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Lisa Bevere has a good book about it. When you think you're the victim, it's everyone else's fault and every once in a while you have a pity party. When you react bad, it's because you're a victim of circumstances, angry bosses, a spouse, your parents who didn't raise you good etc. or your hormones. For every anger or wrong behaviour you have is an explanation, so you don't see that it's how you wrongly reacted on things instead of what they've done to you. Once you see that you can ask God forgiveness and grow.
Not only is it victim-mentality thinking & bitterness, but it's also incredibly egotistical.
