What should I do?

[SmileyPretzel]

Hi everyone,
I'm having a real big problem in school. You see I'm a sophmore in highschool and everyone makes fun of me. You see I'm not the most pleasing to the eyes, people make fun of me all the time for being ugly. They tell me stuff like I'm so ugly when i walk into taco bell everyone runs to the border. It really hurts my fealings and I'm tired of it. I just try to laugh along with them hoping they would be my friend but it doesn't work they still make fun of me. If i ask them to stop they say stuff like if you are going to be that ugly and make us see you, the least you can do is hear us. In lunch I either sit alone, or people come to ridicule me the whole time. I asked my parents for help but my own dad says he agrees wtih them that I'm ugly. I was tired of having no girl friend so I asked out the ugliest girl in school. Even she turned me down saying she could get better. That really hurt my fealings. I thought maybe if i became an alter boy then God would help me out. But when I asked the priest if I could learn to become one he said he had plenty of them already. Just a week earlier this other kid in my grade joined though.
Anyway I don't know what to do, I really lonely, and my parents say that if i want plastic surgery i have to buy it myself. The problem is when I ask for job applications, the people who work there tell me not to bother cause I have no chance.

 

[Anti Existance]

*hugs* i love you and accept you completely.

I do not care who you are, Gods love for you is complete and unconditional.

Keep loving and helping others, and serve God. The souls of the people who redicule you reside in darkness. You see life is a test ,where God reviews how much you love and help others. Reading this near-death experience http://www.near-death.com/rosenblit.html will help you redefine your position. Spiritually the people who redicule you are moving backwards into their own hell, do not yell or express anger towards them, do not resist evil as Jesus told you, its important that you stand firm in life but remain humble, innocent and loving.

There is a story in the bible of Job, where de Satan says to God, if you take everything away from this rich man, he will not Rejoice you as much, in the story Satan was allowed to take everything away from Job. He lost his land,he lost his servants, he lost his cattle and he lost his children. Job ripped his clothes in tears and exclaimed God gives, and god takes. Praise the Lord!

So even when Job had nothing ,he remained strong in his faith and praised the lord.

You must stand strong also and remember that all what has been given in our lives comes from God, therefore all what you see here on earth are only temporarily strenghts, and weaknesses.

For what is more beautifull, the most beautifull person in the world, or giving a bread to a starving person who is almost dying? The last act is infinite more beautifull then the first,

Be like that in your heart and you will truelly be beautifull.

 

[goldenviolet]

God bless you hun. i had horrible exsperiances in school. pizza face, boy, raisin brains, stupid fat ugly. i only went to the 4th grade. i'm mentally ill. it was a court oder that i could no longer attend public schools. anyway. hearing your story i think of a few things. one, i grew up hating myself, not knowing how lovely God made me.
i'd like to see you start replacing these things you hear with God's loving point of view.. the truth about beauty.
there is many levels of beauty. you are from the Master Artist! ... God bless you the other thing i think of is the great hurt people can cause. surround your life with things that counter hurt. surround your life with things that build you up. activities both in spirituality and physical. poor your heart and soul into purpose. God has a beautiful plan for each of us. search it. you will be blessed. you will see that you are blessed.
another thing congrats! you have come so far in school! it's great. i finally got my GED when i was 25 or 27. not being able to attend public schools was very hard. anyway. i pray that you receive some encouragment. love and blessings, dee

 

[tapero]

Hi, I'm so sorry people are so cruel to you now. I read about how people tell you not to bother applying for jobs. That's ridiculous that they feel the right to tell you this. Don't give people power over you. Look people straight in the eye and don't look away. Try to have confidence in who you are and God bless your heart for writing your feelings to us. You are a strong person.

You know, I was with this girl once who for some reason I didn't notice her face. As we talked more and more, I realized how beautiful she was. I believe now that she was a Christian, and what I was seeing was God's love inside her. God was teaching me about the beauty within. It was an amazing experience.

You have a good heart and this will come through. I'm sorry that girl said no. That's her loss and by her rude ways thank God you didn't have to go out with her.

