I know God is handling the situation between me and Yan. I had been so worried about hurting his feelings by trying to explain my position on all of this. So, I have a hunch that God removed him from my life. I haven't heard from Yan since Saturday. He wanted me to go to dinner. I declined saying I had to get up early for church (which was true). He said, "well, I guess I need to go then. If you won't have dinner with me I need to go make my dinner." I sent him an email Monday to say "hello" and he never responded and he hasn't called. I think he feels I've snubbed him.
Ah well. These things happen. Maybe God knew I may not be able to maintain self-control in the situation so He removed Yan from the picture. It all happens for a reason.