Weird life stages

[Nienna_Lady_of_Tears]

Anyone seem to just not fit anywhere?

Take me for example:

1) I'm 28.
2) I don't identify with people in their 20s because they're either talking about studies, work, or trying to find a partner. I am married, not a student, and unemployed.
3) I'm unemployed but not a SAHM.
4) My husband is disabled and so the Married Couples section seems strange to me because of the needed shift in gender roles that his disabilities require.
5) Often I feel like a man in a woman's body based on my interests and infrequent communication. I can't even talk to other women because they have no clue how to treat me or what to say.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Until last November, I was also married, not a student, unemployed, and not a SAHM.

 

[Luther073082]

Anyone seem to just not fit anywhere?

Take me for example:

1) I'm 28.
2) I don't identify with people in their 20s because they're either talking about studies, work, or trying to find a partner. I am married, not a student, and unemployed.
3) I'm unemployed but not a SAHM.
4) My husband is disabled and so the Married Couples section seems strange to me because of the needed shift in gender roles that his disabilities require.
5) Often I feel like a man in a woman's body based on my interests and infrequent communication. I can't even talk to other women because they have no clue how to treat me or what to say.

Not everyone in the married couple's section is a stickler for gender roles. I know I'm not.

Really the number of gender roles that are detailed in the bible are very few in number. The rest are often made up by Christians who think that the 1950's was the greatest decade ever.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

Hi Nienna

I'm 23, single, unemployed. While you might think that I'm the perfect canidate to fiit into any group, such as young adults or singles, I usually am the one feeling different from everyone else. I don't have the same opinions as a lot of people, and like you said everyone is usually talking about wanting a partner, while yes Im single but I'm not on the prowl for ome every second and I don't feel like I need to talk about it 24/7 either. Also I've had a lot of experience in growing up over the years (whether I wanted to or not) so I usually feel like the mother of any group Im in. Because when conversations come around to boyfriends, or doing something that could be dangerous, or I know someone who is lying to their parents all the other friends are going "aw go you!! I would so do that if i had the chance" and Im sitting there worrying over them and telling them that it could really hurt their future. lol
I think it's okay to be the way you are, you seem perfectly normal for me, and Im praying for you and hubby. Im disabled as well.

Just remember you're never the only one in your boat, someone may not be going through exactly everything you're going through, but theres always someone out there who can relate somewhat.

 

[Inkachu]

Umm, yes!

I'm 33, never married, single working mom. Everyone around me is married. Nobody at my job is a fellow Christian, either. So I'm surrounded by women who talk about their husbands, children, grandchildren, what they made for dinner, their personal sexcapades, on and on. I'd rather talk about literature or opera I'm completely uninterested in typical "30 something woman" topics, like fashion, hair, cooking, husbands, gardening, etc. Bleh.

 

[MissJenn23]

Hmm I dont fit in either
1. Im 29 going on 12 ...So what i like Dinosaur toys and cartoons
2.Im married and people think its perfect but HAHAHA yeah its so not
3.I recently recommited my life to God so i lost alot of friends ..I used to be a Party girl
4. Im a cow ..Mooo
Yeah i dont fit in a lot of places im quite werid , and i can be emo'esc very sad and broody

 

[SplendidTree]

I am 26 just moved home with my folks. Not working I do not even have my drivers license yet. My other friends work and go to school and have relationships. I feel I am at this weird point I just won't get out of unless I start taking more risks.

 

[Blank123]

I'm 25, still living at home, and only have a part-time job with no degree under my belt(yet). I certainly don't fit comfortably into any one group. but thats okay. God made me unique for a reason

 

[crishmael]

I'm 31, single, and still in college trying to get my bachelor's. I work part time at the university library and share an apartment with my brother. Life's taken some weird turns along the way.

 

[PrincessSED]

I was just thinking this the other night - that I don't really fit into some of these groups.

I'm 26, and a student, but it's a professional degree. So I feel like I don't really fit in with the younger, more traditional students. 1) They're much younger than me numerically and maturity-wise. 2) I've been there done that, and my school environment is MUCH different from theirs.

Plus, I feel like most of the people in my age range are either engaged or married and/or having children. I, however, am still single and trying to set up my career.

The point is, I understand feeling like you don't fit into a group. So you aren't alone.

~Sara

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

Yes, due to my health (chronic pain in neck and hands) I'm not able to currently work or go back to school and right now hardly ever drive. I am 29 and married. This is not how I viewed this point in my life but I'm doing my best with what I have and thankful for all the good I have and just trying to grow through this tough time in all the ways God may want for me to. It is tough and frusterating as I have always been independant and self-sufficient and working from a very young age. I don't know if this is something God wants to teach my husband and I to make us into more the people he wants us to be or what but I just try to focus on the positive and trust God for my healing, otherwise it seems pretty bleak. I do have a wonderful husband but there is just sooo much more I want to do with my life and its frusterating being in this time where everthing is literally on hold.

I do still have good friends in all stages of life and though most are not in anything that close to my situation, real friends will love you no matter what and the ones that don't care to understand or know how to at least try to relate to you aren't worth the bother anyhow.

Oh, and I think its an important character quality for God to grow in us, the ability to relate to people in all kinds of other walks and stages of life, and show them empathy and understanding whether or not we have or ever will experience what they are going through. I think it makes us more rounded people to be able to do that. This is something I would like to get better at for sure, rather than write people off, simply because I can't relate to what stage in life they are in! (Which, I usually try not to do but am not perfect at it)

 

[anewday]

I feel soooooo out of place all the time! I'm in my early thirties but not married. I am in a relationship but to some members of my family that's not good enough. I do have a full time job but I'm also going to school in the evenings. There are more students my age and older than I thought there would be in school though. It makes me feel better about taking a few years to think about going back for my masters! At my new church I have been meeting the older married couples but have yet to meet anybody my age. That makes connecting with people hard at church but I am trying. It is comforting to know that others feel out of place like me .

 

[ShaolinWarrior27]

I am so with you on this. I joke that I was old before I was born; mentally, I'm two or three times my physical age. lol My friends are still trying to figure out what they might want to do in life while I know more or less exactly what I want. I try to have a serious conversation about serious life/career decisions while they can't stop rabbling about dating and some guy/women they met. Oy vey.