Anyway, God bless you. Tapero

 

[UnitynLove]

Have you been praying about a situation in your life and found yourself waiting for a breakthrough? Are you wondering why the answer hasn't come yet? Do you feel as though victory is passing you by?

Sometimes when we pray long and hard about a situation in our life without receiving any answers, we just learn to live with it. We go on about our business, wondering if or when God will send the answer. But God does hear those prayers, and He is working toward the answer even though we may not know all the details. And our situation can change suddenly—quickly ...without warning!

But one thing is certain; before God moves suddenly, we will wait. Waiting for answers is a fact of life. Nobody gets out of it. So the question is not if we'll wait, but rather how we'll wait. And I believe HOW will determine HOW LONG.

There are two ways to wait—one way is to wait passively and the other is to wait expectantly. A passive person hopes something good will happen, and he's willing to sit around waiting to see if it does. After a short time, he gives up. He says, "That's it! I've had it! I've waited and waited and nothing has happened." The passive person has a whole lot of wishbone but not much backbone!

The expectant person, on the other hand, is hopeful, aggressive, and purposeful. He believes that his answer is just around the corner—due to arrive any minute. His belief is not a passive thing. His heart is full of hope expecting his problem to be solved at any moment. He wakes up every morning expecting to find his answer. He may wait and wait, but suddenly, what he's been waiting for happens.

It's just like when a woman is pregnant—it is said that she is expecting a baby. She carries inside her the promise of a baby, and even though she can't see it, she knows it's there. The moment she learns of her pregnancy, she begins to plan for the baby's arrival. She starts to collect items she'll need, and she busily gets the nursery ready. She actively prepares for the arrival of the baby because she knows the promise will be fulfilled—it's just a matter of time. She is expectant, and she will wait as long as it takes.

We know the word "wait" means "to expect" or "to look for." But remember, it also means, "to serve"—just like a waiter "waits" on your table at a restaurant. Our act of waiting isn't supposed to be spent sitting around passively hoping something will happen sometime soon.

Once we've asked God to answer a question or solve a problem, we need to be eagerly awaiting His answer. We need to be actively serving, aggressive, and expectant. When our hearts are eager to hear from God, He loves to rush in suddenly with His solution. In many cases, this waiting period actually serves as a time of preparation for the answer. If God answered right away, many of us would be ill prepared to handle His solution.

Sometimes we find ourselves in such horrible messes that it's hard to imagine waiting one more second. But we need to keep waiting on God and trusting Him with a sweet and simple faith. Then, in a way we never could have figured out—God moves suddenly!

In the Bible, Paul and Silas knew about waiting, and they waited well. Acts 16 tells the story of how they were attacked by a crowd, beaten, and thrown in jail. Verse 24 says the jailer ...put them into the inner prison (the dungeon) and fastened their feet in the stocks. He was making sure they couldn't get out. But about midnight, God showed up. Now, it would have been nice if He had come a little earlier, but Paul and Silas didn't seem to mind—they just decided to start singing and began to worship the Lord. They began to "wait" on God.

Verses 25 & 26 say, But about midnight, as Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns of praise to God, and the [other] prisoners were listening to them, suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the very foundations of the prison were shaken; and at once all the doors were opened and everyone's shackles were unfastened. God answered them suddenly!

When people patiently and expectantly wait on God in the midst of horrible circumstances, suddenly God breaks through. So don't give up! Don't stop believing! Stay full of hope and expectation. God's power is limitless, and He will break through for you.

 

[UnitynLove]

Learning to Like Yourself

Did you know that you and I have to learn to deal with our DO separate from our WHO? The fact is, I don't DO everything right all the time, but that doesn't affect WHO I am. I know I'm loved and that I'm still a good person. I have made mistakes in my life—and I'm sure I'll make mistakes in the future—but I still like myself.

If you like yourself—even though nobody else may—you will make it. When you start to like yourself, other people will begin to like you too. Liking yourself does not mean you are full of pride—it simply means you accept yourself as the person God created you to be. We all need changes in our behavior, but accepting ourselves as God's creation is vital to our progress in becoming an emotionally healthy person.

If we can master this one thing—liking ourselves—it will work wonders in helping us to overcome a shame-based nature. Let me explain to you what I mean.

