What does God's word say about being bisexual or being bi-curious?

[Lik3]

I need some advice. I have been having thoughts lately about being bisexual. They are not in any way connected to my OCD thoughts but I have wondered that lately. I am attracted to people of both genders but I prefer sex with males. I don't wish to tell me family about this. I find the female form highly attractive and I wonder what it would be like kissing a girl or having a fling with a girl, yet the idea of being with a girl in a relationship in reality doesn't appeal to me. What does God's word say about bisexuality or bi-curiosity? Is being curious about bisexuality a sin even though I have never had relations with a girl?

 

[The Fire Rises]

The Bible is undeniably clear that sex is meant for a married man and woman. It states that any sex outside of that boundary is sinful and wrong. I mean, there's really no way to sugar-coat it.

I think the same thing can be said for kissing or anything of that nature...it's just not what God intended. In Eden, God made one man and one woman. He did that for a reason.

Being curious about what it would be like, well, I'm not sure the Bible directly addresses that, so it could be a bit of a grey area. However, I think it's safe to say that it's very likely that those kind of thoughts could very well lead to the act itself. It is best to not entertain them. The more you play with fire, the more likely you are to get burned. Admiring the way God formed the human body may not be wrong in and of itself, but when you begin having lustful thoughts toward these people, that's where you cross the red line.

Finally, be aware that there is NO sin that is too powerful for God to help you overcome. He always provides a way out for us.

 

[mandelduke]

I need some advice. I have been having thoughts lately about being bisexual. They are not in any way connected to my OCD thoughts but I have wondered that lately. I am attracted to people of both genders but I prefer sex with males. I don't wish to tell me family about this. I find the female form highly attractive and I wonder what it would be like kissing a girl or having a fling with a girl, yet the idea of being with a girl in a relationship in reality doesn't appeal to me. What does God's word say about bisexuality or bi-curiosity? Is being curious about bisexuality a sin even though I have never had relations with a girl?

He says don’t be that way, it is not healthy.

 

[Pal Handy]

I need some advice. I have been having thoughts lately about being bisexual. They are not in any way connected to my OCD thoughts but I have wondered that lately. I am attracted to people of both genders but I prefer sex with males. I don't wish to tell me family about this. I find the female form highly attractive and I wonder what it would be like kissing a girl or having a fling with a girl, yet the idea of being with a girl in a relationship in reality doesn't appeal to me. What does God's word say about bisexuality or bi-curiosity? Is being curious about bisexuality a sin even though I have never had relations with a girl?

All sexual relationships (sexual immorality) outside of marriage
as defined by God as being between one man and one woman, is sin and forbidden by God.

1 Corinthians 6:18 (amp)
Flee, run away from, shun all sexual immorality and all sexual looseness
[flee, run away from and shun impurity in thought, word, or deed].
Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body,
but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

 

[chaoticfirefly]

I need some advice. I have been having thoughts lately about being bisexual. They are not in any way connected to my OCD thoughts but I have wondered that lately. I am attracted to people of both genders but I prefer sex with males. I don't wish to tell me family about this. I find the female form highly attractive and I wonder what it would be like kissing a girl or having a fling with a girl, yet the idea of being with a girl in a relationship in reality doesn't appeal to me. What does God's word say about bisexuality or bi-curiosity? Is being curious about bisexuality a sin even though I have never had relations with a girl?

I'm sorry if this is rude, but how old are you? I'm not saying age will have to do anything, because I'm just curious because sometimes, as a teenager, you could easily confuse things and bisexuality has become a trend. You know your own feelings.

That said, I've said this before on this site and I'll say it again, it's up to you to decide how you interpret those passages and whether or not you find it right or wrong. If you think it's wrong, fine. Good for you. It doesn't make you homophobic or biphobic, even if you are bisexual and lean towards males, what makes you homophobic if you act upon any hate (like, let's use my friends cousin's family for example, they literally beat him with a Bible. Took a wonderful book and beat him until he was black and blue and bleeding. That's acting on hate). What isn't hate is expressing why you think it's wrong, with a logical back up.

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Talk to your pastor, or councilor or someone you really trust who can handle it in a kind, professional way and won't judge you and help you figure it out. We are just people on the internet, we interpret things differently, understand things differently and can only give you opinions and our own thoughts on different verses.

The way you described yourself, you're curious. That's it. You're curious about it, and while people might burn me at the stake for this, it's normal to be curious. However, bisexuals can and usually have a preference for gender.

Again, talk to someone you can really trust, someone neutral. I recommend your pastor, really. Anything you say to him is confidential (should be, anyways), and I find them to be quite wise and kind. If you're still in school, maybe a teacher or your councilor.

