What do you do...

[Peculiarone]

...when your SO tells you that he has ERD (erectile dysfunctional).. .its not like he is old, he is in his 20s and he wanted to let you know UPfront, what he has even though you both haven't had intercourse but you love each other.
Do you stay in the relationship till marriage knowing he will have a 'problem' in bed in the future? or do you break up and move on to 'firmer' pastures? or what?

(I already know what I decided to do..stay with him if that was me..especially when LOVE is involved)However this is a tough issue and I wanted to know CF's views on it.

Thanks for the replies.

 

[goat37]

Wow... if someone would break up with a guy over erectile dysfuction... that would be pretty low and callous... not to mention selfish.


I say this because they have a million drugs on the market these days to help with that problem specifically. It sucks that it happened so young, but there is definitely help out there. Consult a doctor together when the time comes and figure out your best option - I am sure you will still have much fun in the bedroom.

I don't know his specific problem, if drugs would even help... but there are many methods to having fun in the bedroom - get creative if the drugs won't help. That's just my view.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

If you love someone, whether or not they can perform in that area, you wouldn't leave them for that. Marriage isn't just about the bedroom.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Agree with the above statements about not leaving him for it - there are a lot of avenues available to help with the dysfunction.

Have you thought about talking to a doctor about your concerns with it? Having a chat on how you can help your bf? How about a relationships counsellor? You might want to talk to a professional about it alone, before going to one with your boyfriend...

When you are engaged, you might want to think about including a visit to the GP together, as well as the premarital counselling. That way you can both be informed on what can be used to help, and have somewhere to start when you talk about helping each other out with it.

Having ED is not the 'death knell' for a relationship - it makes things a bit interesting, sure, but God IS bigger than this, and will help you through it.

I know you must have a lot of things floating around in your head because of this, but you two can get through this, so long as you communicate and talk to professionals who can offer you sensible and trustworthy advice.

Sasch