vow renewal

[mina]

If you are married or single; is that something you would ever consider doing in the future? or is it something you have done in your marriage?

 

[Verve]

I don't know if I'd do a vow renewal.
I know I would have an anniversary party.

 

[Thunder Peel]

I feel like vows are extremely important and they're the kind of thing I would really only want to make once. I could see doing something special for anniversaries though.

 

[Socktastic]

My eyes spotted "Star Trek" and the vote went there.
But as a slightly more serious answer: I'm not sure if i'd actually go ahead with a genuine vow renewal, maybe if we make it to an impressive number of years together and then not so much a renewal as one of those "30 years together and I still wouldn't exchange you for a younger model" type parties.

 

[mina]

Your vows would have to be spoken in klingon!


I don't see anything wrong with them and I certainly don't think couples that choose to have a vow renewal diminish any importance on their marriage or vows. As to if I would do it or not; I guess it depends on if we felt a need to reaffirm ourselves to one another. It would likely be very small, perhaps just us and a minister and an important aniversary, 25th or so. As it is we already said our vows twice.
One of my mother's friends did this on her 25th anniversary. She wore the same dress she was married in the first time! It was tiny and so was she and she fit in it again! I always thought that was cool

 

[manillabar]

I think it's something I might like to do... for one of those special anniversaries. I don't think it takes away from the vows. I don't think it's necessary, either, but I think it can be sweet

one of those "30 years together and I still wouldn't exchange you for a younger model" type parties.

^something like that!

I think also some people do it if they wanted a big wedding but couldn't afford one when they got married (plus this time the kids can join in!)

 

[Inkachu]

Absolutely. It doesn't mean that you weren't serious the first time around, it's a way to remind yourselves of your commitment, and to keep those promises fresh and new in your minds. And it's just plain romantic

 

[Tink]

I put yes...also because of Star Trek.

I think I would, possibly, but it would be a while down the road. Not at 5 or 10 years. If you've forgotten after that short amount of time...you've got issues.

 

[Toro]

I would say yes, but not the startrek.

A short time later no, but as the years passed and we got older I would want to show her that she is STILL the woman that means the world to me, as I am a man and likely over the years I would have stopped doing the little things (as much as I would try not to) and to show that I still hold the vows as sacred as day one.

 

[Woven]

Nope, definitely only once. I like the idea of getting flowers and having romantic dinners etc. but I'm not a super romantic person. For me, it wouldn't be worth the stress of arranging.

 

[Socktastic]

Klingon? Sweet. Just need to learn it and work on my pronunciation.

On the list it goes.

 

[Aino]

No star trek please but yes to vow renewals. My aunt and uncle just did it recently for their 25th anniversary, because apparently they had wanted to "get married again" a couple of times already... And a lot of other people I know who've been married for quite long have said that so maybe it'll work that way for us as well, who knows. Before I got married I would never have considered it but hey, now that I am I actually hope we'll want to remind ourselves of our wedding day decades after the marriage itself. I probably wouldn't anything big but rather something nice and simple with closer family and friends and a pastor of course. Maybe the same place we got married in - it's gorgeous - and nice food and such.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

I feel like vows are extremely important and they're the kind of thing I would really only want to make once. I could see doing something special for anniversaries though.

I agree. I kind of like the idea of saying the vows over and adding "And I still do to this day" or something .Where you aren't renewing them as if they expired (lol) but you're just reinforcing the fact that you have stuck by those vows and they mean everything to you just like your spouse.

Does that make sense?


Edited to add: Anniversary party is a must!

 

[Wren]

I'd like to, but voted "no" because Puffca is against them. Since we had such a small wedding and most of my family couldn't attend, I'd like the idea of a vow renewal at the 20/25th wedding anniversary, but we'll just have a party instead.

 

[Inkachu]

Jennie - exactly! Don's "proposed" to me several times (in a non-serious way), just because we both get a thrill out of hearing the words, and hearing the answer again. Not because we didn't mean it the first time, or because either of us need to be reminded that we're getting married (lol). But because it just feels awesome.

I doubt people would say that the phrase "I love you" only needs to be said once every 20 or 30 years. Saying that is a vow and a promise, too. But we say it to the people we love all the time. Why? Not because we think they forgot we love them, but because every time we say it, we're solidifying the foundation of that relationship a little bit more each time. It makes us feel good to say it, it makes them feel good to hear it, it's a win-win

 

[LadyOfMystery]

Jennie - exactly! Don's "proposed" to me several times (in a non-serious way), just because we both get a thrill out of hearing the words, and hearing the answer again. Not because we didn't mean it the first time, or because either of us need to be reminded that we're getting married (lol). But because it just feels awesome.

I doubt people would say that the phrase "I love you" only needs to be said once every 20 or 30 years. Saying that is a vow and a promise, too. But we say it to the people we love all the time. Why? Not because we think they forgot we love them, but because every time we say it, we're solidifying the foundation of that relationship a little bit more each time. It makes us feel good to say it, it makes them feel good to hear it, it's a win-win

Yup! Couldn't agree more

 

[explodingboy]

As a second service.. unlikely, not a fan of being the centre of attention, the wedding will be a grim enough experience.

As to vow renewal, I'd consider it something to do every morning even if I'm only going over them in my own head.

 

[Nienna_Lady_of_Tears]

I don't know whether I'd call it a vow renewal or what. We got married in a civil ceremony since we were homeless and my family wouldn't attend anyway and his was across the country and wouldn't have had the money to fly out to California. But nine months later, in a better situation we had a public affirmation of our vows (some called it a vow renewal.) It was a special day for us, not only because we had friends present but because we had planned it for six years to the day we started dating, which also fell on the same day of the week.

 

[incor]

not the saying of the vow, KEEPING of the vow.

 

[Nekoda]

The whole idea of "renewing" a vow suggests that the strength and commitment spoken in the first vow is waning or in need of maintenance.

Seems like a ridiculous thing to do for people who are already living out that vow every day.

When did this practice start? No, I wouldn't do it.