What To Do? Possible TMI?

[CruciFixed]

So, Hubby said awhile back that he doesn't want anymore kids....well at least for awhile but he was considering vasectomy.
Well last night he made a deposit without protecting himself and I figured it was because I wasn't ovulating. So we're in the car today talking about how Joey (his autistic 10 yr old) doesn't have anyone to play with that actually wants to play with him. He likes interaction with others but he doesn't know what he's doing so the other neighborhood kids quickly lose their patience.
I was half joking that we should have a lot of kids so Joey would be able to have kids who understand his problem and want to play with him.
So he says "Well....I was kinda making a deposit last night." And I was shocked. Seriously....not expecting him to want to have anymore children at least for another few years. I told him I was not ovulating anyway and he said "Oh." sounding kind of disappointed.
So he said "Well.....I'm just gonna make random deposits. Not all the time or anything."
What in the world?!:o I don't know what to do. We cannot afford another child and I don't know if I can tell him no. He may give up on the idea for good if I tell him to wait now. He's not as young as I am. He was 12 when I was born. I don't know how long I can expect him to wait. He told me we can do it, rely on the Lord and such. We can survive he says. I don't know if I can have that kind of faith.
What do I do? Tell him to wait a few years when we have our own place and more money or free style it and hold my breath?:o
Any advice?

 

[PreachersWife2004]

After having three children three years in a row, I can honestly tell you that no matter what kind of schedule you think you want or have, God will always prevail. Short of removing your uterus there's always a way to get pregnant.

Another thing I've found is that there is never a right time for kids. Something will always come up, so yeah, put yourself in God's hands. If it is good to Him that you bear more children, you'll do just fine.



I understand your feelings though. I thought God was crazy when I found out I was pregnant with Isaac, our youngest.

 

[CruciFixed]

If I get pregnant this time it will be planned by my husband mostly. I think. I don't think God is crazy. I think my husband is.


Thanks for the advice.

I'm just worried he's lost it or its some manopause or something. He didn't want kids a week ago. Last night he decided in the middle of the night while I was asleep its time for more.
If he gets me pregnant I'm going to need to get 2 jobs because he can't work. I don't understand the sudden change of heart. He was adamantly against babies just a few days ago. My son just got on schedule a few months ago. He just learned his schedule and sleeps well through the night up to 11 hours each night. I feel like I might not be able to go back on my sleep now that I have it. I learned some things from this first one but I don't think its enough. I know this all sounds selfish but we're dirt poor not just regular poor. I just graduated and was hoping to go to college soon....

This all sound selfish but I was thinking with a career we could afford a second and third child. =\

I just gave all of my son's clothes away. He seemed so sure about being done at least for awhile. This was the bad feeling I blogged about the other day.

There's nothing I can do about it because he's pretty sure about his target this time.....my womb is his bullseye.

 

[Cris413]

Well sweetness...pray about it...discuss it with your husband...gently and honestly tell him how you feel and ask him to pray with you about it.

 

[Simon_Templar]

My parents had 8 kids, all raised on one teacher's salary. There is always a way to get by. Some times they didn't know how they'd make it, but God always made a way.

 

[dies-l]

I would encourage you to read 1 Cor. 7 and Eph. 5:22-33 in thinking about how to handle the situation. Ultimately, this is a joint decision and to allow one person total control in making this type of decision is inconsistent with the biblical model of marriage. So, have a serious talk with your husband about what each of you wants and what each of you is able to handle right now, and make a decision that both of you can be happy with that takes into account the totality of your circumstances. I will pray for guidance for you and your husband during this time.

 

[CruciFixed]

My parents had 8 kids, all raised on one teacher's salary. There is always a way to get by. Some times they didn't know how they'd make it, but God always made a way.

That's pretty encouraging, actually.


Cris: Yeah that's good advice we should definitely pray about this more. He prays all the time so I know he's praying about it. I just haven't thought of bringing it to God.
I need the kind of faith Hubby has.

Thank you all for your advice. Now I don't feel so upset.

 

[MrJim]

manopause? I wonder if that's what I got...

 

[CruciFixed]

That's what I am calling it. He's in a middle aged man rock band and he wants another baby. I have pics of their band somewhere too.