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very confused (up date)

grafton25

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Hi everyone. I wanted to give everyone an update on what has been happening since December.

As of 2 weeks ago I am divorced. I stopped fighting to get my ex back and signed the papers. He had been going with me to therapy with the pastor at our church up until that point. He kept telling me that once the divorce was final it would be easier for us to work on things and spend time with each other. Well that is not the case. A few days after signing the papers he said he no longer wants any contact with me and he needs time to be alone and figure things out.

At first this really upset me. I was very anger with myself for thinking that he really meant the things he was saying. I really thought he would give us a chance after the divorce.

I am still angry with his relationship with his children. He only sees them every other weekend. He is welcome to see them any time he would like. He says he is too busy with week to see them during the week.

I have taken the past 2 weeks to reflect on everything that has happened to myself and my family since my ex decided to leave us in July. I am blessed to be back in our church. I am blessed with wonderful friends. And God blessed me with a full time job a week before my divorce become final! My children have great friends and or very involved in our church. They miss their dad but or otherwise very happy children.

I didn't want this divorce and still hope that someday my ex will wake up and come back to us. If he never comes back I will have to learn to live with that and move on in time. I hope and prayer that he will at least one day be able to communicate with me again for the sake of our children.