 

[Sketcher]

The Bible condemns same-sex sexual anything. If you're bi, then there is no question that you can choose to reject such temptations.

 

[stormdancer0]

It's funny, but I, too, find the female form more attractive visually than the male form. This is very logical if you think that God created men to be more visually oriented than women are.

However, I never mistook it for sexual attraction. We were taught in school and church that homosexuality was wrong. You sound very young. If so, (or even if not with today's social "beliefs") you have been taught that it's okay to experiment with your sexuality.

That doesn't mean it isn't wrong. Right or wrong is not based on popular opinion, but on what God says is right or wrong. And He says it's wrong.

 

[Inkachu]

First of all, I think everyone - if they're honest - can say they've at least had a THOUGHT about what an encounter with the same sex would be like. Doesn't mean they fantasized about it or found it appealing, but I think just about everyone THINKS about it at some point or another.

As for Scriptures, it's very clear that God's intention is for man/woman aka heterosexual relationships only, and that same-sex relationships (whether you act "gay" or "bi" is irrelevant) are wrong.

Genesis 5:2 He created them male and female and blessed them. And he named them "Mankind" when they were created.

Matthew 19:5 ...and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'

Leviticus 18:22 Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable.

Romans 1:26-27 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

 

[Inkachu]

It's funny, but I, too, find the female form more attractive visually than the male form.

Same here, but it's not in a sexual way (which I'm sure is what you meant as well). For instance, if I see a couple dancing, I always watch the woman, simply because her form and movement is generally so much more beautiful than the man (sorry guys lol). I marvel at how beautiful and graceful God created the female body to be. And there's absolutely nothing sexual about that, to me. If we're talking about what's attractive to my eyeballs sexually, it's definitely my man! Big difference between "beautiful" and "sexy", at least to me.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

I need some advice. I have been having thoughts lately about being bisexual. They are not in any way connected to my OCD thoughts but I have wondered that lately. I am attracted to people of both genders but I prefer sex with males. I don't wish to tell me family about this. I find the female form highly attractive and I wonder what it would be like kissing a girl or having a fling with a girl, yet the idea of being with a girl in a relationship in reality doesn't appeal to me. What does God's word say about bisexuality or bi-curiosity? Is being curious about bisexuality a sin even though I have never had relations with a girl?

Having thoughts come into your Mind and not acting on them, is not sin. Sin begins when you go thru with the thoughts into an area that is objectively wrong in accordance to the Bible and/or Gods very character, nature, and person. Bisexuality is a perversion to Gods creation of monogamous sex within marriage in two ways : 1. All sex outside of marriage is wrong 2. Sex with the same sex is wrong. Both come with condemnation from God if not repented from and forgiveness in Christ calvary merits , sought personally.

We have options for such temptations that come along ; some include : Get genuinely saved from all of ones sins so the person can have the Holy Spirit of God living in them for strength and power to avoid sin (see the passage in my signature below) , see our prevailing sexually illicit Culture for what it is ...a big lie based on pretending there is no God so its ok to live as you like with no ultimate moral accountability , and coming to understand that your ultimate purpose in life is to know God personally , grow in him, enjoy him, look forward to being with him for eternity, and to represent him in the earthly life he has afforded you. Part of that would be to live properly and not cross over firm boundaries. Regards.

 

[The Fire Rises]

Having thoughts come into your Mind and not acting on them, is not sin. Sin begins when you go thru with the thoughts into an area that is objectively wrong in accordance to the Bible and/or Gods very character, nature, and person.

If you're saying that the deed is always worse than the thought, I don't think that's necessarily true. Christ taught that even having lustful thoughts is wrong. So just because we don't act on a thought, doesn't mean it's okay to be thinking about it.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

If you're saying that the deed is always worse than the thought, I don't think that's necessarily true. Christ taught that even having lustful thoughts is wrong. So just because we don't act on a thought, doesn't mean it's okay to be thinking about it.

The way it works is : Thoughts come into the mind which (can) turn into desire which when fully played out (can) turn into action / sin , etc... as James 1 states : '14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.'

So...desire leading to action is when it becomes sin . However, I agree that its never good to mull over certain wrong thoughts by entertaining them and marinating in them ...for it can give Satan a real foothold .

 

[Inkachu]

Sorry Dave, but Jesus made it extremely clear that thoughts CAN be sin (Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.). There is also a sin of omission (NOT doing something) (James 4:17 If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it, it is sin for them). Just because you aren't acting it out doesn't mean you aren't sinning. Thoughts can come unbidden into our minds, yes, but lingering on those thoughts a split second longer than you should is crossing the line. All thoughts need to be brought into obedience in Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.).