Many people live under what I call the curse of failure. They can never do anything they set out to do. They're always failing, always messing up, always getting disappointed, discouraged, and depressed. They don't like who they are because they have adopted a shame-based nature.

For a long time I didn't like my personality—and since my personality is who I am, I didn't like me. I didn't want to be as bold and straightforward as I am. I didn't want to be so direct and blunt.

I wanted to be like one of my friends. She had a real gift of being sweet and kind and gentle. What I didn't realize is that she was just born that way—and I wasn't. Because I didn't like my personality and who I was, I tried to change myself. I wanted to be more like my friend. I tried to be the perfect woman, the ideal wife and mother who grew her own tomatoes and canned them, made jelly, sewed her family's clothes, and on and on.

It didn't work. It was the old story of trying to fit the round peg in the square hole. I was just trying to be something I wasn't. Finally, I had to learn to accept myself the way I was and let go of the idea of being like someone else. I began to realize that, although I did need to change some areas of my life, "who I was" would never change.

When a person has a shame-based nature, as I did, it becomes the source or root of many complex inner problems like depression, loneliness, isolation, and alienation. All kinds of compulsive disorders are rooted in shame: drug, alcohol, and other chemical addictions; eating disorders like bulimia, anorexia, and obesity; money addictions like stinginess and gambling; sexual perversions of all kinds—the list is endless.

For example, "workaholism" is a very destructive compulsive disorder in our society today. There are people who are such workaholics that they can never enjoy life. Unless they are working day and night they feel irresponsible. In fact, some people are like I was—if they are enjoying themselves, they feel guilty about it.

Another example of a destructive disorder is perfectionism. Some people are tormented by perfectionism because of abuse or some other negative situation in their past. They keep trying to be perfect in order to win the attention and affection they feel they were denied. People who live with these disorders set themselves up for failure. They set unreasonably high standards for themselves, and when they ultimately fail, they feel badly about themselves. They make impossible schedules and then make themselves—and everyone else around them—miserable because they are constantly rushing around.

Workaholics and perfectionists are just two examples of the types of people who really haven't learned to simply like who they are. Shame, because of something they may have done in their past, has caused them to dislike themselves. Remember, you must separate your DO from your WHO. You are a unique and special individual, with God-given talents and skills, and even though you may have made mistakes in the past, it's time to move on and learn to like yourself!

 

[Just4Jesus]

Hi everyone,
I'm having a real big problem in school. You see I'm a sophmore in highschool and everyone makes fun of me. You see I'm not the most pleasing to the eyes, people make fun of me all the time for being ugly. They tell me stuff like I'm so ugly when i walk into taco bell everyone runs to the border. It really hurts my fealings and I'm tired of it. I just try to laugh along with them hoping they would be my friend but it doesn't work they still make fun of me. If i ask them to stop they say stuff like if you are going to be that ugly and make us see you, the least you can do is hear us. In lunch I either sit alone, or people come to ridicule me the whole time. I asked my parents for help but my own dad says he agrees wtih them that I'm ugly. I was tired of having no girl friend so I asked out the ugliest girl in school. Even she turned me down saying she could get better. That really hurt my fealings. I thought maybe if i became an alter boy then God would help me out. But when I asked the priest if I could learn to become one he said he had plenty of them already. Just a week earlier this other kid in my grade joined though.
Anyway I don't know what to do, I really lonely, and my parents say that if i want plastic surgery i have to buy it myself. The problem is when I ask for job applications, the people who work there tell me not to bother cause I have no chance.

