Whats it all about?

[PennylessZ28]

I've heard of courting and books like "I kissed dating goodbye" but what is it all about?

My past relationships haven't lead me anywhere. Frankly I'm getting tired of the worlds way of dating.

 

[erinm]

it is simply "dating" with a purpose. You don't date people you have no intention of having a committement with, you are dating for a committement--like marriage. It's more God centered and what you would think God would want, rather than your earthly and fleshly wants.

 

[katelyn]

I think one of the goals is to prevent you from getting hurt. When you date "the world's way," I think it is easy to get too attached to the person too soon and then you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.

Granted, once you start having feelings for someone, it's hard to stuff them away or deny them. But through a more balanced approach to dating, you always keep it in your mind that you are trying to get to know the person so that you will know if there is potential for marriage behind your feelings. When we dive in, we often miss the important issues that are a foundation for marriage - feelings alone aren't a good enough foundation, but it is very easy to forget that when you rush in.

I haven't read any courtship books, so I don't know if I'm exactly explaining the goals of courtship. My favorite dating book is The Ten Commandments of Dating by Ben Young...the first half of the book especially.

 

[JahRawks]

As far as I'm concerned, courting is like erinm said, it's dating with a purpose, I'm currently courting the girl I like to call my best friend, and basically what we're doing is talking about everything, and talking about when is the right time to get married for us, and all that good stuff, but it's bascially just dating with the intention of marriage in mind. Hope that helps. God Bless-
Nathan

 

[Erichero]

Check out my article on Dating vs Courtship:


http://www.geocities.com/christianjournal/articles/courtship.htm

Basically, I say that when you get emotionally or physically involved with someone, you form "soul-ties" which weren't meant to be broken (that's why split relationships hurt so much). When we keep breaking soul-ties, it becomes no suprise that divorce comes easy when you finally do marry.

So I say, dating is out - think whether you want to marry the person before you start to date them.

Honestly, I don't know what it all means when things don't work out in a relationship, but as a principle, it sure makes sense.