What is your "Love Language" ?

[ardeur]

http://www.fpgwebs.com/fivelovelang_profile.asp

I scored this:
Total A - Words of Affirmation:8
Total B - Quality Time:8
Total C - Receiving Gifts:0
Total D - Acts of Service:4
Total E - Physical Touch:10

So that means my primary "love language" is Physical Touch, but both Words of Affirmation and Quality time come in as a close second. I would have to say this is true.

 

[Pony]

This test said:

Total A - Words of Affirmation:6
Total B - Quality Time:7
Total C - Receiving Gifts:0
Total D - Acts of Service:6
Total E - Physical Touch:11

I am a bit suss about why the subject of gifts= love kept comming up.
Reciveing gifts from someone does not mean they love you. I recieved nothing for my B'day from my BF, but I know he does love me a lot. I don't need a silly gift to tell me this.

 

[silentpoet]

Total A - Words of Affirmation: 8
Total B - Quality Time: 9
Total C - Receiving Gifts: 1
Total D - Acts of Service: 4
Total E - Physical Touch: 8

I agree with the gifts thing. And service is more something I feel is my "job" than I expect. It is one way I show love. Not what I expect from others. Which brings up an interesting question, one could need or expect certain things from others but express love in a different manner.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Physical Touch: 12
Quality Time: 8
Words of Affirmation: 4
Acts of Service: 4
Receiving Gifts: 2

No surprises there! But I've read the book like 5-6 times now...

B (my boyfriend) is primarily Affirmation and Gifts, followed by Service, Time and Touch would be last (if we're talking ways he feels love!)...

Something to remember - learn to do MORE of what your SO feels 'loved' by, and LESS of what YOU feel 'loved' by. It's one of the things where 'do unto others' doesn't really work! This is something you need to TALK about with your SO, and not just hope he/she picks up the subliminal messages by doing things that would show YOU love!



Sasch

 

[skier_lacey12]

A-Talk 5
B-Times spent with 10
C- Gifts 3
D-Things done for 2
E-Touch 10
My step dad is a youth pastor and i have heard the "talk" about Love languages so many times! Also from my youth pastor! I love these...they are awesome to talk about if you are having trouble talking to someone, just found out their love language!

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Oh absolutely!

It's only in the past year that I've started realising that a lot of issues I've had with my mum, and a couple of friends, would have to do with differing love languages.

Ie. My mum's main love language would be Words of Affirmation. So often she's said 'I wish you'd just sometimes say something about all the stuff I've done for you', and I've just ignored it and kinda wished she'd get over it.

Although not all of that has to do with her love language, it was like a lightbulb went off and I started realising that the only way mum will really believe I DO love her, is if I start verbally appreciating her. Hugging her and spending lots of time with her, does not tell her how much I love her - telling her I appreciate her (and being specific about WHAT I appreciate) is what works!

Sasch

 

[loved]

Total A - Words of Affirmation:7Total B - Quality Time:8Total C - Receiving Gifts:8Total D - Acts of Service:3Total E - Physical Touch:4

 

[lingjanet]

Your Name:anglelove
Total A - Words of Affirmation:5Total B - Quality Time:8Total C - Receiving Gifts:3Total D - Acts of Service:8Total E - Physical Touch:6



i really don't look at the gifts. gifts is not that important in a realtionship unless you are not seriously going with him/her. the most pleasure is the time we need for each others.
this is all my own though.
i prefer that he can spend me his times and services more than others.

 

[memphisXwasted]

Your Name:chase

Total A - Words of Affirmation: 6
Total B - Quality Time: 7
Total C - Receiving Gifts: 3
Total D - Acts of Service: 2
Total E - Physical Touch: 12

 

[kiora]

Total a-6
B-8
C-1
D-5
e-10

 

[JulesM]

Words of Affirmation:5
Quality Time:11
Receiving Gifts:0
Acts of Service:4
Physical Touch:10

Without a doubt true... my SO is amazing at responding to me in the way I need to be loved...

 

[gracefaith]

Total A - Words of Affirmation:5
Total B - Quality Time:4
Total C - Receiving Gifts:2
Total D - Acts of Service:7
Total E - Physical Touch:12

Hmm...I always guessed I was a time person, but now I'll admit nothing makes me happier than when my hubby kisses me and then takes out the trash!

 

[Glorianna]

Total A - Words of Affirmation: 10
Total B - Quality Time: 7
Total C - Receiving Gifts: 0
Total D - Acts of Service: 6
Total E - Physical Touch: 7

 

[lady_of_god]

Total A - Words of Affirmation:9Total B - Quality Time:10Total C - Receiving Gifts:2Total D - Acts of Service:2Total E - Physical Touch:6

 

[horuhe00]

I definately like physical touches and spending time with my girl

Words of Affirmation:6
Quality Time:8
Receiving Gifts:3
Acts of Service:5
Physical Touch:8

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Total A - Words of Affirmation:5

Total B - Quality Time:10

Total C - Receiving Gifts:3

Total D - Acts of Service:4

Total E - Physical Touch:8

Don't know if this is true of me since I've never had a boyfriend.

Diane

 

[Maeyken]

Words of Affirmation:3
Quality Time:6
Receiving Gifts:6
Acts of Service:3
Physical Touch:12

I suspected my primary love language was Physical Touch, but was definitely surprised that the score is *that* high! I'm not surprised Quality Time is one of my second, but I thought my top 2 would be closer together.

Pony- you mentioned that you don't see how gifts=love, and I'm not surprised that your "gifts" score is 0. Some people feel especially loved by receiving things from their SO. Gifts don't have to be expensive. They can be as simple as a wildflower picked from the side of the road, a favourite snack food given, a homemade bracelet, a favourite bar of soap, etc. It doesn't have to be expensive. It doesn't even have to cost money. The idea behind the "gifts" love language is that you know your SO was thinking of you when they bought or made a gift for you, and by that you know they love you. The gift is a symbol of their love.

Because your "gifts" score is so low, you may never understand how someone can feel loved by receiving a gift, but try to keep an open mind, as for some people this is their primary love language.

 

[Maeyken]

Don't know if this is true of me since I've never had a boyfriend.

Love languages are not only important between SO's. They are also important in every other relationship you have. Relationships with family and friends are also very influenced by love languages.

I believe that friendships which last the longest are between people with similar love languages, because both friends feel appreciated and loved. If the love languages are different, and the friends are not expressing their feelings in a way that the other friend recognizes as love, the friendship is not going to last very long.

Also, in relationships with parents and siblings, sometimes a difficult relationship is solved by learning to express your love for that person in a different way.

Love languages are definitely not just for romantic relationships!

 

[LiberatedChick]

Total A - Words of Affirmation:7
Total B - Quality Time:6
Total C - Receiving Gifts:4
Total D - Acts of Service:7
Total E - Physical Touch:6

Seems I'm bilingual. I think that's come out about right though. I think my husband is pretty similar though I'd say physical touch would be higher for him.

 

[ardeur]

Also, in relationships with parents and siblings, sometimes a difficult relationship is solved by learning to express your love for that person in a different way.

Love languages are definitely not just for romantic relationships!

You must have read the book! I am reading it now. At first I was embarrassed to pick it up because it looked like a cheesy self-help book just like the million other self-help books in book stores. I am actually enjoying it and am quite fascinated! It'll probably be a book I'll read multiple times.