Wanted to Wait to Do Everything But Things Happened Now What?

[Nataly87]

Ever since I was little I was told wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse, and I assumed that meant everything, first kiss, hand jobs, digital stimulation of the vagina, digital penetration of the vagina, oral sex, anal sex, among other acts. All had to be wait until you were married. I wanted to save myself keeping myself 100% pure to do some of these things for marriage.

But of course, things happened here and there and I have done stuff all but sexual intercourse. I am still saving myself to do that, when I am married. But now that I am single again, and going to be dating, I am already having guys ask me, what have I done, and when can we do this or that etc.

Part of me, even though I have done some of these acts in my past, I wanted to save myself doing anything again until marriage. But then in today's society a lot of people do, these things when in a relationship, or even have sexual intercourse in that relationship as well.

So I am not so sure as to what to do. Or when I should do those sex acts either. Its like if I started dating someone tonight, should we start doing these sexual acts tonight? Or on the 2nd date, or 3rd date or a month later or what?

What do you think?

 

[Peace Keeper]

I will warn you that sometimes when people are seeking for sexual pleasure they don't care about the relationship, this isn't always the case, but they can use people (girls usually, but guys can be used as well) just for that persons pleasure and then just move on to the next person. I'm not sure where you stand, but marriage should come first before sexual intercourse and even the other things because that can lead quickly to sexual intercourse if not careful. The more we act upon the sexual desire the more we become addicted to it, and personally I believe the more we feel like a prisoner to it and become disgusted with our selves. To stay pure means to stay pure not only with our body but with our mind as well, it is sometimes harder to stay pure in our mind. The reason for us to stay pure or strive to stay pure in our minds is because usually what we focus on and think on, we will end up doing.