What does the bible say about birth/pregnancy before marriage.

[WingZero]

That is if it happens. Say two people do love eachother and get pregnant. Obviously it is a sin, however once they ask for forgiveness what would they do according to the bible? What is their responsibility to each other and to the child.

Thanks,

BTW - my first post!

 

[erinm]

i haven't looked into what the bible says, but i know a couple who was in this same situation. they got married because they did love each other and have a beautiful marriage and family together. This shows that God does forgive and allow us to still glorify him, even when we sin.

 

[WingZero]

Could you, without divulging personal info, tell me a bit more about their situation? Thanks.

 

[Anthony]

What does the Bible say . . .

Look at David, the example is what happen to him and Bathsheba.

Also in God's eyes intercourse is marriage. In the Old Testament they have detailed decriptions and procedures for just about anything you can image, but no marriage ceremony.

 

[WingZero]

I've read it, but am having trouble making sense of it all. Can somebody translate for me please?

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

David and Bathseba commited adultry. Bathseba got pregnant. David had her husband come back from war, trying to get him to sleep with her so they could claim the child as his. However, the husband would not do it. So David had him killed during the war. Because what he had done was evil in the sight of God, the child died shortly after it's birth.

The point of it is that because of thier sin, 2 people died. The amount of pain and anguish that they expierienced wouldn't have happened, if they hadn't commited adultry.

 

[momof3blessings]

I believe if the couple does love each other gets married before the baby is born or if already born get married now, if we ask for forgiveness God will forgive us. As long as we are truely repentent He will forgive. I know from experience. I have a 16yr old son and will be married 17 yrs in Jan.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

From my point a view, if you really love someone, you should be able to wait for marriage.

 

[WingZero]

I agree with both of those posts. Is it the Christian thing to marry or what?

 

[joelbarrutia]

(warning advice of a unmarried 18 year old, may or may not have a clue..)

Number one thing to do is pray about it and see what God wants for his, hers, and the babies life

I would not suggest rushing into getting hitched.
What good is marriage if it does not last? But at the same time, the two have some responsibility to each other, the two are quite bound, they are parents! So, I suggest make everything work out between the parents as best it can. Seek local pastors out and go through counseling, BOTH parents need to be there in the babies life.
After a rational, loving decision, marriage would be great, it would provide a secure home for the baby. Remember kids are for life, so long term relationships need to be really strong between the parents, preferably a strong loving, God centered marriage.

 

[erinm]

Could you, without divulging personal info, tell me a bit more about their situation? Thanks.

no, i really can't. like i said, they were in the same situation you described while writing your post. sorry I can't be anymore blunt, I do not wish to gossip.

 

[momof3blessings]

From my point a view, if you really love someone, you should be able to wait for marriage.

Well your right but in my case I was 17yrs old and I didnt' and you cant' change the past. I make no excuses. Marriages can make it even young ones if they want it to. You have to learn how to get along together. You can't quit after the first few arguments. Was it the Christian thing to do in my case yes and it was the right thing to do to give our son both parents. IMO sometimes it better to give it a chance and see if it will work. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. Thing is you have the same chance as a couple who has been dating a long time. As long as you both have God in your marriage it can work.

 

[JillLars]

From my point a view, if you really love someone, you should be able to wait for marriage

Well, that is your point of view, and for someone to make you have sex when you want to wait would not be true love, but there are those who don't wait but still truly love one another, I don't think its fair to imply that those who don't wait till after the marriage ceremony love each other less than those who do.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

They know what causes pregnancy these days.

 

[j3r3m3y]

My fiance and I have a 2 year old daughter (well, she turns two on the 27th). We recommitted ourselves to Christ earlier this year and are living our lives for Him. We are abstaining from sex until we are married (this Feb.) and are living together platonically so that our beautiful baby girl gets all of the love and care that she deserves from both of her parents. Our daughters mother and father sinned but she should not have to suffer for our mistakes. It also helps that I Love my fiance` with all that I am and I am preparing to be the husband she deserves.

Someday our daughter will figure out that the anniversary number is smaller than her birthday number and we will have to decide exactly how to tell her why we did things the way we did. One thing is for sure- Our daughter is a beautiful blessing and she will always know that she has ALWAYS been loved. It may have been a sin that we werent married when she was born, but thats OUR sin, not hers. She is beautiful and I would never allow her to think there is something wrong with her because of her parents sin. Her mom and myself made a mistake, but she is NOT a mistake, not by any means.

 

[Anthony]

What is marriage? Where in the Bible does it tell you what signifys marriage. What is Marriage under God's eyes? Where Adam and Eve married?

 

[Living4Him03]

Adam and Eve didn't really have a ceremony, well kind of ...God created Eve for Adam. So in creating her I guess that was the ceremony, God showing his love by giving Adam such a wonderful gift (hehe women are wonderful arent we?). I think marriage is about commitment. You can't make that kind of commitment unless you have a formal ceremony where you go before God and family and commit your lives to each other. I know some disagree with this, but it's just my opinion. There are marriage ceremonies in the bible. One of them was when Jesus turned water into wine.

 

[ceres]

Sex does not mean marriage. I would not recommend getting married because of pregnancy... too many horror stories have I heard about getting married for that reason. Is your girlfriend pregnant? If she is pregnant and you are willing to committ your life to her in love, then marry her. But please get counseling starting now and through at least the first year of marriage. The first year of marriage is tough, and the first year with a baby I hear is tougher (have no children yet) so doing both at once is quite a strain. There is a lot of change ahead, and you should have support to help you through.

I don't thnk that saying "you should be able to wait" is going to help someone who is pregnant? Throw a stone while they're laying on the ground, won't you?

 

[charligirl]

Lots of differing advice here, my opinion is that where possible the parents should marry.

Marriage is a covenant, based on a decision to commit to each other and love each other. If two people have already 'cut covenant' in the act of sex and have a child as a result and choose to marry and are determined to make it work then I believe God will honour this.

To be blunt, marriage decisions in the bible are not usually based on love and strong long term relationships, in most cases love is not even mentioned and often they barely knew each other. The love came AFTER the marriage, it came after the decision and the committment.

Todays society, romantic novels and Hollywood can be blamed for our culture thinking that the FEELING of love is what it is all about. Love is a decision and when you marry you decide to love that person and commit to love them for the rest of your life... whether you FEEL like it or not. YES absolutley there is a gift of attraction, all the 'ooshy gooshy' falling in love emotion, that high, the butterflies... but that isn't 'love' it's an emotional response to the attraction and doesn't usually last more than a few months.. it isn't really what love is about.

Love is choosing to still love and honour your spouse when you don't feel like it, when life is tough and you are getting on each others nerves, when you don't fancy them and your sex drive has dipped. Love is looking for ways to give 100% instead of 50/50, love is companionship, compassion, friendship but you have to choose to commit and then choose to remain committed no matter what your feelings say.

If two people are committed to making a marriage work, and make their vows in front of God and keep God in the marriage... the marriage will work, God will give them everything they need to have a happy successful marriage.

How do you know you have married the right person? .....It's the person you wake up with the day after your wedding. God loves marriage and upholds an honours it, whichever two people marry.

 

[charligirl]

Meant to say, there is a great book about gettin gmarried by M.Blaine Smith called 'Should I get Married?' must for all Christian singles, can be found on Amazon.