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The sweet, wonderful, intelligent kindergartner I watch everyday, T.
Ugh...T is adopted..his two siblings A and K are also adopted...but A and K are actually siblings. A and T are in the program...The parents CLEARLY favor A and K over T. And T can tell...Whenever they come to pick A and T they hang around A, hugging him, talking about his day, admiring whatever it is he is doing atm, while to T, it's a simple, "come on, get your stuff". A sometimes has behavior problems...but if I try to talk to the parents about this, they just let it go. I swear, it's like I'm just telling myself. If T does anything however, it's a huge deal.
Both A and T had terrible infanthoods...Leaving them both with anxiety problems. T tends to pee his pants sometimes...and if and when he does, he's scolded harshly - and I've even seen him spanked because of it...(which makes me want to shout at the parents, NEWS FLASH, THAT'S MAKING IT WORSE!!!)
There are times T tries to hide when his parents come to get him. There has been times when T tells me, "I don't want to go home, I hate my dad". Today, their mother came to get them. As usual, she was all about A, and only telling T to get it together so they can go.
T doesn't move, instead he hangs his head, and when he looks up again, I can see tears slowly forming...and I can tell he's trying to fight it off. He puts his head in his arms on the table and I go over to him, try to see what's wrong, he simply tells me he doesn't want to go. Well, I can't do anything about thatsigh , so I just give him a hug and tell him he has to go, but I can't wait to see him tomorrow.
Finally, he gets up, and walks after his mom and brother..and then looks back at me, with the tears still in his eyes..
UGH!!!!!! Why adopt a precious boy like him if you aren't going to give him the love he, especially, needs?!
Oh, I so wish I could take him home with me instead...
and I really just needed to get that out....
I want to punch those people in the face.
ETA: the mother and father. Not the poor children, obviously.
The job interview I have in the morning I am fine now but I know my nerves are going to be running a muck in the morning and I just want to make a good impression .I know its something I could do I just want whats best I know even getting this interview was a god send its so hard here to even get one .
The sweet, wonderful, intelligent kindergartner I watch everyday, T.
Ugh...T is adopted..his two siblings A and K are also adopted...but A and K are actually siblings. A and T are in the program...The parents CLEARLY favor A and K over T. And T can tell...Whenever they come to pick A and T they hang around A, hugging him, talking about his day, admiring whatever it is he is doing atm, while to T, it's a simple, "come on, get your stuff". A sometimes has behavior problems...but if I try to talk to the parents about this, they just let it go. I swear, it's like I'm just telling myself. If T does anything however, it's a huge deal.
Both A and T had terrible infanthoods...Leaving them both with anxiety problems. T tends to pee his pants sometimes...and if and when he does, he's scolded harshly - and I've even seen him spanked because of it...(which makes me want to shout at the parents, NEWS FLASH, THAT'S MAKING IT WORSE!!!)
There are times T tries to hide when his parents come to get him. There has been times when T tells me, "I don't want to go home, I hate my dad". Today, their mother came to get them. As usual, she was all about A, and only telling T to get it together so they can go.
T doesn't move, instead he hangs his head, and when he looks up again, I can see tears slowly forming...and I can tell he's trying to fight it off. He puts his head in his arms on the table and I go over to him, try to see what's wrong, he simply tells me he doesn't want to go. Well, I can't do anything about thatsigh , so I just give him a hug and tell him he has to go, but I can't wait to see him tomorrow.
Finally, he gets up, and walks after his mom and brother..and then looks back at me, with the tears still in his eyes..
UGH!!!!!! Why adopt a precious boy like him if you aren't going to give him the love he, especially, needs?!
Oh, I so wish I could take him home with me instead...
and I really just needed to get that out....
The job interview I have in the morning I am fine now but I know my nerves are going to be running a muck in the morning and I just want to make a good impression .I know its something I could do I just want whats best I know even getting this interview was a god send its so hard here to even get one .
When the kids get scared, its so easy for me to be strong for them, to talk them through their fears. When I get scared, I want someone to do it for me too.
Well, it probably has to do with the fact that both his parents give way more attention and time to the other twoI'm in tears.
Does he happen to ever mention or hint towards why he is anxious about his dad?
Well, it probably has to do with the fact that both his parents give way more attention and time to the other two
...though, I've never seen his dad even smile at him....I've seen him scowl, yell, spank, etc...but never a smile...
ugh...
ETA - his anxiety problems existed before his adopted dad, though
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