Was he a creep?

[Adrianna91]

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[The Nihilist]

Definitely a creep

 

[gzt]

The thing with kids is mildly creepy, who knows? But the whole "wanting a photo of you for his wallet/phone" thing is definitely creepy for somebody who's talked to you on the internet for a week.

 

[Krystina661]

Sounds creepy to me

 

[GrumpGrump]

Even if his interest in children is perfectly innocent, he's got some attachment issues. I think he clearly demonstrates that when he says it's nice for a 27-yr-old to hop into bed with his parents, and also when he put your photo as his phone background after a week. Also- wanting to know what you looked like as a child in order to see what your CHILDREN would look like? Talking about potential children before even meeting someone face-to-face is suspiciously hasty, for sure. Dude doesn't have a good concept of personal boundaries, in my opinion, whether it's the boundary between child and parent or the boundary of the self-as-child and self-as-adult.

Genuinely creepy or just awkward, either way, he sets off your creep-detector, which means that it probably won't work out well.

 

[iambren]

A little uninhibited, not creepy, doesn't seem pervy to me; maybe a little eccentric. I can see myself as saying a lot of that stuff and I'm not a perve.

 

[The Nihilist]

... and I'm not a perve.

Well, before the other half of that sentence, I might have agreed with you

 

[Johnnz]

Lots more time and some caution would be prudent I suggest.

John
NZ

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I'll go quote by quote...

So i met someone on a dating site, talked online for 5 months but i decided he was too weird/creepy.
Anyway, he said some things, mostly about kids that set alarm bells off in my head. I don't know if he was intending for it to come over as pervy or not. An example of the things he said... we were talking about disney films, and he said he had always dreamt of having a little daughter running around in a Tinkerbell dress, and he hopes one day that comes true. He then said, "as Disney would say, always believe in your dreams." He also said he hopes he has a daughter with long hair and asked me if my hair was long because he liked long hair.

Not creepy necessarily, until he mentions the "disney quote" and you with long hair. That made it creepy.

He said when he was looking after kids at the daycare at church," When I take the boys (normally 10 of them) to the toilet half way through the morning it is always a hectic experience lol, trying to get that many boys to wash their hands is virtually impossible lol".

Not necessarily creepy...

He said he thought it was really nice that someone he knew (27) still jumped into bed with his parents to open his stocking on christmas morning and he hopes that he will be that close with his kids and they do that when they are of similar age.

CREEPY!!!!!!

He also wanted a photo of me to put in his wallet after we had only been talking for a week or two. He even saved my picture on facebook onto his phone background without even asking.

creepy

He also said: for some reason the boys all like to bundle me when we sit down for story time lol
and two of them like to hug me every 2 minutes lol ( he volunteers in a daycare/creche at church). one Sunday one little boy came and sat on my lap
while we had a video on, after a few minutes he turned around and out of the blue said 'I really like you' it was so cute lol

Questionable, depending on what it means to "bundle me". Sounds a little creepy....

Do you have any pictures you could load up of you when you were little, or just younger than you are now so I can see what our children may be like. I will try and find some of me as well."

Bizarre, strange. Just the way the question is worded kind of gives me the willies, but then again that doesn't necessarily mean anything besides my own opinion.

and this


"I can't wait to finally meet up with you! I keep looking at your pictures and think how pretty you are but I'm sure they don't do you justice, particularly the latest ones, as they are quite dark. It would be great if you had one that wasn't as dark so I could print it off and put in my wallet! How recent is your fourth picture, the one of you in the green top and black jacket?"

Not necessarily creepy, just weird.

So am i overreacting or was i right to let him go? What do you make of all of this?

He seems like a really weird guy, and fairly creepy. Only you know if you did the right thing, but to my instincts, he seems a little out there, and if I'm getting an accurate view of this guy by your descriptions of his actions, then he's somewhat creepy.

 

[BleedingHeart]

My dad says that whenever someone gives you want those "vibes" (Stephen King calls them "telephone calls from nowhere"), to just seek someone else. He would often back away from women who gave them the vibes without any real evidence of something being wrong but I think there's something wrong with this guy. Like everyone said he's way too quick on the draw talking about kids.
Though not necessarily with taking a photo of someone's Facebook page with your phone. I do that and it's more a horny male thing.

 

[xDenax]

asking for a photo after a week sounds creepy.