Was my mother right or wrong?

[Life2Christ]

Today it snowed big time in our neck of the woods. A school mom called me on my cell to invite my daughter to play with her daughter in the snow. I said great! What time would you like to meet? School mom said I don't know. I said what about 12noon in the school yard? She said terrific. We hung up.

12Noon rolls around and I bundle my daughter up and we head out to the school yard. We get there and the school yard is locked up and no one can go in. I call school mom on my cell and said "hey guess what, school yard is closed. I wanted to let you know."

School mom says: "Oh I know it is closed. We found out a while ago, we are across the neighborhood eating at a restaurant and then we will go play by the docks (we live in a waterfront community.)" She then asks if we want to trudge through the snow to meet her. I politely told her no thanks because the streets were not cleared and my 4 year old would have a hard time.

I walked away feeling really hurt. Hurt that she didn't call me to tell me she made other plans and that I had to be inconvenienced.

My mother says I should forgive her because she probably forgot to call me. And by her forgetting I shouldn't think it was a big deal.

Now I have forgiven and forgotten but wanted to know if I'm too sensitive or is my mother correct? P.S. this is one of the reasons I no longer have friends, I have experienced a long history of people just letting me down when I rely on them or need to rely on them.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, but it was impolite. I doubt she could have forgotten to call you, likely didn't think much of it, which isn't the right thing to do. It's likely a small mistake though, and I wouldn't let it get to you.

 

[LifebyChrist]

I think you were a little too sensitive but this is just my opinion.

I do not think she had anything against you, in fact I think she was friendly. You had both wanted to hang out or have your daughters hang out as friends and some mistakes and inconviences happened.

We are all going to get a little dirty walking around in the world, it is good to forgive and forget.

Matthew 18:21-22 "Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times? Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times."

The biggest thing is I do not think she intended to hurt your feelings, it was simply a mistake. We all fall short and make mistakes but God is forgiving and patient with us, we should do the same with others as well.

 

[znr]

Her behavior is only a problem if it's a pattern. Know what I mean?

 

[achristiantech]

Today it snowed big time in our neck of the woods. A school mom called me on my cell to invite my daughter to play with her daughter in the snow. I said great! What time would you like to meet? School mom said I don't know. I said what about 12noon in the school yard? She said terrific. We hung up.

12Noon rolls around and I bundle my daughter up and we head out to the school yard. We get there and the school yard is locked up and no one can go in. I call school mom on my cell and said "hey guess what, school yard is closed. I wanted to let you know."

School mom says: "Oh I know it is closed. We found out a while ago, we are across the neighborhood eating at a restaurant and then we will go play by the docks (we live in a waterfront community.)" She then asks if we want to trudge through the snow to meet her. I politely told her no thanks because the streets were not cleared and my 4 year old would have a hard time.

I walked away feeling really hurt. Hurt that she didn't call me to tell me she made other plans and that I had to be inconvenienced.

My mother says I should forgive her because she probably forgot to call me. And by her forgetting I shouldn't think it was a big deal.

Now I have forgiven and forgotten but wanted to know if I'm too sensitive or is my mother correct? P.S. this is one of the reasons I no longer have friends, I have experienced a long history of people just letting me down when I rely on them or need to rely on them.

Sounds like you have forgiven her, but you have not forgotten. Yes, she let you down about not notifying you, bad on her, but she possibly could have forgotten. I have to tell you that if I don't write things down my short-term memory fails me and can lead to things such as this. But she loves you and you love her so don't let it tear you or your relationship apart.

I don't know your specific issues concerning friends, but no one likes to be let down. My best friends are always there and on time. Others not as close a friend or just acquaintenances it's a mixed bag. So stop and consider which friends are for real and nurture their relationship.

 

[heron]

This sort of thing will happen to you a lot, but it was still rude. I am guessing she was upset herself, had other kids with her and decided to feed them, then call you. But it was still not right.

It's a good lesson in realizing that not everyone is as responsible as you. I have had parents drop off their kids for an overnight with nothing -- no sleeping bag or change of clothes, or question about when to pick them up. I have had parents not bother to pick up their kids, and not leave a phone number.

One time I was running late for evening work and had to pick up my daughter from school so the timing would work, and another parent decided to take it on herself to drive my daughter home. I spent an hour looking around school for my daughter, and the mother thought I should be grateful to her.

I've even had creepy things happen, that I don't want to repeat. The parents did not see anything wrong.

People are weird, that's all there is to say. There will be some you will be glad didn't befriend you, because offenses like this will continue.

Protect your kids.