Marry him because you love him as he is (as you stated you do) not cause you hope to change him or that he will change into the husband you want him to be.

Marry someone for the love of them and accept/love the changes they and you go through that cause you to grow together. Don't marry cause "they have potential" that you can "change them" into the "perfect" husband.

Changes happen naturally. If they are "forced" they are only met with resentment in the end.

Boogeyman07 · Nov 4, 2016

CodyFaith said:
OMM:

Don't want to be single anymore. Nope, I do not. My eyes are more open for it starting today.

Headin to the dark side huh?

James of Arc said:
Whats on my mind?

Am I going to make it? I know the power of Jesus can do it but can I?

No you can't. None of us can.

TheRealAriel said:
OMM: when or how do you know you're ready for marriage? A partner can never be perfect.. at what point do you accept the imperfections and choose to grow together in marriage vs continuing to date? What kinds of imperfections are deal breakers and what kinds are normal? I'm wishing I had dated more men about now so I could be more informed

Not qualified in any way to answer this, but I say there shouldn't be any doubt

EyesOfKohl · Nov 4, 2016

What's going down today?

EyesOfKohl · Nov 4, 2016

I want to try cooking some items from the Greek cuisine

EyesOfKohl · Nov 4, 2016

This firstly to be precise http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/halloumi_saganaki_92664

Toro · Nov 4, 2016

Wow, I have catching up to do. I had no idea that Flash, Arrow and Supernatural returned.

leothelioness · Nov 4, 2016

TheRealAriel said:
Thanks everybody for the advice.

I have definitely been praying about it, and though I haven't received any definite yes or no, I do feel like God has continually brought us together in crazy ways. I could go crazy overthinking every little thing and worrying about what it means for our future, but the truth is he's my best friend. I am excited to see him everyday, he pushes me to be better, I enjoy doing even menial tasks with him and there are times when he still gives me the craziest butterflies. There are a lot of things I hope we can grow through and he'll mature out of, but even as he is today I love him completely.

I felt fear today when he was looking at rings, and that made me freak out and overanalyze things... but I think fear on the brink of a life change like that is natural and it doesn't have to mean there's something wrong with us.

I'm going to continue to pray.. but somehow I'm starting to feel peaceful at the thought that if he asked me today I would say yes.

This is how you know. You have peace about it and it all seems right. God just gave you your answer.

MotherFirefly · Nov 4, 2016

Boogeyman07 said:
there shouldn't be any doubt

Whoa. Hold up. Nobody argued this?

Doubt Isn't a negative thing, if you understand it. Doubt is merely an indicator you are asking the right questions. Don't be afraid of your brain doing its job - analyzing situations, and theorizing possible conclusions. Foresight is the more positive word.

In short. You are either lying or ignorant if you claim you don't have some amount of doubt with -every- decision you make.

The person you choose to spend the rest of your life with is the exception?

Phew.

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