Venting re:family stuff

[Heart of a Seeker]

Ok, I have a 29 year old daughter who is married with two kids. She and I are so different - I love her with all my heart, but she can drive me nuts. Like today, my grands stayed overnight so I could get them to church. My daughter was raised in church, but she really always has people issues and ends up leaving for one reason or another. I want to help her, but I don't know how. She clings to me as her only friend, and, to be honest, it is very hard. I'm social and outgoing and have a hard time understanding why she can't get off her butt and make some friends.
Also, I'm the 'nice' one who doesn't like to rock the boat and she's the 'in your face, bite me' type. My confrontations with her are difficult - and I'm feeling the Lord really wants me to confront her with the above issues. I have a couple of times and she ends up yelling at me and being very angry.
Any suggestions and ALL prayers would be so much appreciated!!!

 

[MN John]

Prayers !

Suggestions I'll leave to those who know more.

 

[Heart of a Seeker]

Prayers are the best. I appreciate that so much.

But, MN John, SNOWFLAKES??? (on your CF char.)

 

[MN John]

Prayers are the best. I appreciate that so much.

But, MN John, SNOWFLAKES??? (on your CF char.)

What? It's not snowing in your part of town?

 

[MMXII]

Ah Mom, I know it's hard. I have 2 daughters 22 and 19, they both are still home with me. I think I'm my oldest daughters best friend too. Some days I don't mind but good grief, I would like to do some things on my own.

I don't know how to help you but I'll sure pray.

 

[dhuisjen2]

As long as the idea here is venting, divorced moms who feel that your semi-adult children are too close, COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS! I have two sons (14 and 17) who I just regained legal custody of this year (due to their mother's mental incapacity) but they are still in residence at their maternal grandmother's house. I have a strong feeling that this lady has done everything in her power to steal their childhoods from me, and I am in constant stress from the current situation. But I don't want to tear at my sons by insisting that they come to live with me, change schools and all the rest.

If only my problems were my children being too close to me!

I do, however, have strong open communication with my sons, there is much to be proud of in both of them and they are both strong believers in the Lord. Just keep us in prayer.

 

[Heart of a Seeker]

Ah Mom, I know it's hard. I have 2 daughters 22 and 19, they both are still home with me. I think I'm my oldest daughters best friend too. Some days I don't mind but good grief, I would like to do some things on my own.

I don't know how to help you but I'll sure pray.

I am superly blessed to find someone who knows what I mean!!! That's exactly how I feel - I want to do some things on my own. I know that God is ultimately in control - I just wish He'd try things my way once in a while!!!

 

[MN John]

I know that God is ultimately in control - I just wish He'd try things my way once in a while!!!

That's so true!

 

[edie19]

My son (25 in ~10 days) is making me crazy too, so I can empathize.

I've found that my adult children make me doubt my parenting much more than they ever did as children/adolescents.

edie

 

[Heart of a Seeker]

My son (25 in ~10 days) is making me crazy too, so I can empathize.

I've found that my adult children make me doubt my parenting much more than they ever did as children/adolescents.

edie

Boy do I hear you on that. I thought I was doing such a good job as a parent. I was trying so hard. I thought I was helping them become independent adults. I think I didn't realize that I would be 'parenting' until I die...