What do you call your SO while courting?

[Hediru]

When you introduce him/her to others, what do you call him/her? As in, "I'd like you to meet my _________. " Steve and I still call each other bf and gf because we cannot think of another term that works. We've tried em all it seems.

Bf & Gf: we're not casually dating. We are seriously courting!
Beau: too old fashioned and gets too many raised eyebrows - "Your what?"
Special Friend: sounds too much like we're trying to be secretive about our relationship
Friend: We're way more than that
SO: too general
Pre-fiancee: cute, but awkward around co-workers
Lover: well, we don't have sex, so that's a no go

Well, I'm outta ideas. What do you call your SO? I know that this isn't important in the grand scheme of things, but this is the kind of thing you worry about when you can't sleep at almost 2:00 AM!

 

[Inperfected]

Boyfriend and Girlfriend usualy works from where I am at!

 

[miss_klara]

Lol I call him my boyfriend... he calls me his 'better half' depending on who he's introducing me to!!!

I had a friend refer to her SO as her 'guy'... "This is my guy Simon...." That's a pretty casual thing though...

 

[kiora]

sometimes in England we say partner but that is usually a formal was of saying BF / GF if for instance you are on the phone sounds better to say - Yes, you spoke with my partner earlier...

 

[The Julikenz]

My boy.

 

[littlemrs]

Until we got engaged, he was simply my boyfriend and I his girlfriend. Now we're fiance and fiancee.

 

[CaliforniaJosiah]

I know that this isn't important in the grand scheme of things, but this is the kind of thing you worry about when you can't sleep at almost 2:00 AM!

LOL...


I gotta admit, the first few times I really didn't know WHAT to say (it CAN be awkward) - maybe a bit because I didn't exactly KNOW what our relationship exactly was. And YES, the terminology here is soooooooooo limited and all has awkward connotations.

She introduced me as her "boyfriend" (yeah, sounded a tad weird - but GOOD) and I just started calling her my girlfriend. (It's not like this actually happens very often).

As CORNY as this is, I now usually introduce her, this is the love of my life, ________" I don't know, "girlfriend" sounds just too highschoolish.


Totally off topic, year ago, this like 70 year old man was introducing his gal (who was similarly advanced in years) as his "girlfriend." Almost made me laugh!


Someone TOTALLY needs to invent some new terminology here....


BUT, I am very pleased with the "courting" term here at CF. I like that a lot.





Hugs,


- Josiah



(PS I hang out almost always in General Theology, although I'm on staff in Ecumenical). I used to mod in young adults and liked it, but just kinda got involved elsewhere. Nice to meet some of you.)

 

[scruffy1986]

When you introduce him/her to others, what do you call him/her? As in, "I'd like you to meet my _________. " Steve and I still call each other bf and gf because we cannot think of another term that works. We've tried em all it seems.

Bf & Gf: we're not casually dating. We are seriously courting!
Beau: too old fashioned and gets too many raised eyebrows - "Your what?"
Special Friend: sounds too much like we're trying to be secretive about our relationship
Friend: We're way more than that
SO: too general
Pre-fiancee: cute, but awkward around co-workers
Lover: well, we don't have sex, so that's a no go

Well, I'm outta ideas. What do you call your SO? I know that this isn't important in the grand scheme of things, but this is the kind of thing you worry about when you can't sleep at almost 2:00 AM!

I would use the term boyfriend/girlfriend.. It doesnt really matter what you call it, a relationship is what the 2 of you make it!

 

[Inperfected]

Yeah, partner here has "live-in" connatations. However, I had used it at work cos it was easier than saying fiance all the time.

 

[lovesbrightpink]

it was boyfriend but I like better half lol

or he sometimes says his future wife.

 

[kiora]

yeh partner here also has live in things attached to it but I only ever use it with people who I am not personally involved with e.f work colleagues and jsut those general conversation that come along. I always feel liek I am showing off if I say Fiance- nto sure why - that is how it feels though

 

[Hediru]

I really like some of these responses! I am surprised though that those of you who are already engaged are reluctant to call him/her your fiancee. Why is that out of curiousity? I can't wait to call Steve my fiancee!

 

[Mskedi]

Boyfriend. It's the only one that fits.

When we're actually engaged, he'll be my fiancee. Until then, any other term would be inaccurate, even though we both know we're getting married.

 

[miss_klara]

LOL, Chris has also been known to call me 'the front running candidate for the title of Mrs D____' (his surname)

But not generally in front of anyone

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

LOL, Chris has also been known to call me 'the front running candidate for the title of Mrs D____' (his surname)

But not generally in front of anyone

Thats so cute!!

 

[Natz]

I say boyfriend...but you are right it can be weird at first.

I don't know if I could say fiance...I know that's what he will be but it sounds kinda strange... I can understand Kiora's feeling like she is showing off. Chances are though that when we get there I will be so fussy I probably would be showing off...LOL!!

 

[Pure_Joy]

When you introduce him/her to others, what do you call him/her? As in, "I'd like you to meet my _________. " Steve and I still call each other bf and gf because we cannot think of another term that works. We've tried em all it seems.

Bf & Gf: we're not casually dating. We are seriously courting!
Beau: too old fashioned and gets too many raised eyebrows - "Your what?"
Special Friend: sounds too much like we're trying to be secretive about our relationship
Friend: We're way more than that
SO: too general
Pre-fiancee: cute, but awkward around co-workers
Lover: well, we don't have sex, so that's a no go

Well, I'm outta ideas. What do you call your SO? I know that this isn't important in the grand scheme of things, but this is the kind of thing you worry about when you can't sleep at almost 2:00 AM!

We say BF and GF, it was interesting when people began to ask, because we had been "just friends" for so long already...

 

[lovesbrightpink]

i am not afraid of calling him my fiance. I love it lol. I always correct people when they say boyfriend. I am like ahem fiance thanks.

 

[faerieevaH]

my beloved, my courter, my intended... (what can I say... I'm oldfashioned myself)

 

[shaslove]

my bf and i ran into this issue also! we ended up with boyfreind and girlfreind, cause there really isnt a word for it (courtee ? LOL)