what have you learned at weddings?

[vibrant]

we attend weddings as guests or as the wedding party, and i'm wondering if you've learned anything.

the last wedding i attended, the minister told the groom that when his new bride annoys him, fights with him, or becomes unsatisfying to him (to paraphrase) that it doesn't make him any less married.

 

[NASAg03]

1. weddings are a celebration, and alcohol makes it feel like much more of a celebration (and more fun!)

2. weddings for friends that have dated for 5+ years are much more laid back, relaxing, and enjoyable than the other types.

as for meaning stuff i've learned at weddings, not sure. i'd say that the heart is very visible on your wedding day, and each person's face shows it all, intentions, aspirations, reasons, etc.

what's that mean? get married for the right reason, and make sure God is what brought you together and not something else.

 

[Briseis]

Yeah I heard a few things that I thought sounded nice. I cant remember right now though.

 

[Blank123]

I liked what the priest told my cousin and his wife at their wedding a few years ago. I can't remember it exactly but it was basically along the lines of, married life is a beautiful institution to enter into, but it can be very hard; it takes real effort to make it work, and and he really impressed upon them the importance of 1 Corinthians 13 love.

and of course, because I am a girl (), I got a couple of ideas from their wedding that might be cool to implement in my own wedding one day

 

[Tuffguy]

Weddings w/o booze are aweful.
Bringing a date who is in the wedding is boring. (unless their are cute brides maids and lots of booze, lol)
DJ's are usually terrible and all play the exact same music.
Spending alot doesn't = lots of fun
Spending way to little does = tacky

 

[NASAg03]

Weddings w/o booze are aweful.
Bringing a date who is in the wedding is boring. (unless their are cute brides maids and lots of booze, lol)
DJ's are usually terrible and all play the exact same music.
Spending alot doesn't = lots of fun
Spending way to little does = tacky

haha, so true. my cousin's wedding reception was dry, and quite boring. lots of family to talk to, but it didnt' seem like much of a celebration.

of course there was food, and cake. typical american protestant, er evangelical christian wedding = no alcohol, but unhealthy, fattening food to indulge in gluttony. meh.

my wedding will include a selection of fine wines, healthy food, and dark micro-brewery beers

okay, sorry about this, i'm off topic. but hey, the title was open ended, and this something i've learned.

 

[Snoofles]

hm.........no idea on this one.....the last wedding i attended was about two weeks ago. the ring bearer didn't make it down the aisle, and the youngest flower girl almost ran the wrong way. it was funny and cute. they're both 2 years old. also, try to know exactly what you what done sooner than two days before the wedding day. the bride was so uncertain on so many things, and she left it up to her friends and family to figure out.

 

[Ravenchica]

The priest at the last wedding I went to reminded everyone that marriage isn't just the good times and you can't break it up when things get hard. A good thought in todays society when most marriages don't last. We have a weird idea of marriage... too breakable.
Oh I agree with the booze thing. There was wine at the wedding feast at Canaan .

 

[DailyBlessings]

That the physical aspects of the wedding are not as important as the thoughts, feelings, and intentions beneath them. As such, a simple wedding and an extravagant one are just as good as the other. The people, not the money, will determine how the marriage works out.


And that, yes, I do cry in public... sometimes.

 

[peanutbutter12]

Revenge will be sweet.

CJ

 

[Nautica]

that little kids just don't behave

 

[Nautica]

never dance when your under the influence either,someone will record it all..

 

[neenee]

A funny thing I saw was when the MC asked the wife to put one hand down on the table and then the husband to place his on top of hers. Then he said "this is the last time you'll ever have the upper hand". Thought it was funny...

 

[intricatic]

Weddings w/o booze are aweful.
Bringing a date who is in the wedding is boring. (unless their are cute brides maids and lots of booze, lol)
DJ's are usually terrible and all play the exact same music.
Spending alot doesn't = lots of fun
Spending way to little does = tacky

The only observations I'v'e made at weddings would be horrible mistakes if I made them at mine.

 

[Mskedi]

1. Alcohol should be nowhere near a wedding.
2. Children should be nowhere near a wedding.
3. DJs should be nowhere near a wedding.

Simple.

 

[intricatic]

1. Alcohol should be nowhere near a wedding.

For the bride and groom, I'd agree. But for the guests? I would have died of boredom if my cousin wasn't bringing me mixed drinks at my uncle's wedding - not to mention, the ensuing tango dancing was quite fun, although also quite disruptive.

Besides, if Jesus saw no problem with having wine at a wedding, who am I to complain?

2. Children should be nowhere near a wedding.

I concur, they tend to get in the way of the random outbreaks of tango dancing.

3. DJs should be nowhere near a wedding.

Once again, I agree. I mean, one can hardly tango dance to Techno. Besides, it's no fun if there are no live musicians - it's fun to jump up on stage and play violin - assuming I've brought mine to the event and can remember how to play, lol...

 

[Mskedi]

For the bride and groom, I'd agree. But for the guests? I would have died of boredom if my cousin wasn't bringing me mixed drinks at my uncle's wedding - not to mention, the ensuing tango dancing was quite fun, although also quite disruptive.

Besides, if Jesus saw no problem with having wine at a wedding, who am I to complain?

I'm not saying it from a moral standpoint -- I've got no problem with alcohol. What I do have a problem with is people who don't go to a wedding for the wedding itself, but to get drunk. And there are people who do this... I've worked photography at a bunch of weddings.

Besides, it's no fun if there are no live musicians - it's fun to jump up on stage and play violin - assuming I've brought mine to the event and can remember how to play, lol...

There should be music, but no DJs. If that means bringing a laptop with songs you actually like and letting people add to the playlist, then so be it, but I may actually die if I hear the same song for the cutting of the cake, etc, again.

My brother thought he solved that problem by strictly telling the DJ at his wedding to stick to the songs on the list he had provided, but no... three songs in the DJ started playing some pop song that did not at all go with the style that they were trying to create. He got berated by my SIL, but still... it sucked.

 

[Blank123]

I'm not saying it from a moral standpoint -- I've got no problem with alcohol. What I do have a problem with is people who don't go to a wedding for the wedding itself, but to get drunk. And there are people who do this... I've worked photography at a bunch of weddings.

ugh... you just gave me a horrible flashback to watching my cousin at the last wedding I went to get extremely drunk and hit on every girl in the room

alcohol isn't necessarily a bad thing but there are certain people who need to be kept away from it

 

[intricatic]

ugh... you just gave me a horrible flashback to watching my cousin at the last wedding I went to get extremely drunk and hit on every girl in the room

alcohol isn't necessarily a bad thing but there are certain people who need to be kept away from it

Hehe.. I agree with that point. I hardly ever drink and when I do, it's barely any - but it's usually more as a social thing, especially at weddings. I'm tellin' you, I'd not be able to dance in a crowd if I didn't have at least a drink or so. I'd be entirely boring.

 

[Blank123]

and that tango is a very important dance that must be done