what would you do?

[pboop]

I get a call every morning from my husband. Nothing good. I'm having a hard time handling it. He has no words of comfort, no explanation. He says he just wants to know how I am...I don't get it. Is he waiting for me to say "fine"...I can't because I'm not fine. I am doing my best not to be nasty but its really getting to me. Every time the call comes through 'her' name appears on my caller ID and I get actual pain in my gut. I'm at a point where I'm about to cut off all communication with him. I've told him I pray for the restoration of our marriage....he says nothing. He claims he still has love for me....is he crazy? how can you love someone when you cause them this kind of pain. At times he sounds sad yet if I suggest any solution it falls on deaf ears.... any advice out there?

 

[free4all]

I don't know your full story, pboop, but I would probably be using my answering machine.

Especially if he was still living with the other woman and was unrepentant.

I'm sorry you are going through this. If he remains unrepentant, maybe he needs to be talking to your lawyer rather than you.

 

[cjba]

I would not answer the phone anymore when he calls. Don't let him know you are always there. He is calling out of guilt. Yes, he can still have love for you if this is what he is telling you. He has a problem with the commitment.

Talk to you soon,

God Bless

 

[Crystal~Rose]

I am so sorry for your pain. I know what you are going through, the lord carried me through and he will do the same for you. Something that really helped me was reading books, my favorite was Love must be tough by: James Dobson. It helped me understand what not to do to make things harder than they already were. hang in there. Praying for you.

 

[madison1101]

Don't answer when he calls you. Call him at work, or on his cell phone and tell him you will not take calls from her number. Tell him you would like to reconcile and suggest marital therapy. Leave it at that. Don't take his calls when he calls. Call him on your terms on your time, at his work, or his cell. Take control of the phone call situations.

 

[pboop]

I don't know your full story, pboop, but I would probably be using my answering machine.

Especially if he was still living with the other woman and was unrepentant.

I'm sorry you are going through this. If he remains unrepentant, maybe he needs to be talking to your lawyer rather than you.

I

 

[pboop]

I don't know your full story, pboop, but I would probably be using my answering machine.

Especially if he was still living with the other woman and was unrepentant.

I'm sorry you are going through this. If he remains unrepentant, maybe he needs to be talking to your lawyer rather than you.

I've been seriously thinking the same thing. I kept

 

[pboop]

I don't know your full story, pboop, but I would probably be using my answering machine.

Especially if he was still living with the other woman and was unrepentant.

I'm sorry you are going through this. If he remains unrepentant, maybe he needs to be talking to your lawyer rather than you.

I've been seriously thinking the same thing. I kept praying it wouldn't come to that but it looks like that may

 

[pboop]

I don't know your full story, pboop, but I would probably be using my answering machine.

Especially if he was still living with the other woman and was unrepentant.

I'm sorry you are going through this. If he remains unrepentant, maybe he needs to be talking to your lawyer rather than you.

I've been seriously thinking the same thing. I kept praying it wouldn't come to that but it looks like that may have to be my next move. Thank

 

[pboop]

I don't know your full story, pboop, but I would probably be using my answering machine.

Especially if he was still living with the other woman and was unrepentant.

I'm sorry you are going through this. If he remains unrepentant, maybe he needs to be talking to your lawyer rather than you.

I've been seriously thinking the same thing. I kept praying it wouldn't come to that but it looks like that may have to be my next move. Thank you for the advice.

 

[novi12]

Phoop I am sorry for all this and I would like to advice u to pray with faith adn u'll get the message from the Lord

 

[free4all]

Don't answer when he calls you. Call him at work, or on his cell phone and tell him you will not take calls from her number.

This is such a great response. This speaks to the heart of the matter, him being involved with her.

Don't take his calls when he calls. Call him on your terms on your time, at his work, or his cell. Take control of the phone call situations.

I hope you do this immediately and follow through without exception.

He made his choice. Now it's time to hold him accountable, and stop allowing him to rub your face in it everytime he calls.

 

[pboop]

I don't know your full story, pboop, but I would probably be using my answering machine.

Especially if he was still living with the other woman and was unrepentant.

I'm sorry you are going through this. If he remains unrepentant, maybe he needs to be talking to your lawyer rather than you.

I've been seriously thinking the same thing. I kept praying it wouldn't come to that but it looks like that may have to be my next move. Thank you for the advice.

 

[pboop]

Hey why did my posts come out like this? weird!

 

[pboop]

Thank you to all that replied. This morning I did not even answer his call. When I do...you're right it should be on my terms...I've taken enough. Last night I prayed for strength and wisdom. Deep down I think I was afraid not to hear from him. He is rubbing my face in it...I just didn't want to admit to myself that he could be so cruel. I actually have love for all of you....thanks so much! Please pray for me.

 

[cjba]

You are in my prayers as always.

God Bless