so for anyone that is unfamiliar with my story, my husband decided he would rather have a polygamist lifestyle so that he can have 50 or more children. And no that's not an over exaggeration. This was discovered about 6 months ago, recently I found proof and confronted him and he admitted he has already been on dating sites talking with women. This is through polygamist dating site. I have been seeing a counselor for the past 4 months. My husband only went one time. My therapist has helped me out tremendously. Currently him and I work at an apartment complex as the managers, his mother is the owner. We currently live in separate apartments. I am looking for other work and a new apartment and will be moving a few hours away from here the middle of April. My therapist suggested that since I'm not very good at voicing my emotions and at this point it doesn't seem to do any good with him he's too much in a fog she suggested that I write a letter expressing all of my hurt and my pain and the day I leave give it to him. She thinks I should do this because then I will have no regret that I didn't get to say my part. I am NOT a mean or hateful person not even towards him, everyone keeps telling me I have every right to be just awful to him, but I just can't bring myself to be that way. This is the man I loved and he has betrayed me. Each day I asked God to help me forgive him to show him we're seeing and Grace so maybe that's why I can't be hateful towards him. So I guess my question is, for those that have been cheated on or for those that have cheated, what would you write in a letter to your spouse and if you were the one that cheated would resonate with you at all if your betrayed spouse wrote you a letter?
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What would you write to a cheating spouse?
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ProudMomxmany
slightly insane mom of many
I would just be honest and tell him how his betrayal hurt you. I would also tell him that you are looking forward to healing for both of you and you don't wish him any harm.
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If she cheated as in had sex with someone else, I'd say "Bye."
If he wants to have many children and he has not cheated on you then maybe God is calling him to do that with you.
If he wants to have many children and he has not cheated on you then maybe God is calling him to do that with you.
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