There's this guy that I met at Bible study and I don't like him. He's a nice guy so when he sent me a friend request on facebook I accepted. Now he constantly emails me and I don't always reply immediately. When I don't reply for a couple of days he will email me and tell me that he's not going to email me anymore. I sometimes run into him because we live in the same town. He seems to have poor self esteem. Would it be really bad if I deleted him and blocked him from facebook? What should I do?
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What should I do?
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I wouldn't block him at this point, just keep doing what you've done so far. You are under no obligation to reply to his e-mails immediately, or at all, if you don't want to. Show him Christian love by being friendly, but be careful not to give him any false hopes.. Try to avoid personal topics.. Good luck!
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Smiley,
I would agree with you that he appears to have some self-esteem issues. He really needs friends of the same sex. I strongly recommend that you go to your pastor and his wife about how to have some of the male members close to his age take him under their wing. He needs to know that it is really inappropriate to be contacting you so much.
Father God will You please send other men into this person's life who will be able to guide and mold him along his journey? Help him to see everything with common sense and through clear eyes. Help him to meet other men his age who might be eager to befriend him and to teach him. Help him to stop contacting Smiley so often. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
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Do use caution in dealing with this man. He is manipulative. He probably does have self esteem issues, which is the cause of his manipulation. I know, i am the same way. I am aware of my tendency to manipulate, its a part of myself i am trying to change. And i try to be aware of myself to ensure i am not doing it. But change takes time, and it happens.
But if a person is not aware of this behavior, or accepts it, they are likely also a very volatile person, as i was. Not saying so much a physical risk, but a mental and emotional risk on your end. So keep your guard up if you keep him on as an aquaintence
But if a person is not aware of this behavior, or accepts it, they are likely also a very volatile person, as i was. Not saying so much a physical risk, but a mental and emotional risk on your end. So keep your guard up if you keep him on as an aquaintence
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If you're happy to reply to him but in your own time just tell him (gently at first, maybe less gently if he persists). Sometimes it seems people assume everyone else lives connected to email ready to jump on incoming messages and reply to them This Very Second. Reality doesn't work that way if you're not surgically attached to your smartphone.
It's one thing to help someone with low self-esteem but people in that position can easily become very manipulative, and ever-more clingy and needy as if they've realised they've found a way to force people to pay attention to them.
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