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What is Your Love Language?

Mela'h

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Have any of you read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? It's a great book! So what is your love language and if you're married, what is your spouse'?

Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.



Quality Time
Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.




Gifts
It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.




Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.




Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.
 

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I think I'm "all of the above" as well....and from the descriptions, I think my DH waffles somewhere between "physical touch" and "acts of service".

Is there some kind of online quiz for this? Maybe I'll take it, have hubby take it & see what the "truth" is...
 
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cookieboo said:
Have any of you read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? It's a great book! So what is your love language?


My top three rank very closely:
Quality Time, Acts of Service, & Physical Touch
I score moderately high on
Words of Affirmation.
Gifts is low on my priotities.

 
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What is Your Love Language

I enjoy all 5 of these expressions of love also, but here is the order of importance to me.
words of affirmation
quality time
physical touch
acts of service
gifts

I'm sure my wife likes them all too, but the biggie for her is acts of service
 
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MMXII said:
Physical Touch
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Words of Affirmation
Gifts

Not my spouse yet but John and I have the top three the same just not in the same order.
Jan; I do believe you and I got them in the exact same order, but if I am receiving "acts" and the "words" are lousy, then it doesn't mean much, and similarly if I am hearing "words", but there are no actions to back them up, then they are hollow...so, I believe those are 50/50 for me. But the first one is my MAJOR one; can't live w/o that human touch. My poor kids are cuddled and kissed to pieces!!
 
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cookieboo said:
Have any of you read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? It's a great book! So what is your love language and if you're married, what is your spouse'? ...
This was a very good book.
Mine are
Acts of Service - you need to walk your talk with me. Mostly that's what this means to me. Don't tell me you love me with out showing me. Otherwise, I can't see it.
Also, when I come home from work and a room is clean with out my asking ... Wow! I'm high as a kite! I get this from my kids. They know how to make mom happy
Then it's
Quality Time
always leads to
Physical Touch, for some reason
Words of Affirmation
Gifts
 
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