What can I do better?

[pressingon17]

I'm courting this so amazing wonderful woman of God, she's everything I desire in a spouse and is literally my dream girl. She has a rare disease that she has chemo treatments and is on a lot of meds for. She literally can't decide if she truely wants to be with me or not though and it's killing me. I'm loving her through it, spiritually leading her, serving her constantly. living out 1 Corinthians 13 4-8 with her. I just don't know how much more I can mentally take of her "yes I love you and want you as my husband" and " I don't know if your what I want in a spouse your not everything I want in a husband" I can take. I will only court if we both agree that we see marriage as a VERY good probability. It's just wearing me emotionally thin and her family who I have a good relationship with has been turning sort of hostile to me in looks and words..... I don't know anymore. Prayers appreciated.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Well I was with a woman who was terminally ill. Often she would do the same to me. She loved me but though I could do better with someone who was going to live a long life. It is stressing because you want them to understand you love them no matter what.

Best thing to do (imo) would be to like hold her hands, look her in the eyes and say something along the lines of "I love you so much my dear, if you are maybe worried about if I would stay because of your disease, then look at me currently. I am here with you am I not? I will forever be at your side if you would let me!". I'd tell the family the same thing. They likely are protective of her and want the best for her. Maybe talk to them and get them to understand you look past what she has and won't hurt her in any form.

Outside of that all you can really do is keep praying and maybe even fast about it and see if she is the one God has for you.

 

[pressingon17]

Well I was with a woman who was terminally ill. Often she would do the same to me. She loved me but though I could do better with someone who was going to live a long life. It is stressing because you want them to understand you love them no matter what.

Best thing to do (imo) would be to like hold her hands, look her in the eyes and say something along the lines of "I love you so much my dear, if you are maybe worried about if I would stay because of your disease, then look at me currently. I am here with you am I not? I will forever be at your side if you would let me!". I'd tell the family the same thing. They likely are protective of her and want the best for her. Maybe talk to them and get them to understand you look past what she has and won't hurt her in any form.

Outside of that all you can really do is keep praying and maybe even fast about it and see if she is the one God has for you.

Were taking a break for awhile to seek the Lord more and pray about our relationship. I still love her but she does have a lot of maturing to do. I do as well. I'm 4 years older than her and have a bit more life experience so we'll see. I want this to work but she needs to bring her A game to the table like me. Prayers still appreciated.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

I'll be praying for you both!