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

Sorry Dave, but Jesus made it extremely clear that thoughts CAN be sin (Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.). There is also a sin of omission (NOT doing something) (James 4:17 If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it, it is sin for them). Just because you aren't acting it out doesn't mean you aren't sinning. Thoughts can come unbidden into our minds, yes, but lingering on those thoughts a split second longer than you should is crossing the line. All thoughts need to be brought into obedience in Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.).

I agree that there are certain thoughts that when dwelt on and carried further into fantasy (such as Lust) , constitute a sin. There are also other thoughts that may come into a persons Mind , that do not constitute sin. Further, Jesus himself was tempted in all ways which have had to include thoughts in the Mind, yet the Bible says he never once sinned.

 

[The Fire Rises]

I agree that there are certain thoughts that when dwelt on and carried further into fantasy (such as Lust) , constitute a sin. There are also other thoughts that may come into a persons Mind , that do not constitute sin. Further, Jesus himself was tempted in all ways which have had to include thoughts in the Mind, yet the Bible says he never once sinned.

Well I suppose that's true. Sinful thoughts popping into our mind, is pretty much inevitable. When we deliberately dwell on the thoughts, rather than banishing them from our mind, that is wrong, and I think we all know that. God sees our every thought and deed, there's no point trying to hide what we think.

Also, sorry for getting this thread off-topic, wasn't my intention. I'll stop talking about this now.

 

[Girder of Loins]

There is nothing wrong with having the desires, but there is everything wrong with fulfilling those desires. I myself am gay, but I will never fulfill those desires.

 

[OntheHorizon]

I need some advice. I have been having thoughts lately about being bisexual. They are not in any way connected to my OCD thoughts but I have wondered that lately. I am attracted to people of both genders but I prefer sex with males. I don't wish to tell me family about this. I find the female form highly attractive and I wonder what it would be like kissing a girl or having a fling with a girl, yet the idea of being with a girl in a relationship in reality doesn't appeal to me. What does God's word say about bisexuality or bi-curiosity? Is being curious about bisexuality a sin even though I have never had relations with a girl?

The bible says it's wrong to have sex with someone of the same sex, Paul said that very clearly in Romans chapter 1 but that's really about all it says. It just says it's a sin.

It doesn't go into what it means to honestly LOVE someone of the same sex when LOVE is praised as the very highest thing of all.

The bible doesn't say what bi-sexuality or homosexuality is, it doesn't explain it, it doesn't elaborate on it, it doesn't teach us how to help or respond to it... it just says that kind of sex is wrong, that's all we know.

I hope you can handle the amount of simple, compulsive responses this causes. There aren't very many Christians open minded about this subject.

Christians sin every day and have a hard time witnessing to the lost... but they'll wait for hours to get into chick-fila in order to say they hate homosexuality.

I hope you're ready.

 

[asiyreh]

I remember this video from back in the day. Though it was a very interesting Christian perspective on the whole "thing."

Being Gay is NOT a Choice - YouTube

 

[xxxxxxtra]

Leviticus 18:22.. Being bi is the same as entertaining homosexuality.. You can paint a fire hydrant any color you like. But, in the end. It is still a fire hydrant. The same is with homosexuality.. It is clearly stated in scripture thatvit is contrary to God's sovereign will.. So there is no doubt that those that practice such immorality are not christian and are infact liars if they say they are..
The longer that you entertain these immoral thought. The harder your heart will become against God's truth about them being immoral..
I suggest that you get away from anyone that is entertaining these same thoughts and get around christians... Get into God's word and pray to our Creator, YHWH. for guidance and strength.. And these come thru Christ Jesus who payed for all such immorality on the cross..
Or you could follow the lies and deceit of the world.. Their way leads to destruction...

 

[TravelerFarAwayFromHome]

I need some advice. I have been having thoughts lately about being bisexual. They are not in any way connected to my OCD thoughts but I have wondered that lately. I am attracted to people of both genders but I prefer sex with males. I don't wish to tell me family about this. I find the female form highly attractive and I wonder what it would be like kissing a girl or having a fling with a girl, yet the idea of being with a girl in a relationship in reality doesn't appeal to me. What does God's word say about bisexuality or bi-curiosity? Is being curious about bisexuality a sin even though I have never had relations with a girl?

any give in to sexual desire to another person of the same sex is a sin.

anyway, why waste time on your fellow girls when you do find guys attractive?