My bf, who i've told you all about just went back Saturday to his hometown las Vegas to get his birth certificate and spend weekend with his best friend. He started a fight with me the night before he left over me not trusting him even though I never said that, I was actually in a good mood.anyways. Saturday he was back to being nice, full of pet names and I love yous, but Saturday night he like stopped talking to me. I asks why he's like im in Vegas babe and accused me of starting a fight and said his phone was dying.I let it go even though I got no g'night or love you. So yesterday morning he didn't even text me "good morning " I just got "morning " I let that go s well, but he just kept sending me three worded texts and I felt like I was bothering him so I told him it was hurting me, he said he'd try harder, but turned it right back around to me wanting to fight even grasping as far as complaining bcuz I've never desired to visit Vegas BUT said I would. Well he turned that into an attack but I let it go, even made a joke about wanting to are the pirateshow. Wasn't good enough still got complaints bcuz other tho im 23 I still have an 11 pm curfew (my parents run with a strict christian hand) but he's always been allowed to stay over long as h wants. After this kept going I finally asked if he was questioning wanting to be with me, his reply "maybe a bit" so I told him ok, guess im nit the girl for you blah blah. Ling story short he first was like ok then not wanting to break up wants to talk in person then back to break up is what I want then I wanna talk in person but im gonna stop talking to you til im back home..I told him if he wanted to fix it hr would want to right now not put it off til he was done having fun there.hour later he resounded "so no?" I didn't respond I was thinking and hurt that he wasn't even fighting to keep me, so less than 10 mins later he text back "ok..so long " like its ok he doesn't text quickly but is so ok with saying so ling bcuz I took 7 mins...I changed my gb pic from us yo me and my status but hid it, I just wanted him to see how seriously hurt I was and wanted him to you know fight to keep me, see if I was more than his sudden doubts. But late last night he posted about breaking up with me and how he was going to the strip and to see dirty showand its the best trip to Vegas ever, he needs to move back soon. Keep in mind I didn't say ANYTHING mean didn't even post the breakup no one knew but he went and did something hurtful like that then kicked my bro ans me off his fb. Was I wrong to end it over this? I want honest opinions. Im just so hurt he'd do this for one day in Vegas especially since I've bern so sick and was inn mayo clinic hospital Thursday..was I wrong should I text him?
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was i right?
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Not sure why (if I understand right) he wants to go to Vegas. Thats one place christians should avoid unless your simply going to a show. Even then I don't think I would go.
For the issue at hand I don't believe in giving up (well once at the engagement stage). But really it sounds like there were to many communication issues. Both people in a relationship can be quick to be hurt over something that sometimes was took the wrong way. Especially if you text/chat online. We see words but we don't know the emotions behind them or the intent.
Its really up to you what to do. The fact he gave on on you so fast is not good. But to be fair you also changed your picture maybe out of anger. You could contact him and say you want to work harder on being together. But if he doesn't want to then its probably best to find someone else.
Also you said he went to the strip to see "the dirty show". Does that mean it was some sort of adult show? If so then stay away from him. As a christian he shouldn't be seeing those kind of shows.
For the issue at hand I don't believe in giving up (well once at the engagement stage). But really it sounds like there were to many communication issues. Both people in a relationship can be quick to be hurt over something that sometimes was took the wrong way. Especially if you text/chat online. We see words but we don't know the emotions behind them or the intent.
Its really up to you what to do. The fact he gave on on you so fast is not good. But to be fair you also changed your picture maybe out of anger. You could contact him and say you want to work harder on being together. But if he doesn't want to then its probably best to find someone else.
Also you said he went to the strip to see "the dirty show". Does that mean it was some sort of adult show? If so then stay away from him. As a christian he shouldn't be seeing those kind of shows.
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Well he's from Vegas but he went to get a copy of his birth certificate and stay with his best friend. I knew it could be trouble but I didn't want to fight with him or something that could happen I waited to are and sure enough being there made him doubt or question if he wanted to be with me. Said to just not talk to each other til he got back here and let him see if he still has feelings for me, that broke my heart. I didn't change my pic for hours of he and I going back and fourth. He never asked me to stay/; however, hr did say he loves me so much but said he's mot denying his doubts but that that doesn't mean I know how he feels... I changed it and hid it from public so he'd see and come after me since he was just hanging with his friends having good ol time. He said fact that he's depressed shows he cares, but he wasn't acting like it since he said he was going out now, not hooking up but going outdo he wasn't going to text me anymore. He posted that mean fb msg and since we have same friends I then posted a very civil msg but none the less hurtful to him saying I made a good positive move that I need an adult... however, I still thought he'd maybe think about it over night and msg me today but he hasn't...so im guessing he's happy without me since he hasn't tried yo get me back. As far as the show idk, I goggled it but im not sure I found right one but its a sexually obscene art show. Idk if that's right though... what hurt was same msg of him stating our break up he also says its been his best trio to Vegas ever...
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Mrs. Luther073082
Commit to the LORD whatever you do - Proverbs 16:3
You guys both seem too immature for a relationship in general and this relationship clearly was not going to work out. Him posting that about going to the strip club was a lame attempt to make you mad and jealous. Time to move on from him.
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Curfew yes, its their house and I don't mind being home at 11 plus I can get an extension if I need one. Fair rules, I don't mind it at all
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That's actually extraordinarily unusual. Live at home, sure, but that doesn't mean they should micromanage the life of another adult. I live at home currently, I pay rent, and there are rules around the house, but nobody tries to manage my comings and goings like I'm a child.
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It's actually not that odd, I know other christian families with same rules.. I'm not managed to the point of I can't go somewhere when I wish; however 11 is my normal time to be home so as not yo distrust the household when returning. Like I said, of im going to br late occasionally then I just tell them no big deal, it's just a matter of respecting them late at night. Reason it was agreed on was really there's nothing that needs to be don't or places to go passed that time. I don't go to bars, clubs, stay over at bf house so really isn't an issue to me. And wasn't an issue to my now ex :/ until his trip to Vegas since he works at a bank early he'd usually be ready to sleep by 11. His one day in Vegas with his punk friends who love running around, just caused some doubts about being with a Christian so I ended it.doubts now doubts later. Curfew was just an excuse he gave me to justice his current feelings of wanting to run around with them..you see?
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Oh, ok. But no, I don't see why him wanting to be out and about with his buddies later at night is a problem.
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It wasn't a problem I told him to have fun on his vacation, only problem was that a day after getting there he changed and was treating me thru text more like I was an annoyance (he never did before ) so I said id let him go, but that upset him too. Them after his lil digs at me I asked if he was questioning wanting to be with me at all twice bcuz he avoided it the first time so he replied "maybe a bit." That was the problem... not him with his friends, I always encouraged him to see friends here, even offered to cook them all dinner and leave before they arrived... make sense now, or no?
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