what are some of your insecurities

I am really worried about people liking me, and it drives me insane sometimes.

Like.. if someone asks me to go out to coffee with them, I get worried that they are only wanting to go to coffee to end our friendship or tell me I did something awful or something.

I am very insecure about sharing my insecurities.

I'm insecure about my looks. I don't think I'm a bad looking guy, but I definitely don't think I'm anywhere near good looking, and especially now that I wear glasses. My fashion style is not very good, I don't know how to gel/style my hair so I don't do anything to it... A lot of times when I'm talking to people, even if they seem to really be enjoying the conversation, in the back of my mind I'm thinking that they are thinking "why am I here hanging out with this scrub. Look at him, way below my league."

Hey Kevin..When did you get glasses?

I am going into glasses next saturday. Bleh.

Petrarch said:

I can't imagine someone asking another out for coffee in order to say something negative, especially about you.

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hah.. really is my fear, though. Someone asked me to lunch the other day and I spent the entire day leading up to it ready to vomit, trying to go through every single thing I could have possibly done wrong to offend or disappoint the person. It drives me crazy.

making other people happy and trusting others enough to get close, whether it be a simple friendship or a relationship...

I once had an insecurity about my appearance, however when i started to exercise and work out, it waned quite a bit... there's still a little bit of it, but i put it in the back of my mind

I got glasses just about a year ago now. Was hoping I'd just get used to them by now, but I really haven't. A big part of me wants to get contacts, but I'm so freaked out by the idea of touching my eye... I can't even use eyedrops really... So I'm kind of stuck.

Bro.. I had coke bottles for glasses growing up, I mean.. I could only have army issue frames they were so thick (-8 strength)

At ten years old I became the youngest person in the state of Missouri to wear contacts. I have worn them for almost 19 years now

I'll tell you this, I have really abused them, the hard kind that you are supposed to take out every night, i'd wear for a week. When I got the soft kind that you are supposed to take out every night I'd wear them for six weeks till they "felt crusty on my eye" the soft kind that are supposed to last for two weeks in your eye... I've had that pair in for four months now and going.

DON"T DO THAT, EVER. btw.. I'm not saying that to let you think you can, I am dumb for doing it but the point is.. They aren't so bad, I have abused my eyes far beyond what any intelligent person should. I was afraid of them at first too but after a while, you can pop them in and out with ease. You don't really touch your eye, you get it kinda close and it jumps on like static cling. Hard to explain.

I am only getting out of them so that I can get lasik, doc said I had to wear glasses for six months to "Let my eyes recouperate from the abuse I have given them" rofl.

i had coke bottles too... there was even a time as to where my lazy eye got so bad, I had to wear a patch over one eye so that it would help my other eye get stronger

looks- I was made fun of a lot growing up and in college. I always feel like people are noticing how ugly i am...... And the funny part is, I don't think i'm ugly and I think all the meanness shown to me was about other things (they were jealous of something else in my life that i had or was good at or they wanted to rattle me b/c they were insecure, etc...). I was not the typical ideal of beauty that is popular here when i was growing up (i'm not blond or bigger; i'm small and have dark hair and eyes with fair skin- I was odd). I'm a pretty shy and sensitive person and I trusted what people said about me for so long. I think i'm shy now, b/c of what went on in my formative years. I don't like to be noticed unless it's for sincere and good reasons. I've worked hard to overcome the lack of confidence in this area and I wouldn't say i'm 100% yet, but I do feel much better about myself and do consider myself pretty in my own way.

Don't even get me started on my insecurites !!!

kevlite2020 said:

I got glasses just about a year ago now. Was hoping I'd just get used to them by now, but I really haven't. A big part of me wants to get contacts, but I'm so freaked out by the idea of touching my eye... I can't even use eyedrops really... So I'm kind of stuck.

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I think that glasses look good on you

yam said:

Everybody has insecurities. What are some of your insecurites and how is it affecting your life?

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In relation to men/women relations:
1. I have a hard time trusting woman's feelings
2. I have a hard time believing a woman wants me for me. Meaning that she only wants me for the idea of having me.
3. I have a hard time believing a woman wants me for me. I am quick to think that a woman will want me to try to make me her into her own little 'Ken' because she's attracted to me. Girls that have tried to make in their perfect guy found out how that goes about to say the least. I can think of 2 girls and while the number is low with the women that tried this, it has a monumental affect.
4. Raising a family.

These things I wouldn't say they are affecting my life. These are things I look out for. I deal with them now in a no-nonsense manner. If a girl doesn't like the fact that I like drinking beer a decent amount of the time, go find someone on the wagon, someone who drinks less for all I care. I don't get drunk so that's all that should matter and I watch it myself so I trust myself over a worried woman's emotions. If a girl doesn't like my political views, find someone more like her. If she doesn't like the fact that I feel like I am ready to cave back into smoking cigarettes at any moment and that I am doing my best to quit and hopefully this week can last longer than a week this time and if she doesn't like that fact that I struggle with those things as much as I do, go and find a non-smoker. Don't like the fact that I have rough language, find someone with smoother language for when we first meet, I'll talk to impress you but once your impressed, you'll see my true colors and my mouth is not smooth like soap or so kind to the ears that the ladies just swoon to it. Don't like my religious views or don't like my views on sex, go find someone else. What you see is what you get and if you don't like what you see, do not waste my time. These are some of the issues that have come about in my relationships.

The 4th one there has nothing to do with experiences or past dating escapes. That insecurity is based in my upbringing. My dad is on his 5th wife, my mom is always trying to find a good man and has been married 2x. I question the idea of bringing children into this world if the institution of marriage is insecure as it is because if I am to bring children into this world, I don't want them to have to deal with a broken family. This one isn't affecting my life quo say, but this is one of those deep rooted insecurity that cannot be taken cared of by a special way of dealing with it. It exists and it is what it is.

I'm another one insecure about looks. That's what happens when you are raised as the smart sister. I like being considered smart, but I'd like to be thought of as pretty too. Although, CFers were good at making me feel pretty when I finally posted a pic of myself.

Honestly, I've had a really weird week, and a really hard week too. I'm missing some friends, missing my dad and siblings, and feeling like a piece of me is missing in action.

I've been getting so intimidated lately, over almost everything. It's something I used to struggle with, but not quite like this. Since around this time last year, meaning, beginning then, I developed a sort of stutter. It's not like I go h-h-h but instead i go - - -- like I can't even begin to say the words...shame has been a big problem...while I've been growing in other areas, I am feeling stunted with my stutter. Even if I have something good to say, and I really care about it, it is so hard to say it.

:-\ Just feelin' really messed up today...

I was afraid of them at first too but after a while, you can pop them in and out with ease. You don't really touch your eye, you get it kinda close and it jumps on like static cling. Hard to explain.

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If they just kind of cling to go in, how do you get them out? What's that feel like? Don't you have to kind of like scrape it against your eye to lift it out?

I have problems trusting people. i've had a lot of bad experiences trusting and befriending the wrong types of people that it takes me a long time to really get comfortable with new people. so when i'm getting to know new people i always think somewhere in the back of my mind that they must think i'm a dork for saying such-and-such or something else.

and then probably my looks, i've never really thought i was pretty. most of the time its something i can put in the back of my head and not worry about but i do have those days when i look in the mirror and shake my head and wish there was a paper bag lying around