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daniela

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Would you let me vent?
I met this guy on gym, where I work for. He was working there too. He had always a nice smile when he looked at me. But I didn't pay any attention to him. He left the gym and one day he came to the gym I said hi and he told me that he was earning more money with herbalife, that why he left doing spinning class. He invited me to one of herbalife's meeting. I told him I wasn't good selling, but don't know why I feel some attraction to him and called him. We met and I found him some kind of rude during the meeting. I also realize when he gave some speech that he isn't gym instructor, just was there earning money. I told this to my brother and his girlfriend and they told me that I acted in very cold and distant way (I didn't realize this until they told me). I've some painful experiences with guys (I've to confess that those were in my rebellion period of life), so I'm afraid to suffer again, and to be unfaithful to God again. Well this guy invited me home for lunch to show me the products (I told him I wasn't interest to sell but wanted to buy some products, which was true). But I decided not to go, because I thought he wasn't interest. But after what I've heard from my brother and his girlfriend and others who told me I was too cold, I tried again and emailed him. He respond me quickly and asked me when I'm going to the gym, he would suscribed to it. I thought he was interested, so I invited him to my class and told him I didn't go to his house because I didn't have the money to buy the products. I tried to be more nice, send him some funny cats pictures. He accepted my invitation and told me that I can go to his home when I want. I told him to just call me and we would met. But he didn't say nothing so I sent him an mobil message asking if he would go to my class and he respond after three days, telling me that he would go on tuesday... guess what? He didn't go, neither on tuesday nor on thursday (I give two class there). I got really dissapointed. But I prayed a lot to God to give me signs, if He doesn't like him for me. Well I guess these are the signs, don't you think?

Anyway I wonder why did he respond my emails and told me things he would do, if had no interest... don't understand. Maybe God put him far away from me, ah?

What do you think?

Daniela
 
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Hi Daniela,

Yes, it could be a sign from God. First of all, be really glad you didn't invest much into this "relationship". If he's showing his true self already, run the other way.

Also, is this guy a Christian? If he's not, again, run the other way. I'm married to a non-Christian and I can tell you it's not something you want to experience. I love my husband with all my heart and he's the best, but when I think about him spending eternity in Hell it breaks my heart. If you want to see what it's like, check out the unequally yoked section of CF here.

My advice is to move on. Try meeting someone at church!
 
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Why are women always being encouraged to disregard their own judgements? You spent time with the guy, and you thought he was rude and had misrepresented himself, or, at best, allowed you to assume things about him that were not true. But your brother and his girlfriend convinced you that you were cold and that you should give a guy they never met, a guy you thought was rude, that you should be nicer to him.

It sounds to me that your original assemesment of him was correct. He is looking to recruit a salesperson who will sell under him, not someone with whom to have a relationship.

Listen to yourself and trust your own judgement.
 
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His herballife invlovement pushes him to make contacts to sell to. That may be one reason why he is interested. It can also invlove recruiting more sellers.

If he was interested in you he did not behave that well. Give him a miss, and learn to stick to what you want, not what others push you into.

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daniela said:
Would you let me vent?
I met this guy on gym, where I work for. He was working there too. He had always a nice smile when he looked at me. But I didn't pay any attention to him. He left the gym and one day he came to the gym I said hi and he told me that he was earning more money with herbalife, that why he left doing spinning class. He invited me to one of herbalife's meeting. I told him I wasn't good selling, but don't know why I feel some attraction to him and called him. We met and I found him some kind of rude during the meeting. I also realize when he gave some speech that he isn't gym instructor, just was there earning money. I told this to my brother and his girlfriend and they told me that I acted in very cold and distant way (I didn't realize this until they told me). I've some painful experiences with guys (I've to confess that those were in my rebellion period of life), so I'm afraid to suffer again, and to be unfaithful to God again. Well this guy invited me home for lunch to show me the products (I told him I wasn't interest to sell but wanted to buy some products, which was true). But I decided not to go, because I thought he wasn't interest. But after what I've heard from my brother and his girlfriend and others who told me I was too cold, I tried again and emailed him. He respond me quickly and asked me when I'm going to the gym, he would suscribed to it. I thought he was interested, so I invited him to my class and told him I didn't go to his house because I didn't have the money to buy the products. I tried to be more nice, send him some funny cats pictures. He accepted my invitation and told me that I can go to his home when I want. I told him to just call me and we would met. But he didn't say nothing so I sent him an mobil message asking if he would go to my class and he respond after three days, telling me that he would go on tuesday... guess what? He didn't go, neither on tuesday nor on thursday (I give two class there). I got really dissapointed. But I prayed a lot to God to give me signs, if He doesn't like him for me. Well I guess these are the signs, don't you think?

Anyway I wonder why did he respond my emails and told me things he would do, if had no interest... don't understand. Maybe God put him far away from me, ah?

What do you think?

Daniela
This guy doesnt sound like he is very kind or nice to me , stick with your original gut feelings on him, and dont let others talk you into something contrary just because its family. Get involved in church activities , God will send you the one he wants for you when the time is right , and you will know . Trust God , not man.:)
 
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