I've made the decision to divorce my husband. I've already met with an attorney and am filing the papers next week. It has been a long struggle and he just will not do anything to work on his addiction of infidelity. We have two young children still in diapers. I've been so busy w the divorce and getting a job and child care and school that I havent had time to really feel the loneliness until now. How am I going to survive being so alone. I am the type of person that needs a man to take care of, to support, and to be physical with. Now that is all going away and I'm not sure how to cope. My soon to be ex has caused a lot of self esteem issues w his addiction and I'm in need of some support. I have no idea where to go from here. There's so many complications that come with divorce, my mind is on a rollercoaster that's going no where. So, help?
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Hi Lover,
That is a very common feeling. I'm going thru Divorce Care. If you go to DivorceCare.org you can find if there is a class in a church near you.
It can easily take a year or more for you to get some feeling a normalcy when going thru a divorce.
You want to be careful that you don't make decisions to do things that will cause you more pain down the road.
Your kids will be a major part of your identity going forward. Just finding a guy can complicate your life even more and may even lead you to neglect your kids. That will cause you more guilty. So please don't go there.
Don't talk down your kids father to them. They will learn what he is like on their own.
Learn to live alone. As nice as it is to have a man who meets a lot of your needs, you will have much healthier relationships in the future if you learn who you are and don't have to define yourself in terms of someone else.
That is a very common feeling. I'm going thru Divorce Care. If you go to DivorceCare.org you can find if there is a class in a church near you.
It can easily take a year or more for you to get some feeling a normalcy when going thru a divorce.
You want to be careful that you don't make decisions to do things that will cause you more pain down the road.
Your kids will be a major part of your identity going forward. Just finding a guy can complicate your life even more and may even lead you to neglect your kids. That will cause you more guilty. So please don't go there.
Don't talk down your kids father to them. They will learn what he is like on their own.
Learn to live alone. As nice as it is to have a man who meets a lot of your needs, you will have much healthier relationships in the future if you learn who you are and don't have to define yourself in terms of someone else.
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