I don't know. A thing I've struggled with. Well I was hurt a lot of times when I was a kid. Always a reason like with dad it's been his drug addiction same with mom. The one who caused a lot of trouble is dead. I can't hate someone who doesn't exist. It's like this world is blameless no accountability. So I get broken in a million ways and no one but myself to blame it sucks. Idk... Would be nice if there was a culprit sometimes especially with things like this...
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What do you do when you got no one to hate?
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You can indeed hate dead people. You can hate your parents. You can hate yourself too, but you shouldn't. If other people have done evil, hurtful things to you, hating them is natural. If you have done hurtful things to yourself (which is common after abuse), you need to get therapy and work hard at it, to break this cycle.
The problem with hatred is, it binds you to the object of your hatred. They may be sinking to the bottom of the ocean, but hating them is like being handcuffed to them. That's why Jesus commands us to forgive those who have wronged us, even when they're not sorry, even when it makes no sense whatsoever. Forgiveness releases you, so you can rise to the surface, and they can continue to sink.
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You are not to blame, sweetie! You were a victim, and the people who hurt you were at fault - whatever the reasons.
Hating isn't the answer - but neither is blaming yourself - that just hurts you even more
Do you have someone who can help you work through the pain and grief? A therapist, counselor, pastor, or an understanding friend can be very helpful.
I find journalling really helps - writing it all down helps to get the feelings out if there's no-one I can talk to.
Praying for you, sweetie - and here if you need someone to talk to -PM me anytime.
Hating isn't the answer - but neither is blaming yourself - that just hurts you even more
Do you have someone who can help you work through the pain and grief? A therapist, counselor, pastor, or an understanding friend can be very helpful.
I find journalling really helps - writing it all down helps to get the feelings out if there's no-one I can talk to.
Praying for you, sweetie - and here if you need someone to talk to -PM me anytime.
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