First I want to say God Bless You hon. People can be so cruel and you know what, they are the ones who have the insecurity problem(kids from school) if they didn't,they wouldn't feel like they had to be bullies. And thats just not right. I can relate with you. People used to call me Bugs Bunny, and other names..You just keep your head held high. We are all standing in agreement with you that it's gonna be ok. It makes me angry to hear these things. You are a gift of God, you are beautiful...God does not make mistakes

 

[AeroSound]

Hi everyone,
I'm having a real big problem in school. You see I'm a sophmore in highschool and everyone makes fun of me. You see I'm not the most pleasing to the eyes, people make fun of me all the time for being ugly. They tell me stuff like I'm so ugly when i walk into taco bell everyone runs to the border. It really hurts my fealings and I'm tired of it. I just try to laugh along with them hoping they would be my friend but it doesn't work they still make fun of me. If i ask them to stop they say stuff like if you are going to be that ugly and make us see you, the least you can do is hear us. In lunch I either sit alone, or people come to ridicule me the whole time. I asked my parents for help but my own dad says he agrees wtih them that I'm ugly. I was tired of having no girl friend so I asked out the ugliest girl in school. Even she turned me down saying she could get better. That really hurt my fealings. I thought maybe if i became an alter boy then God would help me out. But when I asked the priest if I could learn to become one he said he had plenty of them already. Just a week earlier this other kid in my grade joined though.
Anyway I don't know what to do, I really lonely, and my parents say that if i want plastic surgery i have to buy it myself. The problem is when I ask for job applications, the people who work there tell me not to bother cause I have no chance.

Hello, I've just read your story. I understand how you feel because I have very low self esteem too and for years have struggled with a disorder called BDD where my body image and opinion of my own worth is so low I feel depressed on a regular basis. I have to say that I couldn't have got this far without the help of my Heavenly Father, the Lord God, who helps me through it. Just like you, for me the pressure and hurt just keeps piling on and when it all gets too much I have to cry out to God for help, and He always helps me.

Pray to Him, and He'll help you. Perhaps not in an obvious way that you might have in mind - I frequently pray for my disorder to disappear overnight, and it never does - but something comes along just when the depression has become so great and relieves it a little, and I believe that that's God at work, helping me out.

I'm shocked that not only do some cruel people you know make fun of you but you said also your own dad has said similar things. I wish I could put my arm around you right now and try to comfort you, but since I can't be there in person to help, I just hope what I and the other people here have said has helped you.
And remember, you have a Father who'll never reject you, never laugh at you or turn you away - pray to Him, call out to Him, run to Him... He'll love you for who you are, and wipe your tears away.

God bless you.

 

[saerow]

Hey, why not post a picture and see if we can prove those bullies wrong?

Seek out those who aren't prejudiced against you because of your looks as your friends.

I got roachboy a lot while in high school, or crookielegs.

<curse> kids can be so mean! I hate it.

 

[RomanPrincess]

Im sorry your feeling down.i can understand how painful it is. Remember God sees the heart and what lies within the heart is what makes a person beautiful.The bible says outter beauty fades away .True beauty is a good heart and soul.That is what is beautiful...In Gods eyes.
There are people out there that look for inner beauty,a good heart and soul.....that's all that really matters anyway.

 

[SmileyPretzel]

Things have gotten worse for me. At Friday at school during lunch of was just eating lunch minding my own business as usually. Then this kid came up from behind me throw me to the floor and kept kicking me where it counts. I was in so much pain that my mom had to pick me up from school and take me home. Not only that but the principal never even heard my side of the story. But he called my dad and told him that I was suspended for starting a fight. Apparently my attacker told the principal that I was jealous of him and started to hit him and he defended himself. What makes it worse was the other kid wasn't even punished at all. They believed everything he said. I tried to explain to my dad but he was so mad that he beat me. My parents don't even want to talk to me. I keep praying but nothing happens what should I do?

 

[RomanPrincess]

you are not alone and we all love you here at CF.
Im sorry your hurting and i know how you feel.I went through lies and slander last year and it is very difficult.What i can tel you is maybe you can write your principle a note or call him and talk to him.Tell him what really happend and what goes on ,on a daily basis at school,how the group of people treat you.
Next pray about it and try showing kindnes towards the ones who are doing wrong towards you.Remember God sees what is happening and God knows what you are going through and he only allows what we can handel.His ways are not our ways.God is allowing this for some reason beyound our understanding.
I do understand what you are going through i was picked on too in jr high school just because i was from a different region and Italian.............go figure.
Some Kids act up when there young and grow out of it, they always like to pick on someone because it makes them feel better about there our insecureities.
Don't respond back to them instead show kindness.
Hang in there...God is with you and knows what is happening.....Depend and Rely on God's stength.