We have to submit to injustice?

[CrystalTurquoise]

My husband and I have been told we should forget the injustice made to us and come back to the church where we have been mistreated without expecting any apology, but we should do so in order to not destroy a body of Christ and to please God.

(Some info you may need:
We have been mistreated for many months on end. My husband had several meetings with the responsible ones and with the pastor, looking for a solution that was promised but never delivered. In the end the abuse was public and in the sanctuary, so we left.

And
Many people have left that church for the same reasons (more than ten families) but we never encouraged them to do so. We never really shared what happened with anyone. )

My question is:is God "pleased" if we go back and get mistreated again?

 

[Maria Billingsley]

My husband and I have been told we should forget the injustice made to us and come back to the church where we have been mistreated without expecting any apology, but we should do so in order to not destroy a body of Christ and to please God.

(Some info you may need:
We have been mistreated for many months on end. My husband had several meetings with the responsible ones and with the pastor, looking for a solution that was promised but never delivered. In the end the abuse was public and in the sanctuary, so we left.

And
Many people have left that church for the same reasons (more than ten families) but we never encouraged them to do so. We never really shared what happened with anyone. )

My question is:is God "pleased" if we go back and get mistreated again?

Mistreated in what way ?

 

[Gregory Thompson]

My husband and I have been told we should forget the injustice made to us and come back to the church where we have been mistreated without expecting any apology, but we should do so in order to not destroy a body of Christ and to please God.

(Some info you may need:
We have been mistreated for many months on end. My husband had several meetings with the responsible ones and with the pastor, looking for a solution that was promised but never delivered. In the end the abuse was public and in the sanctuary, so we left.

And
Many people have left that church for the same reasons (more than ten families) but we never encouraged them to do so. We never really shared what happened with anyone. )

My question is:is God "pleased" if we go back and get mistreated again?

Not sure what happened, but it sounds like an abuser using forgiveness as a manipulative tool.

Since what happened is not stated, answering the question is not possible.

 

[CrystalTurquoise]

Mistreated in what way ?

Being ignored, patronized, minimized, silenced and disrespected. I know it sounds petty. The problem is it went on for almost one year on a regular basis. It's like collecting small stones every day. In the end, the weight becomes unbearable.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

Being ignored, patronized, minimized, silenced and disrespected. I know it sounds petty. The problem is it went on for almost one year on a regular basis. It's like collecting small stones every day. In the end, the weight becomes unbearable.

Christian Advice Matthew 18:15-17.

You mentioned that "you told no one"

You need to talk out what happened. Go through the process.

If the church will not listen to you, then let them be a bunch of atheists reading bibles.

But if they do listen to you, then you have won them over.

 

[CrystalTurquoise]

Christian Advice Matthew 18:15-17.

You mentioned that "you told no one"

You need to talk out what happened. Go through the process.

If the church will not listen to you, then let them be a bunch of atheists reading bibles.

But if they do listen to you, then you have won them over.

We talked with the responsible ones AND the pastor. And nothing changed. What I meant is we did not talk to other members not involved, and we didn't encourage anyone to leave either.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

We talked with the responsible ones AND the pastor. And nothing changed. What I meant is we did not talk to other members not involved, and we didn't encourage anyone to leave either.

The process in Matthew 18 says to get others involved. It's the next step of the process. If you want Christian advice, that's it. Most people don't do it, because it seems obvious the outcome.

However, maybe Jesus taught to do that for reasons other than outcome.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

Being ignored, patronized, minimized, silenced and disrespected. I know it sounds petty. The problem is it went on for almost one year on a regular basis. It's like collecting small stones every day. In the end, the weight becomes unbearable.

Well, forgive and give it another go. 70x7.
Blessings

 

[ZephBonkerer]

My husband and I have been told we should forget the injustice made to us and come back to the church where we have been mistreated without expecting any apology, but we should do so in order to not destroy a body of Christ and to please God.

(Some info you may need:
We have been mistreated for many months on end. My husband had several meetings with the responsible ones and with the pastor, looking for a solution that was promised but never delivered. In the end the abuse was public and in the sanctuary, so we left.

And
Many people have left that church for the same reasons (more than ten families) but we never encouraged them to do so. We never really shared what happened with anyone. )

My question is:is God "pleased" if we go back and get mistreated again?

I really wish other Christians would refrain from giving abuse victims the “70 times 7“ lecture. That reflects poorly on all of us as it makes us appear indifferent to abuse and injustice. That pastor had an opportunity to resolve the matter and he failed, so other families handed him a vote of no confidence. That doesn't harm Christ one bit. It actually is cleansing and it minimizes the disastrous effects of inept or corrupt leadership.

It's a healthy process: those families are being taken away from that pastor and will come under more competent spiritual leadership. Either that pastor will make some necessary adjustments or risk losing more. You can fire the pastor, and it seems that you and others already have.

And don't think for a minute that you have some biblical obligation to put up with injustice, mistreatment, etc. I used to think this myself, until I wised up. I took a lot of crud when I was in my 20s. I have since decided I've had enough for one lifetime.

When you stand up for yourself, you might lose friends, and some people might accuse you of being a jerk. That's OK so long as you don't sin. They liked you better when you were easier to control or manipulate, but did you like that version of you better?

 

[Maria Billingsley]

What makes you think this? Explain.

Note: I made some minor edits to my post to remove any unnecessary confusion. The procedure in Matthew 18:15-20 may be very appropriate here, and it appears this person observed that. It was the misuse of other verses in that same chapter (especially 21 and 22) that I found problematic.

Edit noted!
Be blessed.

 

[FreeinChrist]

We talked with the responsible ones AND the pastor. And nothing changed. What I meant is we did not talk to other members not involved, and we didn't encourage anyone to leave either.

It is good that you didn't talk to other members. Keep it with the responsible ones and the pastor.

My advice is to leave the church and find a different one where you can grow in faith and serve. You can't make other people change, you can only pray for them since you already spoke with them without success.

 

[anetazo]

Don't go back to that church. 1 John 5:16. Those trying to keep Christian people in Bondage, is of satan. Some hirelings are manipulative and teach tradition of men. Even use guilt to hold people .
Psalm 147:3. Jesus can repair the damage. Christian people need to study sound doctrine. There's few pastors/teachers who actually teach sound doctrine.
Unfortunately, many hirelings teach tradition of men and false doctrine. They use control tactics. Or use guilt trips to control Christian people.
Psalm chapter 73 . Stay in the sanctuary. Repent sins to God and be forgiven. Study sound doctrine.
God wants to bless His children.
Stay in the sanctuary, and keep away from the hirelings who promote traditions of men and use control tactics.
Take care.

 

[WolfGate]

Find another church. The reality that they care more about "their church" than "The Church" is an indication that is a poor place to worship.