What becomes of the Broken Hearted

[Stanfi]

I want to recommend a book that I've been reading to you guys. I think Singles suffer from this probably more than anyone else. It's called "What Becomes of the Broken Hearted" by Michelle McKinney Hammond. It's a great book about the process of healing for those who haved "loved and lost".

I also am going to read another book by this same author titled "Prayer Gudide for the Broken Hearted". Hopefully it will be just as good as the one I've been reading now.

The one that I'm reading now is written from a laides point of view, but I think that it applies to both genders.

So, you guys got any comments as to how you have healed from a Broken Heart, and avoided being plauged with bitterness?

 

[LifeInYou]

*grabs microphone*

.....who had love that's now departed....I know I've got to find some kind of peace of mind....I'll be looking everywhere just to find someone who cares...

*puts mic down* *clears throat*

Essentials for the healing of a broken heart 101:

1. God
2. Time


Any Questions?

 

[desi]

Change everything and start looking. By changing everything, getting rid of stuff from the old relationship, you will not trigger memories everytime you see something that reminds you of 'you and her' because that stuff won't be there. You should avoid music you associate with her like the plague, that is the most likely thing to mess you up inside. By looking for another you will give yourself focus and help to replace what was lost, companionship, sooner. These are my rules, they may not work for everyone.

Start reading a chapter of proverbs every day, there are 31.

 

[Stanfi]

.....who had love that's now departed....I know I've got to find some kind of peace of mind....I'll be looking everywhere just to find someone who cares...

LOL!! That's a great song! I heard a remake during a flight I was on my in December. I can remember who the artist was, but it was really good. It's been playing in my head ever since I saw the title of that book.

 

[ZiSunka]

Essentials for the healing of a broken heart 101:

1. God
2. Time

3. More love, either from a new love, or from old friends and family.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

*grabs microphone*

.....who had love that's now departed....I know I've got to find some kind of peace of mind....I'll be looking everywhere just to find someone who cares...

*puts mic down* *clears throat*

100% Pure Comedy Gold...

 

[Stanfi]

3. More love, either from a new love, or from old friends and family.

Do you think finding a new love to help heal pain of a broken heart is wrong? It doesn't seem fair to the new person in your life. I'm not critizing, I'm just asking. I know I have found the love and frienship of my true friends to be invaluable, but having someone new to come into your live while you are "recovering" just doensn't seem fair to the new person to me.

 

[wvmtnkid]

I can't answer for lambslove, but in my opinion, I think it depends on where you are in the healing process. If all you want from the new love is a replacement of the old love, than no, it isn't fair. But if you are truly ready to move forward with your life and move forward with new people, than it's ok, even if you are still recovering. Some loves take longer to get over than others. I guess, it is all kinda subjective. It depends on you and how you view the new relationship. Substitute or New.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I agree that it depends on where you are in the healing process. I've heard that "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." But if your healing is dependant on the new relationship, then it can fall apart when the relationship hits it's bumps.

 

[ZiSunka]

Do you think finding a new love to help heal pain of a broken heart is wrong? It doesn't seem fair to the new person in your life. I'm not critizing, I'm just asking. I know I have found the love and frienship of my true friends to be invaluable, but having someone new to come into your live while you are "recovering" just doensn't seem fair to the new person to me.

I think it is a mistake to get into a serious romantic relationship too soon after a broken heart, but I think it is essential to get to the point eventually where you can open yourself up to a new love. To stay closed to love out of grief for the lost love is unhealthy. And the love of a good person doesn't have to be romantic love, it can be a new intimate friendship, or the love of family and friends.

It depends on where you are in the process. If it's a fresh wound, then clinging to a new lover so you don't feel the pain of the wound is unhealthy and wrong. But if you are stuck in mourning for the old love, that's unhealthy and wrong, too.

 

[joey]

I had just received the book" The prayer guide for the brokenhearted" and went through some chapters. It is really a great book that eveyone shall have a copy at home.