Vacation

[eatenbylocusts]

First my bf asked me if I wanted to go to Yosemite this summer. He was actually thinking that I would go with him alone and leave my kids with my mom. I told him I had never taken a vacation alone with a man except for my ex-h and honestly this is something I've never had to consider. Then he asked me if I wanted to take the kids and I'd be fine with that.

There is a weekend business trip coming up this summer in another state and he has asked me if I want to go. I brought up the same issue and he is surprised that a 39 yr. old would have a problem with it. I'm not concerned about the sex issue because we're already spending time alone at his apartment (I tell my friends not to do this) and despite the temptation I will not have sex with him until we're married and he knows that. My concern is how it looks for the two of us to be sharing a room. Even at my age, I don't know how my mom would react to my request for her to babysit my kids while I went away for the weekend with him.

 

[Mskedi]

First off, Yosemite is beautiful and you should never miss an opportunity to go there.

Second, if you and he both know that you're not going to do anything, then I don't see how that's anyone else's business, so honestly, I'd be as surprised as he is by your reaction to his invitations.

 

[bumblebee62331]

I understand what you mean. Even if you say "We're not doing anything", a few people will still not believe you. I've been there. I went on a little holiday with my partner and although we told my parents that we weren't doing it (and we definitely were not!) my parents still labelled it a 'dirty weekend', which offended us so much.

So it's up to you. I'm not familiar with Yosemite (but it reminds me of Vegemite ) but if it's beautiful, you should go. Don't miss out on an opportunity to go away and have a nice break, because you are worried what others might think. They are going to get the wrong end of the stick so many times in your life. As long as you know that you are doing the right thing, it's between you, your partner and God. It has nothing to do with other people.

Ultimately it's your choice.

 

[Arclight610]

Since your convinced that your not going to do anything... go out and have a blast! Everyone needs some healthy fun in thier lives and no better way to spend it than with a person you like/love and out in nature.

 

[Catholic Wife]

My husband and I had this same issue before we got married. Basically, we wanted to make sure we were setting a good example for our nieces and nephews (and future children). But, we also agreed that we are adults who were committed to remaining celibate until marriage, so we didn't have a problem with vacationing together - especially since we got rooms with two beds.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Gee whiz. Maybe I really am the prude he says I am. lol. I'm just really not looking forward to telling my mom about this and I can't help but wonder what my aunt would say.

 

[Maeyken]

I wouldn't be comfortable sharing a room either. If we had separate rooms I'd be ok with it though. Also, if you're going to Yosemite, does that mean you're camping? If you had separate tents I think that would be ok, but I wouldn't be comfortable sharing a tent. I dunno, I guess I like my own space!

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I wouldn't be comfortable sharing a room either. If we had separate rooms I'd be ok with it though. Also, if you're going to Yosemite, does that mean you're camping? If you had separate tents I think that would be ok, but I wouldn't be comfortable sharing a tent. I dunno, I guess I like my own space!

If we go to Yosemite it will be with my kids so they will be my chaperones. He's wanting to take me for a weekend business trip this summer to another state by ourselves.