Very, very scared - please help

[SarahBrownOwl]

I found out I was pregnant this morning and although we want this baby hugely, I am terrified. I have ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, the house is only a quarter finished (we weren't planning this for another year or so) and we'll be so broke I don't know how we're going to manage. I'm really worried, which is not a good way to go into pregnancy. I haven't even started with symptoms yet, but when they start that'll just be the icing on the cake. Please help me get through this! I need to feel positive about this.

Sarah

 

[Cright]

The first thing you should know is that while symptoms are common... not everyone has them. My aunt went through her pregnancy without ONE day of neasuea, vomiting, or anything.

Of course in her 3rd trimester she did get tired more quickly, her stomach stuck out and she got a little clumsy.

Pray 1st of all for a healthy pregnancy to bring your baby blessing into your lives.

As for the house, I'm in a similar situation as you are... we changed our priorities. We can't get the re-finnishing of our floors done, but we pulled up the tackless stripping and cleaned them VERY well. They don't look too bad... and they are now baby proof. So we had to take some short cuts.

Instead of replacing our tub and surround, we just changed out the hardware for the faucet and repaired the copper plumbing behind it so there are no drips and no damage will be caused.

3rd... remember for thousands of years (up until about 100 years ago), people had outdoor plumbing and no electricity. Your baby doesn't need a beautiful finnished home, or a big one at that. Baby just needs you and a roof over his head.

So it will be alright... just work on geting the danger elements out of your living/sleeping space.. and you'll do just fine.

If your working, just continue through your pregnancy, and rely on God to get you through your maternity leave. If your not working, maybe you can pick up a part time job to help you through the next several months of saving and getting the house in order.

All in all when it comes down to it, God is in control. If you are worrying (not just being cautious and careful) than your not trusting him to carry you through. Read the bible and look for his promises.

Congratulations on your new bundle that will be awating you in 2007!

Carina

 

[Singin4Him]

Please remember that babies are a blessing from the Lord, the Lord would not bless you if he did not think you could handle it. Let Him be your provider, trust in Him for that.

As Cright said not everyone has pregnancy symptoms, I personally had no morning sickness whatsoever. In fact for the most part I felt great and into my second trimester I'm feeling even better! My mom has Chronic Fatigue and she had not only me but my brothers who are twins and she did fine. I was only 2 when my brothers came along and my mom did it mostly by herself at that time because my dad worked a lot of hours. You can get through it just talk with your OB about how to handle your Chronic Fatigue during pregnancy, I'm sure there are things are many things you can do help you out during pregnancy. I think everyone is a little scared and nervous when they first find out they are pregnant but remember God is in control!

 

[katelyn]

I think finding out your pregnant with your first child is always overwhelming, even if you were actively trying to get pregnant! It's such a big change and you don't really know what to expect. For now just take things one day at a time, try to take it easy, especially in your first trimester. If you start feeling overwhelmed and like you need to be doing more, just remember that a time will come for that - now is a time to take care of yourself! Don't be afraid to ask friends and family for help if they're around to provide it. And do whatever will help you get excited about this pregnancy - buy a book of baby names, sign up on BabyCenter.com for weekly updates about your baby's development, get a bottle of baby lotion and when you smell it, imagine your baby. Great aromatherapy!

 

[Naomi4Christ]

Congratulations, Sarah

You aren't doing this alone. God is always with you

 

[Linnis]

You'll be okay, the Lord always provides for his children.

As for your CFS, I have chronic pain along with arthritis and fibromyalgia. Some days are harder than others but with a lot of prayer I make it through. I'm sure once you meet your OB and or midwife they'll do their best to help you control your condition.

Congrats!

 

[RoseofLima]

Put the Lord first-and HE will direct your paths-- I have learned that God will provide (not always without hardship, or struggle--but HE does provide).

I am pregnant with our 5th child....my husband nearly left me for another woman (half his age) earlier this year, he makes under 30,000 a year, we live in a 2 bedroom/1 bathroom house, I lost my little job that I had to make ends meet....I absolutely positively did NOT want to be pregnant right now...but God in His wisdom decided otherwise. WHen I grow fearful...I just try to think about that again and agian.

God's wisdom so incredibly surpasses my own....I just try to remember that His will is perfect, I just need to pray for trust...

ANd --CONGRATULATIONS!!!! What a wonderful blessing!

 

[SarahBrownOwl]

You're right about trusting in God - it still takes some getting used to as I spent so many years not really letting Him in to my life.
Thank you all for your suggestions - I like the one about the baby oil and I am about to go try BabyCentre. We have also named the bump as my friend said it helps you connect - it's called Aslan!
I cried when the test came up with two little lines but I'm adjusting - I wish I'd been able to stay home and be with my husband Peter today, but we both had to go to work.
I'm not sure how many people to tell yet - part of me wants to shout it from the rooftops! But it's really early days. My family says I should wait.

Feeling a little calmer now,
Sarah

 

[Cright]

glad that you are feeling better!

Take it a day at a time... I'd make sure you and hubby are used to being prego and sharing in this together before spreading word too much.

Ask him what he thinks, John and I waited a few weeks before telling anyone to just share the excitment and bond a little.

Next time we are thinking of waiting even longer... who knows!

You'll find a good support system in this forum, so go ahead and post when you need to, it'll help you feel better


Carina

 

[~Nikki~]

In 1 Peter it says to cast all your burdens on the Lord for He cares for you.

And in Phillipians it says in everything in prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God. And the peace of God which passes all understanding willl guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Here's a hug for you...

Trust in God and He'll see you through.

God bless...

 

[SusieQ84]

I found out I was pregnant this morning and although we want this baby hugely, I am terrified. I have ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, the house is only a quarter finished (we weren't planning this for another year or so) and we'll be so broke I don't know how we're going to manage. I'm really worried, which is not a good way to go into pregnancy. I haven't even started with symptoms yet, but when they start that'll just be the icing on the cake. Please help me get through this! I need to feel positive about this.

Sarah

Hang in there, if you want this baby and love this baby things will work out! I'm a 21-year-old single mom, and so I know about tough times and poor finances....get some support from your friends and famil, have a baby shower, believe me those help when it comes to finances! Breastfeed instead of formula feed, that can end up saving you a thousand dollars or more in the long run. Eat crackers in the morning when you wake up, and try to eat six small meals a day to avoid morning sickness. It will be fine, relax...babies are a lot of work, yes, but you're gonna love this little one.

 

[jgonz]

G-d is the giver of Life, so HE gave you this child, at this point in time, for a Reason. Rest in Him!

 

[Marionette]

Like everyone says, hang in there! I'm also pregnant with my first and believe me, it scared me to death to read 'pregnant' on my test. (I nearly fell over in the bathroom, literally) I've found having this group of ladies to be a big comfort. We're here to cheer you on!