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[GoingThruTrials]

Can a man be a Christian, if he cannot correct his wife when she is wrong?

I know a person that has an extemely "unique" wife! If she doesnt agree with what he says, even though he is 110% in the right and on the side of the Bible, the wife goes nuts, and screams and fusses, and argues with him. This guy is scared of his wife I think and will not stand up to her, even when he knows she is sinning, and sinning majorly, even ruining peoples lives with he gossip, bad advise, and lies. Can this man be considerred a Christian?

They Bible says a man is suppose to be the spiritual leader of the household, and this man has actually been giving me advise here lately. And even though his advise is OK, and I know this SOMETIMES. I wonder how can this man really advise me that you "need to be the spiritual leader of your family" and he will not tell his wife she is wrong and stand up to her in matters of morally and Biblically wrong sitautions.

I love this guy, he is a close person and I think alot of him. I have had him in my prayers, and his wife in my prayers, each and every day. But, it confuses me that maybe he is confused. I mean.... Im not going to give you advise on how to hit a "hole in one" on the golf course if I just shot a 152!

This isnt an urgent question obviously but I would just like some opinions, as to maybe see if I am looking at this correctly. Thanks.

 

[znr]

Oh please.

Can a man be a Christian, if he cannot correct his wife when she is wrong?

I know a person that has an extemely "unique" wife! If she doesnt agree with what he says, even though he is 110% in the right and on the side of the Bible, the wife goes nuts, and screams and fusses, and argues with him. This guy is scared of his wife I think and will not stand up to her, even when he knows she is sinning, and sinning majorly, even ruining peoples lives with he gossip, bad advise, and lies. Can this man be considerred a Christian?

They Bible says a man is suppose to be the spiritual leader of the household, and this man has actually been giving me advise here lately. And even though his advise is OK, and I know this SOMETIMES. I wonder how can this man really advise me that you "need to be the spiritual leader of your family" and he will not tell his wife she is wrong and stand up to her in matters of morally and Biblically wrong sitautions.

I love this guy, he is a close person and I think alot of him. I have had him in my prayers, and his wife in my prayers, each and every day. But, it confuses me that maybe he is confused. I mean.... Im not going to give you advise on how to hit a "hole in one" on the golf course if I just shot a 152!

This isnt an urgent question obviously but I would just like some opinions, as to maybe see if I am looking at this correctly. Thanks.

 

[God's Special Angel]

He can set boundaries with his wife. But it is not like his job is to correct his wife like she is a child--he is to love her, she is his wife.

In marriage, you have to pick your battles very carefully if you want your marriage to work out.

 

[GoingThruTrials]

BUT TO STAND BY AND WATCH HIS WIFE DESTROY HIS OWN DAUGHTER AND GRANDCHILDRENS LIVES AND JUST DO NOTHING FOR FEAR SHE WILL YELL. i CANNOT SEE THAT

 

[IisJustMe]

Can a man be a Christian, if he cannot correct his wife when she is wrong?

Stop and think, what is it that makes us a Christian? Is it not faith in the shed blood of Jesus Christ for our sins, and His resurrection which forever defeated death for those who believe?

Doesn't that answer you question? The rest of it is sanctification, and that takes varying degrees of time, some long and some short, for all of us.

 

[Albion]

He should be the leader of his family, but we do not live in a society where that is going to happen in the absence of the family members accepting the Biblical concept. IOW, this friend's difficulties do notnegate his own religious faith. Meanwhile, don't consider all his advice to you to be hypocritical or bogus just because he isn't running his household as you think he should. Treat it the way you would any other well-intentioned counsel.

 

[Life2Christ]

This guy is scared of his wife I think and will not stand up to her, even when he knows she is sinning, and sinning majorly, even ruining peoples lives with he gossip, bad advise, and lies. Can this man be considerred a Christian?

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This can't be a serious question. Seriously?

 

[IisJustMe]

This can't be a serious question. Seriously?

Wondered the same. Kinda the point of my post.

 

[seeingeyes]

I think you're asking two different questions.

One is "can he be a Christian?" Which is asking a board full of people to judge the heart condition of a perfect stranger based on one post from a third party. That's not gonna happen.

And the second question is "why should I listen to him?" To that my answer is: Don't take advice from people you don't want to be like.

 

[Holden Caulfield]

Can a man be a Christian, if he cannot correct his wife when she is wrong?

I know a person that has an extemely "unique" wife! If she doesnt agree with what he says, even though he is 110% in the right and on the side of the Bible, the wife goes nuts, and screams and fusses, and argues with him. This guy is scared of his wife I think and will not stand up to her, even when he knows she is sinning, and sinning majorly, even ruining peoples lives with he gossip, bad advise, and lies. Can this man be considerred a Christian?

They Bible says a man is suppose to be the spiritual leader of the household, and this man has actually been giving me advise here lately. And even though his advise is OK, and I know this SOMETIMES. I wonder how can this man really advise me that you "need to be the spiritual leader of your family" and he will not tell his wife she is wrong and stand up to her in matters of morally and Biblically wrong sitautions.

I love this guy, he is a close person and I think alot of him. I have had him in my prayers, and his wife in my prayers, each and every day. But, it confuses me that maybe he is confused. I mean.... Im not going to give you advise on how to hit a "hole in one" on the golf course if I just shot a 152!

This isnt an urgent question obviously but I would just like some opinions, as to maybe see if I am looking at this correctly. Thanks.

Is a persons salvation directly linked to their ability or inability to control their spouse? In a word: no.

Yes it says in the Scriptures that wives should submit to their husbands but I don't for an instant believe that means they should be doormats. This woman's behavior is inappropriate, and I'm sure at some point she'll get it whether it's by her husbands intervention or someone else's. I don't think a husband should control his wife though, there's a balance to be struck. Quite often I see men who adopt this archaic domineering mindset that women should submit absolutely to their husbands authority no matter what, which I don't think is what Paul had in mind when he wrote his letter to the Ephesians.

Think about how many Christians have married someone who wasn't, or a marriage where one of the spouses became a Christian after the fact. Those dynamics can be rough because one of the spouses likely won't want to adhere to rigid Scriptural standards for a marriage relationship. Regardless of this it doesn't alter a persons salvation.

 

[PashNut4Jesus]

There is also the chance that he has discussions with her that you are not privvy to. Or it could be that he has had those discussions to no avail, thus he knows that prayer is the wiser route. The more laps around the sun an observant person makes, the more you come to know that there is usually a lot more behind the scenes than you're aware of. Even if you have the complete picture, hopefully you can have the humility yourself to be keenly aware of your own sin and thus, need for grace, which is no different than the gentleman you reference.

In regards to the daughter and grandchildren (Your wife and children, perhaps?), the daughter is a grown woman and now responsible for her own relationship with her mother. As difficult as this is, she needs to respectfully draw boundaries with her mother and prayerfully decide what her course of action will be if her mother doesn't respect those boundaries. In fact, EVerything needs to be covered in prayer. With everything, staying in God's word is key. This is very important. She has children watching this situation, and they do not need to be exposed to the toxicity.