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[Where]

I don't really know where to put this....Sorry for any inconvienience. I have a problem. My parents are Christian but I am actually more spiritually mature then they are(Trust me) Sometimes I feel like I have no guidance. Yes, I know God is there and His Word...but I'd like some people to help me grow more spiritually. There is this girl...I really like her, love even. I want to lead her spirituall..be her spiritual leader. I try my hardest but she is a pastor's daughter and has been taught so much more than me. It doesn't seem fair. On a random note...alot of the times I am sad by how my parents treat me. I feel unloved alot...like they don't care. My best friend--the girl I like( it is a mutual attraction in every area)--tells me God has placed me in this situation for a perfect reason. I just wanted to talk. Any thoughts on all of this? How can I become more of a spiritual leader in a relationship?

 

[Breetai]

Study the Word of God. Study, study, study. Don't worry bout being a spiritual leader. Just do the best that you can. Why don't you join a men's Bible study group? Most often, they are filled with spiritually mature guys that will help you grow. Even more, they will have life experience and will be able to give you some good advice on various subjects.

 

[charligirl]

I don't really know where to put this....Sorry for any inconvienience. I have a problem. My parents are Christian but I am actually more spiritually mature then they are(Trust me) Sometimes I feel like I have no guidance. Yes, I know God is there and His Word...but I'd like some people to help me grow more spiritually. There is this girl...I really like her, love even. I want to lead her spirituall..be her spiritual leader. I try my hardest but she is a pastor's daughter and has been taught so much more than me. It doesn't seem fair. On a random note...alot of the times I am sad by how my parents treat me. I feel unloved alot...like they don't care. My best friend--the girl I like( it is a mutual attraction in every area)--tells me God has placed me in this situation for a perfect reason. I just wanted to talk. Any thoughts on all of this? How can I become more of a spiritual leader in a relationship?

Your post is a little confusing as to where you are in your walk, from the little you have said it seems you want to lead this girl.. yet she has more teaching and understanding than yourself and you want to get up to speed so you can be her spiritual leader, is that correct??

I question why you want this? it's good to want to grow in Christ and became more spiritually mature, that should be our aim always, but unless you one day become her husband, it's not your place to be her spiritual leader.

You should be concentrating on yourself and your walk, getting closer to God and studying his word. Spiritual maturity comes with time through our walk with Jesus and God's revelation to us through his word and through those in authority and leadership positions. Is there a male leader in the church who could disciple you? or a men's group you could go to to encourage you and teach you?

Start to pray and read the word, ask God to give you understanding and wisdom, Pray the prayer in Eph 1 v 17 for yourself and God will instruct and teach you!!

 

[DaveKerwin]

To be a spiritual leader, you do not need to know all the answers, just follow God, and be of strong character. The rest will fall in place, don't sweat it.

 

[Breetai]

I like you post DaveKerwin. It is in complete contrast to mine, yet, both are true. It's an awesome example of how we are led on different paths, but for the same purpose: Jesus Christ.

 

[*Miau*]

I like you post DaveKerwin. It is in complete contrast to mine, yet, both are true. It's an awesome example of how we are led on different paths, but for the same purpose: Jesus Christ.

Yes - the path is Jesus Christ - and that should be the main path for all of us.
I think I know what "Where" is talking about. My parents are christians too, but they are in a church that I don't want to go to anymore, because I disagree with their beliefs. Therefore I've found another church, and that goes against what my parents have tried to teach me all my life. Because of that they can't lead me in my Search for Christ. It's frustrating, yes, but it's not impossible to find somebody who can take over the role of being a leader for you. Where, I'm sure you're connected to a church, why don't you talk to the leader of the churchif you can use him for personal guidance? The leader is supposed to serve his followers - Jesus did that - therefore your leader can't say no, if he's a good leader (if he says no, I'd change church, cos then he's obviously not following Jesus Christ.)
If you can't ask your church leader for some reason, join a study group - as somebody suggested - actually join a study group anyway, they are very useful to your christian life, not only in the aspect of being a spiritual leader, but also in the aspect of being a good christian and a servant for God.

Btw - why don't you and your girlfriend help eachother with finding God? In God's eyes you're equal, so surely you can help eachother in this matter?

 

[DaveKerwin]

Think of it this way. If Jesus is YOUR leader and you obey his word, then you will be fine, and have nothing to worry about. Concern yourself with keeping your nose in the Bible, and implementing what God is teaching you. At the same time, it is beneficial to seek out al older christian man who is well repsected that you can have as a mentor.