Was it a good idea?

[GracefulGalPal]

So I made an eHarmony account to see if I could find a partner. Was it a good idea? I know some people don't like that site but I don't know what else to try.

 

[MyGivenNameIsKeith]

If you have to ask if something is a good idea, then usually it is not a good idea.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

Why do you think it was possibly a mistake?

 

[GracefulGalPal]

@Travelers.Soul Because I've tried dating sites before and they didn't work out.

 

[Saucy]

You just never know if something will work or not. You can go through a 100 guys before finding the one. Or, he can be the next person you meet. With this sort of thing, you shouldn't put past experience up on a pedestal and think it will always be like that. You can also learn from previous mistakes and grow as a person. Are there any ways you can help make the experience better?

 

[Citanul]

Joining the site was neither a good nor a bad idea - it's simply something that you did. It's what you do now that you're on the site that can be good or bad e.g. ignoring potential red flags and getting involved with someone purely because they sent you a message = bad idea; being selective and taking your time over decisions = good idea.

 

[PeachieKeen]

When I used to try online dating, eharmony was my fav. Much more geared towards long term relationships then other sites I think. Best of luck!

 

[Saucy]

*realized I had a typo. I meant you SHOULDN'T put past experiences on a pedestal. Every single experience you have will be different. Even if it doesn't work out with someone, they came into your life for a reason. Maybe they helped you grow in some way. Maybe you learned something about yourself. Learn to use even bad experiences to your benefit and use them to shape who you become

 

[leothelioness]

@Travelers.Soul Because I've tried dating sites before and they didn't work out.

I will say that when I did eHarmony I liked it the best out of all the sites I had tried. So, I think if you're really committed to it, you will find success with it.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

@Travelers.Soul Because I've tried dating sites before and they didn't work out.

Well, you never know. You chose to join eharmony and there is nothing wrong with that. Just be careful and wise but you never know what God will do. You may meet a lovely guy who you marry or you may not. But there is nothing wrong with trying online dating again.

 

[Paulie079]

I have used eHarmony before and found it to be a good site. I didn't have any luck, but that wasn't the site's fault. One time a few years ago I ended up Skyping with this girl I met on eHarmony who told me she had a pet iguana. She then went on to explain how they grow to be really big and she eventually wanted it to have its own room. And that's when I had to awkwardly back away lol. I said "I'm sure there is a guy out there who is just as passionate about iguanas as you are," and she was like, "This isn't happening right now..." It was gloriously awkward.

Godspeed, iguana girl. Godspeed.