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No. I kick them out after they tell me they are gay and do not want mental or spiritual help with it. In other words, if they choose to live what I believe is a sinful lifestyle, they will not do it in my house.
Being gay is a sinful lifestyle - not just the sex part. Being gay isn't just about the sex, right?My, you DO jump around, Ms Angellica. A moment ago you denied equating "I'm 'gay'" to "I'm having sex". Sure wish I could pin you down on what you really mean.
By the way, where does this 'mental' or 'spiritual' help come from?
Now that they're out of the house and have their own place, would you go to their house and visit them? Would you allow them over to your place for visits? Would they be invited to family gatherings?No. I kick them out after they tell me they are gay and do not want mental or spiritual help with it. In other words, if they choose to live what I believe is a sinful lifestyle, they will not do it in my house.
Yeah, as long as they didn't bring their gay partner or whatever you call it around.Now that they're out of the house and have their own place, would you go to their house and visit them? Would you allow them over to your place for visits? Would they be invited to family gatherings?
I would say, "I'm so glad you felt comfortable telling me/us," depending on if they told just me, or both my husband and me. "Your father and I love you no matter what. There is nothing wrong with who you are or who you are attracted to. Your 'Uncle' Rye is gay as well, and your Aunts are lesbians. And if anyone gives you a hard time about this, it is because they are not open minded; not because there is anything wrong with you. I love you just the way you are."So, my question is simply: What would YOU do if your son/daughter came to you and said, "Um (clears throat), mom/dad ...I'm 'gay'?
Being gay is a sinful lifestyle - not just the sex part. Being gay isn't just about the sex, right?
Mental and/or spiritual help comes from a counselor or a psychiatrist or a psychologist or a pastor.
So what if they agree to go to such counseling? What if they agree to get such help?Being gay is a sinful lifestyle - not just the sex part. Being gay isn't just about the sex, right?
Mental and/or spiritual help comes from a counselor or a psychiatrist or a psychologist or a pastor.
I would say, "I'm so glad you felt comfortable telling me/us," depending on if they told just me, or both my husband and me. "Your father and I love you no matter what. There is nothing wrong with who you are or who you are attracted to. Your 'Uncle' Rye is gay as well, and your Aunts are lesbians. And if anyone gives you a hard time about this, it is because they are not open minded; not because there is anything wrong with you. I love you just the way you are."
I hardly think being gay or coming out or announcing you are gay is a minor issue.Well, it's being sexually attracted to someone of the same gender. Surely your child confessing to that wouldn't have you throwing hysterics, would it? If so ...why, precisely? I really AM curious as to why such a relatively minor issue can cause SUCH major disruptions within a family. I really AM at a loss as to why this is so. To me, it doesn't make any sense.
I'd probably get references from friends or families or online.Good luck with that. Do we check the Yellow Pages? Any money back guarantees?
And when the Psychiatrist comes back to you and says that homosexuality is perfectly normal, what then?No. I kick them out after they tell me they are gay and do not want mental or spiritual help with it. In other words, if they choose to live what I believe is a sinful lifestyle, they will not do it in my house.
Allhart, I do give you credit as you seem to be getting more open minded about things.Also with that said, we as parents should lean more to a logical reaction than emotional reaction; in which most likely is based in anger out of hurt feels..This is hard to do, for me!
Counseling or therapy doesn't just end like that. If they really wanted help and trusted God, He would bring them through this issue. But there would be no gay activity (sex or otherwise) in my house.So what if they agree to go to such counseling? What if they agree to get such help?
What if, in the end, after years of help and counseling, they are still homosexual?
Would you then kick them out, even after agreeing to get help and counseling?
After all, you DID say that your decision to kick them out was contingent upon them refusing such help and counseling.
Right?
So after potential years of getting mental and spiritual help, and they're still gay, you wouldn't kick them out, right?
Unless you want to change your stance now.
So you would not respect them for you they are as person and would choose to shame them for it.Yeah, as long as they didn't bring their gay partner or whatever you call it around.
I hardly think being gay or coming out or announcing you are gay is a minor issue.
Hey, is a post like this allowed?
(emphasis mine)Obviously, anyone is welcome to respond to the question but I'm particularly interested in responses from some of the 'hardline' anti-'gay' members of the forum.
They may be ashamed of it, I dunno. But I wouldn't shame them, I just wouldn't put up with it.So you would not respect them for you they are as person and would choose to shame them for it.
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